Northeasters often say, "You can't eat four dishes in your life." What does that mean?

In fact, the "four dishes" mentioned here do not really refer to the meals on the table at ordinary times, but to a person's ability and career. If a person tells others that "you can't eat four dishes in this life", then this person will have a self-righteous sense of superiority in front of others, and his words are full of irony and contempt. He despises others from the bottom of his heart and thinks that others have no future in this life and are losers.

This sentence is particularly popular in the north, especially in the northeast, which is equivalent to a local language. Why does this sentence appear? This should also start from the standard of our usual meals. Take the north as an example. When eating, it is usually four dishes and one soup, including one big meat and one small meat and two vegetarian dishes. This food standard is not affordable for everyone. Because everyone's economic level is different, some people live in poverty all the year round and don't worry about food and clothing. They want to spend every penny as two cents. It is impossible for such people to spend a lot of money on meals, let alone have four dishes for every meal. It's good to have meat dishes. Only the rich and powerful can afford it. Over time, the four dishes have become symbols of rich, powerful and successful people.

In rural areas and even between cities, there are some snobs who look down on others. When they see people poorer than themselves, they often have a sense of superiority, despise others from the bottom of their hearts, and reveal sarcasm and ridicule in their words. When talking with others, if you talk about topics that are beneficial to you, you will say "you can't afford to eat four dishes in your life" in order to suppress others, which will make others' faces hang up.

In fact, there is really no need to say such hurtful things. If a person is poor and fails again, as long as others are willing to work hard and make progress, they will eventually make a difference. As the old saying goes, "Thirty years in Hedong, thirty years in Hexi", people can't be poor for a lifetime, nor can they be rich for a lifetime. No one knows who will continue to develop and prosper in the future. What do you think if others beat you through their own efforts and then tell you that "you can't afford four dishes in your life"? Will there be a feeling of inferiority and disgust? So don't show off your temporary success, let alone sneer and look down on others, but respect others from the heart. If you can't help each other, don't hurt people. Besides, it's their business for others to fail again, no matter how poor they are, and they won't ask you for help, let alone get you into trouble. There's no need to say that.

The most important thing for people to get along with each other is equality and respect. There is no distinction between high and low, and others can't measure it with money and material things. This is also the minimum principle of being a man. If a person doesn't even have the most basic morality and principles, then even if he has more money, he is a loser and a spiritual poor. This kind of person will not have intimate friends in reality, but more fair-weather friends. When there are problems and poverty in the future.

In short, we should reflect on some principles of being a man from this sentence that Northeasters love to say, and we must not use this sentence to suppress and ridicule others to set off our "height", otherwise we will be looked down upon in the end.