I feel that my boss is unfair and want to talk about it on qq.

if a leader can't treat his subordinates equally and make them feel obviously unequal, such a leader can't be competent anyway. It doesn't matter, such a leader, you have a great chance to replace it. Put up with it for a few years. Just think of it as your boss's experience, and don't complain about anyone! That will cost you your ideal job!

There is unfairness everywhere. Just adjust your mentality.

The negative effect of unfairness is very obvious. It not only suppresses a person's healthy and upward good mood, but also affects his intelligence and creativity. Although Xiaomei works very hard, she is not as valued as those who are inferior to her, but can get along well with her boss. She feels that she has not been treated fairly and is troubled. In fact, I think most people have experienced this trouble of Xiaomei. It is not terrible to have trouble. The key is to find ways to eliminate it in order to balance their mentality. From a psychological point of view, we might as well treat our own experiences from the following aspects.

first, there is no need to be fair in everything. One of the reasons why people are often hurt is that everything should be fair. In fact, it is right to fight for fairness as an ideal, but it is wrong to regard fairness as the necessity of reality. Because there is no absolute fairness in the world. So we can't measure everything with a fair ruler, or we will have a hard time with ourselves. As long as we look down on some unfair things and be calm about the results, everything will be natural.

second, try to be fair through your own hard work. For example, some people think that as long as they work hard and get good grades, they should be praised and favored by their superiors, while taking the initiative to make good relations with their superiors is mistaken for flattery. In fact, the boss is also a person, and everyone needs to be respected and affirmed by others. In fact, some seemingly unfair things are caused by many immature and unwise ideas and words and deeds.

Third, change the subjective feeling of "unfair" events. Unfair is a subjective feeling after social comparison. As long as we change the object and standard of comparison, we can also eliminate the unfair feeling psychologically. For example, I feel unfair that I didn't evaluate advanced workers this time. If you look at it from another angle, think that the number of places for selecting advanced workers is limited, and many people who are as good as or even better than themselves have not been evaluated. Maybe you will be psychologically balanced after thinking like this.