Are grandsons and grandsons just different?

Of course, grandsons are different from grandsons. Grandsons are family members. Grandsons are people with foreign surnames. You don't need to read Chinese. Anyone who adds foreign characters is not family members, such as grandfathers, grandmothers, grandsons and nephews. The beauty of Chinese characters in China is that it is clear at a glance that grandsons are the roots of the family and grandsons are the seedlings of others. Cousins are three thousand miles away and cousins are five hundred years old. It is clear at a glance. Do you still need to interpret it? You will know which kiss when you go to the grave! There is a world of difference between the table and the hall, and there is no need to compare grandchildren, which is not an equal level.

how can grandchildren be the same?

Grandson is your own blood, so it's not true that you can inherit the throne. At the very least, with a son/grandson, countless others will not come to eat when you are dying in the future. With children and grandchildren, when you kick your legs and close your eyes in the future, those broken homes and businesses at home will not be missed by outsiders. With children and grandchildren, after several years and generations, he will still have his own brothers, uncles, cousins and clansmen. They will go to the grave together, sweep the grave, offer sacrifices and cherish the memory ...

What about the grandson?

There is a saying in the countryside: Grandsons (nephews) are unfamiliar dogs. Go when you are full.

Grandson, he has his own parents/family, and his own social circle/life circle. The reason why he has contact with his grandparents is only because he "hung his tail" with his mother when he was a child. When he is older, the center of gravity will naturally return to his own ethnic group. Feelings, naturally, "distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors, and close neighbors are not as good as next door."

Besides, grandson is not a surname at all. Before he was ten years old, he was good to you, because he was not sensible and followed his mother. Before the age of 3, I can still be good to you, which may be because he is too "smart" (understandable but unspeakable); After forty and fifty years old, I can still be good to you, which can only be said to be just a feeling.

Your grandchildren will probably not be "brothers" with your grandchildren, even if they are "brothers" themselves. When these iconic figures, such as grandparents, uncles, aunts, fathers and mothers, die, they will become strangers, and then they will be close at hand-no matter how good their relatives are, they will wake up without trace.

I thought it was all the same. But after some events, my opinion changed.

My brother was brought up by my grandmother, who dotes on him and treats him as a treasure. When my mother didn't have milk when she was a child, my grandparents raised a sheep and milked it for him every day. My brother stayed with his grandparents until he was six years old, and was taken home by his parents when he was studying.

Mother and Grandpa's family don't get along well, and there are constant contradictions. Grandpa, aunt and uncles all hate us. Growing up, I never felt that I was a close relative of their family.

when we grow up, my grandparents died and my brother didn't come back from other places. My mother was unhappy in her heart. She wiped her tears and called my brother heartless, baiwenhang, and grandma hurt him in vain.

but for grandpa, my brother always pays New Year greetings to grandpa with his father every year. Grandpa died, my brother was at home, and Pima Dai Xiao gave him a funeral.

Whenever Tomb-Sweeping Day and Chinese New Year, as long as my brother is at home, no matter how bad the weather is, my brother will visit his grandparents and ancestors with the same surname. But he seldom or hardly went to the grave to burn paper for his grandparents.

My mother always says: When you see grandpa's grave, go up and burn paper; When you see grandpa's grave, point your finger.

This is a realistic problem. Anyone who says the same thing will definitely have no sons and grandchildren.

to be honest, grandchildren are really different from grandchildren!

Every country has its own traditions. According to China's traditional idea, a grandson belongs to his own family, while a grandson is a person with a foreign surname, not to mention a grandson, even a son-in-law. Have you ever seen a father-in-law who is called a son-in-law?

Before the liberation of China, women married with their husbands' surnames. Nowadays, Chinese in Hongkong and Singapore continue the tradition of China.

In fact, a grandson is a grandson to you, but to the other side, he is also a grandson. Don't emphasize so many objective reasons. The status of a grandson is always higher than that of a grandson. Although ordinary families pay little attention to this aspect, look at those rich and powerful people. Do any of them leave their property to their grandchildren?

There is a folk saying: Grandson Dog Grandson Dog, he will leave when he is full! Grandson is a "foreign" surname, a layer worse than grandson! Only those who have no sons will say that grandchildren are the same. In fact, they are far from it!

personally, it's just different. My grandson bought a gift to see me the first time he earned money as an intern in a technical school. I paid more for my grandson than my grandson. He worked for more than 3, years every month and never bought anything for me.

Different families may have different feelings. According to my own experience and life, grandchildren and grandchildren are just different.

a few years ago, my sister and I both worked outside the home, and because of work, children couldn't take them with them. My sister's parents-in-law passed away early, so my nephew was put in foster care in my house and was taken care of by my parents with my son. Because my son is a little older than my nephew, he usually gives priority to my nephew when he has good food, good clothes and fun. The old man always thinks that the big one should be humble and small. In this way, they grew up under the care of my parents from childhood until they graduated from junior high school, and now they are all married.

Last year, my dad was seriously ill, and my son took out all his savings to see my dad. My son and daughter-in-law stayed with my dad day and night to take good care of him, and they felt very deep affection for my dad, because he was brought up by my parents. My nephew only went to the hospital to see my dad once, and then went to see my dad again during the Spring Festival, and then he didn't go to see him or make a phone call, let alone take money to see my dad. That's the difference between two people brought up together.

therefore, grandchildren are different from grandchildren. Old people treat them the same, but they don't necessarily treat them the same.

I think so. One is that the grandson is the son of his son, and the grandson is the son of his daughter. Both of them have grandfather's genetic genes, and blood is thicker than water. Another from the perspective of inheritance law, grandchildren and grandchildren enjoy the same subrogation right in special circumstances.

If it's different, grandchildren are important, that's the so-called old feudal tradition. I don't agree.

When I was young, my aunt's children and I were two years apart. At that time, I remember that when I was playing with my cousin, if I was vulnerable and was crushed under my body by my cousin, I would shout loudly for my grandfather. Look, when my grandfather heard me, he immediately ran over, and then he pushed my cousin under my body when he pretended to be pulling a leg. At that time, I began to counterattack, pressing my cousin under my body and asking my cousin whether he was convinced or not. My grandfather squinted at us and laughed. In fact, I knew in my heart that it was my grandfather who was towards me, like an old child. He only had grandchildren in his heart, but he always said that his grandchild was a grandmother's dog and left after eating.

I still remember the past when I was a child. At that time, if Grandpa bought a big apple, he had to open it in half. In this area, my cousin and I were half-open. When my cousin finished eating and went to bed at noon, grandpa would secretly wake me up, and the half of the apples would be all mine. You said it depends on our grandpa's attitude towards the two of us, and you should be able to tell if grandchildren are the same.

first, from the blood relationship, the grandson is the son's child, and the grandson is born to the daughter. They are all their own grandchildren, and there is no difference. Second, from the traditional point of view, grandchildren have the same surname. In the future, it is more important than grandchildren to arrange their names according to genealogy and word generation and continue the incense. Literally, grandpa and grandma belong to consorts, and grandfather and grandson are grandparents with the same surname. It is also inevitable to be closer to their grandchildren from the bottom of their hearts.

After giving birth to a child, my husband's sister suddenly seldom goes back to her mother's house, not because she has no time or anything else. I think "separated parents" really don't understand. Before my husband and I got married, he was basically what many people called "Ma Bao", and he didn't have to do anything at home, let alone wash dishes and cook. I think there are two reasons for this.

the first one is that she has a good sister, who can be regarded as a good daughter who is "hardworking and housekeeping". In the words of her mother-in-law, a daughter should do more housework in order to find a good husband's family. In this way, the elder sister didn't get married until she was 3 years old. Before she got married, I didn't see her wear decent clothes several times, and she was busy like a servant in a chicken smock all day. Naturally, I enjoyed it for several years.

The second is because of his mother, who can be regarded as a good housewife. In his mother's words, a loving mother loses more children, but this view changed when I became a daughter-in-law and gave birth to a child.

why do you say she has changed?

because my son, my mother-in-law's grandson and my eldest sister's daughter don't deal with it, that is, the problem between grandchildren mentioned by the topic.

Explanation: The content of this article comes from my cousin's gossip during the Spring Festival. For the convenience of narration, I will answer it in the first person.

when I was pregnant at home that year, my mother-in-law asked my elder sister to take care of me at home. It was also during this period that I had a very good relationship with my elder sister. She either cooked this soup or that soup, and asked her husband to decorate the room and change the windows to facilitate my confinement. My mother-in-law just walked around with a teacup all day and only went home after dinner. At that time, I felt like I had no mother-in-law.

after the baby was born, my mother-in-law was very happy and didn't go out. She went in and out of my room and had a good time, but she was not happy for three days, and she began to give orders and treated her eldest sister as a servant. But then I didn't understand, and my mother-in-law made a 36-degree turn to this "picked up daughter".

after the elder sister got married and got pregnant, her mother-in-law went to her house to scout for three months, serving tea and water, washing and cooking, and my husband joked that "the queen is going to change the weather". My mother-in-law said, "I'm just this daughter. Her mother-in-law is not good to her. If I don't help her again, what will she do in the future? Being a full-time wife at home takes that blessing. She only knows how to cook, and she can only work hard at home all her life. She is not like me."

for the first time, I was jealous and happy for my elder sister. However, I vaguely feel that the reason why my mother-in-law is like this is because my husband has been changed by me. My mother-in-law thinks that her son has forgotten his mother when he married his daughter-in-law, but his daughter-in-law is always an outsider, and only her daughter is willing to listen to her nagging. Later, the mother-in-law brought this psychology to her granddaughter.

Grandson is at home, and her mother-in-law is sometimes noisy, but most of them yell, and if they don't obey, they will take brooms as scouts. However, when her granddaughter is naughty, she changes her tricks, and even says that adults are wrong.

My son is four years older than his sister's daughter. Once, when two children were playing with toys, my granddaughter cried when she couldn't snatch them. My mother-in-law went over and grabbed my son's ear and said, "I told you to let my sister go", then she gave the toy to her sister, and said to her, "My brother is too bad, so grandma will take you to play."

if she wants to eat, her mother-in-law will only say to her grandson that she is looking for your father, but she is very willing to give up her granddaughter. The elder sister said, "Mother-in-law, I can't care if you spoil your sister to heaven.".

The mother-in-law retorted: You are too honest, so will your daughter.

but then a little thing happened, which made her mother-in-law cry sadly.

once, my eldest sister couldn't ask for leave at work, and it happened that her granddaughter caught a cold during the winter vacation, so she sent her mother-in-law here to take care of her for two days. I didn't think she caught a cold. Besides, she was too old, lacked energy, was in a daze, cooking and washing clothes, and was a scout child. At night, she dozed off on the sofa, and when she woke up, her mother-in-law gave her child cold medicine, but she didn't think that her mother-in-law was sleepy and burned her child to tears.

Mother-in-law was so outspoken that she lost her temper and said, I spy on your daughter like a nanny. I don't vote for your thanks or care. Why should you yell at me? It's my first time as a grandmother, too.

But my eldest sister left with her child in her arms without saying anything. My granddaughter refused to leave because she was very close to her mother-in-law. For the first time in many years, I saw this old man over 6 with red eyes. Because of this, elder sister seldom goes back to her family.

In a chat, she said, "When I was a child, my parents loved my younger brother, and I gave in to everything. I can accept being a nanny at my parents' home for 3 years and going to my in-laws' house, but what I can't accept is my closest parents, who don't regard my most precious child as the most beloved person. If they really love their children, they can't be so used to it."

I say you are satisfied. It's too late for your mother to love her granddaughter.

She retorted, "People who didn't love their daughters much when they were young, how can they always show their love for their grandchildren? They just talk about it."

However, my mother-in-law is still the same as before. She is very happy to see her granddaughter on holidays. She gives her grandson a red envelope of 5 yuan and her granddaughter a package of 1 yuan. Her truth is: girls should be able to spend money.

after reading this cousin thing, I think her elder sister really thinks too much and is wrong. It is painful and happy for old people to take care of children. For them, whether they are grandchildren or grandchildren, they are afraid of falling in their hands and being afraid of melting in their mouths, but the ways of expression are different.

Maybe many people feel that my cousin's mother-in-law prefers her granddaughter. There are several reasons for this:

First, the reasons for getting along with each other.

Although they are all blood, in the eyes of her mother-in-law, her grandson is a member of her family. She is close to herself and spends a long time together, so she can teach her more and give more. And the grandson will love twice as much because he is far away from himself.

second, the reasons for the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Many times, there is a daughter-in-law between mother-in-law and grandson, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been full of contradictions since ancient times. Although they are all "daughters", they are not always at a proper distance from their own daughters, and this distance will also be brought to the grandson. Grandchildren, on the other hand, are born to their own daughters, and they will not be angry with themselves for how they treat their daughters.

third, the blood causes.

There is a famous "grandmother hypothesis" in Finland. After 15 years of research in a community, it is found that

Grandparents take better care of their grandchildren than their grandchildren, but there is no significant difference in the care of their granddaughters.

that is to say: if you are a boy, maybe grandma will love you more; If it is a girl, there is no difference between grandma and grandma.

So there are many reasons why grandparents treat their grandchildren, but not all grandparents do, and they don't.