It’s been half a year since we broke up, and the other person wants to live in my house, what should I do?

I don’t want to talk about the truth, because it’s hard to control one’s emotions. If we can do what those principles and chicken soup say, then we are all people who can control our emotions well. Of course, you won't ask questions here.

Then let me talk about my own feelings. We both broke up half a year ago, and I mentioned it. Both parties have never deleted WeChat, and they contact me at least once or twice a month. Of course, they are not talking about getting back together. He actually called me once. Of course, it's not about us. For half a year, I was affected by her like this. Also often controlled by emotions. Some people will say, didn’t I initiate the breakup? How could this happen again? Because I was forced to break up, not because I was heartbroken, and I am a soft-hearted person who easily blames myself and feels guilty. Coupled with the lack of contact with her, I often have misconceptions about whether I have done something wrong and whether it is still possible, and I also think about ways to get back together, blah blah blah. . .

Then let me talk about my own feelings. We both broke up half a year ago, and I mentioned it. Both parties have never deleted WeChat, and they contact me at least once or twice a month. Of course, they are not talking about getting back together. He actually called me once. Of course, it's not about us. For half a year, I was affected by her like this. Also often controlled by emotions. Some people will say, didn’t I initiate the breakup? How could this happen again? Because I was forced to break up, not because I was heartbroken, and I am a soft-hearted person who easily blames myself and feels guilty. Coupled with the lack of contact with her, I often have misconceptions about whether I have done something wrong and whether it is still possible, and I also think about ways to get back together, blah blah blah. . .

I finally deleted her last month. Very peaceful. There has been no contact for nearly a month. Until last night when I drank. Because I couldn't drive, I actually thought of calling her and asking her to come over and help me drive back. There was no connection, maybe because I didn’t want to answer. Not long after, she added me on WeChat, and I actually passed. There was no communication, I just said sorry for bothering me, I was looking for her because of something. The next morning, she sent a message: Oh, I went to bed early.

I didn’t reply because I didn’t know how to reply.

I don’t know what she was thinking when she chose not to return my call that night, but chose to add it back to WeChat. After all, when we are together, it is normal not to answer the phone or reply to messages. So you know why I proposed breaking up. When you approached her about something, the other party didn't respond, and they wouldn't explain why they didn't reply afterwards. You know how disappointing you are in an intimate relationship, and you will unconsciously think that the other person doesn't care about you at all.

So the questioner, your answer and the method you want, you have to understand by yourself. Some people will say this, guess that, and advise this. But because everyone’s experience is different. You have to learn to distinguish and seek verification carefully. If it doesn't work, just talk to the other person and express your thoughts, just in case we can be together again. You can never have regrets in life. Furthermore, if the other party refuses to talk to you, or decisively says that it is impossible, then you have tried your best and are worthy of this fate. After that it's up to you to deal with your emotions. It has nothing to do with her anymore. Strengthening yourself is the most important thing!