Talking about excluded people

In this world, no one is perfect, and it is almost impossible to be perfect. Everyone looks at people and things in different ways. So I think it must be your fantasy to satisfy everyone, which will never come true.

Many people in the workplace are obsessed with the isolation of others. In fact, they often don't like what you do, but they don't like you. Even if you perform well, you may not see his satisfied eyes.

I don't know if you have a feeling that sometimes you don't like someone at first sight when you know them. From then on, no matter how hard he tries to please you, you can't be interested in this person.

Therefore, sometimes no matter how hard you try, you are disconsolate. Then ask yourself in turn, why do you have to satisfy him? Satisfying yourself is the most important thing.

If one day, when no one looks down on you, please do this: stick to being yourself and make yourself better.

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I remember a story about a father and son taking a donkey to the market. On the way, the child led the donkey and let his father sit on it.

I heard from people on the roadside how the father let a child sit on the donkey by himself. What a poor child.

After the father and son listened, they changed the child to sit on it, and the father took it. As a result, some people say that this child is really unfilial and let his father walk below.

After that, the father and son simply stopped riding the donkey, took the donkey, and then both of them walked on the ground. However, some people continue to say, you see how stupid these two people are. A donkey doesn't know how to ride.

In the end, neither father nor son knew what to do.

In fact, there is nothing wrong with this matter itself, but two people care too much about other people's comments and often ignore themselves.

I believe that even if the father and son ride on the donkey together, some people will say how these two men are so cruel to the donkey. Obviously, everyone's starting point is different, depending on their perspective on this matter.

Many people feel that whether they are good or bad can only be judged by others. Whether in life or in the workplace, there will always be people who want to know what others think of them.

When others have bad comments on you, people's habitual thinking must have done something bad to attract such comments, thus generating a strong sense of inferiority.

Next, I will humbly cater to others and ignore myself. In fact, even if you take the initiative to cater to others, it is not necessarily that others will evaluate you well, and sometimes it will even backfire.

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What if you are isolated?

Let's talk about Kobayashi's career story first. I remember when I first arrived at the company, everyone lived in peace and harmony. Not long after, a girl about the same age as Xiao Lin came to the company.

Because they are similar in age, it is inevitable to be compared by others. People always say that Xiao Lin doesn't dress like others, and she doesn't dress like others who are young and energetic.

When she really does something, the new girl panics, but she is good at grabbing credit, and even if she doesn't do it herself, she can become the fruit of her own labor.

Everyone thinks she is better than Xiao Lin, not only beautiful, but also capable. I prefer to be with her even when I eat. Obviously, Xiao Lin was isolated and left out in the cold.

No one in the workplace will sympathize with anyone and no one will really care about a person's feelings. The person who can understand his feelings must be himself.

Since then, Kobayashi seems to talk less and become more introverted. But just two years later, when it was time to evaluate the title, Kobayashi showed his talent. That year, she was the only one selected, and no one else succeeded.

After that, colleagues began to get to know her. Only then did I know that she was just a seemingly silent person. In fact, she has a lot of certificates, and it is not an exaggeration to say that she is a schoolmaster. Privately, she is a hard worker, and fighting is only superficial. Secretly, she is also fighting.

That's right. When you are isolated, don't feel sad secretly and don't be overly pessimistic. When you stand in front of everyone in another capacity, others will definitely look at you with new eyes.

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If you are isolated, there is no need to argue. How about this: be yourself.

In the workplace, a person will not be excluded and isolated forever, only those who are unwilling to work hard, nothing can not be changed, everything depends on people's efforts. Learn to use the isolated time and strive to improve yourself.

As you grow older, you will understand that your world belongs to you and other people's world doesn't matter much to you. What does it matter if others like to say it?

Dante once said: Go your own way and let others talk. As long as you know what you are doing, this is the most important thing.

I have a long life. Instead of pandering to others and humbling yourself, try to find your own world.

Don't always care about other people's thoughts and opinions, do what you want and say what you want. There is nothing wrong with selfishness. This life will be easier.