I feel insecure about my husband.

I don't feel safe in my husband. When love slowly moves towards marriage, every woman will become anxious, because they are worried that the bet of this life will be a loss-making business. Marrying the most worthy man is also a woman's success. I don't feel safe in my husband.

I don't feel safe in my husband. 1 What is a sense of security?

Literally means to feel safe. It is a psychological need for stability and security. Belongs to the inner spiritual needs of individuals.

A sense of security is a premonition of possible physical or psychological dangers or risks, and also a sense of strength/powerlessness when dealing with things, which is mainly manifested in a sense of certainty and control.

What is the sense of security in love?

It refers to the loyalty of both parties to love, the trust of the other half, and the economic guarantee to meet the needs of life.

Where does the sense of security in love come from?

Most of the sense of security can't be obtained from others, but blindly looking for a sense of security from yourself is not the love between two people. Since two people are in love, they should give each other a sense of security.

What I want to share with you today is how to give each other a sense of security in love and how to get a sense of security from myself.

How to give each other a sense of security:

1. Learn to respect while enjoying your partner's love.

Respect each other's efforts, let them feel that you are there, actively feedback each other's love, and say hello in advance. No matter who you are, the more people care about you, the more they want you to respect you, and the more they want you to see TA's contribution.

For example, our parents raised you hard, not for your money, not for your service. They just want you to go home often when you are free, call twice more if you have nothing to do, and tell your parents more if you have anything to do.

Therefore, in life, don't suddenly stop answering messages when chatting, and don't just want to control without knowing how to respect.

Say hello to the other party before doing anything, so that TA has a bottom in mind. If you don't care, you will be confused. If you are confused, you will be suspicious.

2. Cultivate the habit of two people discussing things together.

Some people hide a lot of things in their hearts because they don't want to worry the other person, and always want to solve them themselves. Even some things related to the other half must be decided first, and then they will confess to each other when they can't hide.

It is good to have a commitment, but wanting to do everything by yourself may be a responsible performance for you, but for the other half, it will make TA feel like an outsider.

If two people can't face the ups and downs of life together, share joys and sorrows, what's the difference with roommates? Therefore, no matter big or small, we should learn to communicate and discuss with each other more. On the one hand, it can cultivate the tacit understanding between two people, on the other hand, it will not make the other person have the illusion of "I am an outsider" and let the other person have a sense of existence in your life.

3. Keep a certain social distance from other members of the opposite sex

It's not that you can't socialize and have friends of the opposite sex when you are in love, but everything must be measured. Regardless of whether there is pure friendship between men and women for the time being, who can say for sure that it will not last long, and who can guarantee that they will never be moved by friends of the opposite sex in frequent contact and intimate interaction with the opposite sex?

Put yourself in the other's shoes, if your partner has a good relationship with the opposite sex and has made many friends. Even if you have great trust in TA and know that TA will definitely not mess around, have you ever been confused at a certain moment? There is nothing wrong with making friends with the opposite sex. It is reasonable to make friends at work or in manners, but we should keep a good sense of proportion and don't cross the line.

You can quarrel, but don't disappear and don't break up easily.

Two people with the same personality will inevitably have differences of opinion. Quarrel is only the basic operation in love, and it can also be a catalyst for emotional warming. However, you can't disappear as soon as you quarrel, and break up as soon as you get angry. Cold violence and cold treatment are even more undesirable. In the long run, contradictions will only accumulate deeper and deeper, and the real departure will be silent. When disappointment accumulates enough, it will really become a "wolf".

Therefore, after quarreling, you can calm down appropriately, and then apologize to each other seriously with the mentality of solving problems and communicate patiently. Moreover, the contradictions of the day must be resolved on the same day. Don't delay, don't accumulate, the snowball will only get bigger and bigger.

Once you make a promise, you should keep it.

It's as small as promising to do something with each other, and as big as loving each other for a lifetime. Since you have made a promise, it can't be empty talk.

Commitment is the easiest thing to make people who love you feel happy. Every time you honor your promise, you will refresh your happiness value. On the contrary, every time we chat casually, we will accumulate a sense of gap.

In the long run, the other party will gradually lose trust in your words, and then it will become more and more insecure, because ta doesn't know which words you said are true or false.

I feel insecure about my husband. 2 What is the husband's insecurity?

My husband feels insecure because he can't feel your love. Many people only think that only women will feel insecure, while men will feel secure, even if they don't, they can give it to themselves, so when men tell themselves that they are insecure, they generally don't believe it;

So in fact, men will be as insecure as women. When he feels insecure, he must love him more. Don't think she is insecure, just like a joke. On the other hand, he will be angry with you, so you must love him more and make him feel safe again in this relationship.

The other half is better.

What I am most afraid of when I am in love is that women have a stronger temper than men. If a woman has a strong temper, men will definitely not dare to provoke each other easily. After a long time, boys will be afraid of each other from the bottom of their hearts.

Therefore, in the most basic life, a woman should give a man some basic dignity, and don't let her lose face outside, so that even if he can bear it himself, his feelings will not last long.

Female Emotion and Its Instability

Women in love are actually some unlit explosives for many men. She may blow herself up at that moment, but men don't know where she is angry, so men are afraid that women are too terrible to make women angry easily.

If a woman is in love, it gives people an elusive feeling. Without confidence in this relationship, men will become more and more disgusted with this relationship.

I'm not very strong inside.

Because their hearts are not strong enough, they have no confidence in this relationship. They think that this relationship is that you are perfunctory, and they don't know if they can go on, and they are particularly timid.

If you don't know how to express your emotions to you, you will be in a stage of doubt like a girl. They may think that you will give up this relationship because of a boy, and you have no bottom for feelings.

Have no confidence in feelings

In a relationship, you are not only a girl who has no confidence in feelings, but also a boy, so if a boy has no confidence, he will be as insecure as a girl, when he tells you that he is insecure;

You must try your best to make him feel your love. Don't make him feel insecure after mentioning it. He is unreasonable. On the other hand, if he treats you like this, you won't be happy, so be sure to coax him in time.

I feel insecure about my husband. 3 1. Give the woman a sense of security.

Many times men don't understand one thing. Women want a sense of security, so they are willing to follow you, wash and cook for you, and accompany you for a lifetime. However, the sense of security is too illusory after all.

Maybe many men will be depressed-how do I know how to make her feel safe? Especially nowadays, urban women have seen too many joys and sorrows, and their sense of security seems to be a luxury. A woman's happiness is often associated with her sense of security. So, a man, if you can make the other person feel safe, then your relationship is more than half successful.

2. Know how to respect women

Don't interfere with each other's choices too much. It's best to encourage her to develop her strengths, because everyone is the same. If you do something you don't like, you won't have passion and motivation. If you feel good, she may not think it's the best for you. An important criterion of a modern good man is to respect all women, including those who have only met once.

3. Warm physical contact

Why do women love to hold hands with men? -because it makes people feel practical. In fact, everyone has a desire for physical contact, regardless of gender. The warmth of palms and arms is what impresses women the most, and it is far more memorable than any diamond. When she thinks of you, she usually thinks of your arm, so don't be stingy with hugs and twisted fingers.

4, be caring and attentive at the right time

Caring and considerate every woman is frustrated, but too much care will only make her very tired. When she is upset, you can just play the role of trash can. Sometimes what women need;

It's just an object that can be talked about, and it doesn't have to be the result. Try to remember the name of the friend she mentioned to you and give you the best advice you can think of when she is in trouble.

Let her family and friends appreciate you.

The elders are really fierce, and their eyes are super poisonous. If you can win the appreciation of her family and friends, you will survive half of it. Because women are usually easily influenced by people around them, and those who admire you will get a lot of help in many things.

6. Try to be broad-minded and tolerant.

Although many men now demand fairness in everything because they used to be the sunshine at home, after all, women need to be coaxed, so please don't be too impulsive. If it doesn't involve principles, give in first. Only by calming down your contradictions can the two of them calm down and seek a solution.

7. Be kind to each other's pets

Women all think that men who like small animals are kind-hearted, can take good care of their pets and will certainly take good care of their families. If you really don't like small animals, but don't want to be too obvious, you can tell her in a gentle way that you are allergic to hair, and other reasons are more acceptable.

8. Have a hobby of sports.

A man with a certain sports hobby is more likely to find an outlet for his emotions. You make her feel that being with a passionate man will give her confidence in life. I don't think any woman likes to live with a man who only likes to drink and vent all day.

9. Make her feel safe talking to you.

If a woman can communicate openly with you, it means that you have a certain position in her heart. But you'd better know when to talk and when to shut up. Don't be afraid to express;

You can share your feelings and thoughts with her appropriately, so that she will feel that you are on her side and depend on you more in her heart. Make sure you don't laugh at her because she expresses her inner thoughts.