People who are not good at expressing their feelings are doomed to disappointment?

The author is Hei, a girl who wants you to like her works.

Chatting with some old friends in the group in recent days. Maybe it's been a long time. The topic changed from work to love and then to family. Suddenly talking about their feelings, both friends shed tears. Perhaps it was when I touched the softest place in my heart that my eyes ached and tears burst down my face.

I don't know how to comfort myself when I know what is behind my friend's sadness. This kind of emotion is the hardest to touch. Excessive management seems powerful, while poor management seems indifferent. Everything is awkward.

Emotion is the spice in our life, some of which are delicate, such as spicy pepper, which is clear when smelled; Some are thick, such as cinnamon, which can only show its aroma after stewing.

Fanfan, who lives in a family that is not good at expressing feelings, lives well. In life, her parents never let her worry and will try their best to meet her requirements. Emotionally, parents are not good at words and are ashamed to express their love for their children. Every time they just ask her to be caring and attentive.

She and she used to envy those classmates who had to chat with their parents and play videos every day, and they didn't understand why there were endless words.

Since junior high school, she has left her parents to study alone. Except for winter and summer vacations, she always contacts by phone, and her parents don't often call. She only asks for grades three or four times a semester. She is also a heartless girl.

The same is true in high school, which is more serious in college, and parents don't ask about grades. Every time they call around the semester to ask about their life, she will also contact her parents' birthdays when their parents have no living expenses. Sometimes she wants to call someone else, but then she thinks, oh, don't be melodramatic, forget it.

Sometimes when chatting, she always asks us if her parents don't love her. We always tell her that no parents don't love their children. She said that she understood this truth, but she didn't feel it.

Yes, we all know, but we must prove it like a hypothesis.

When chatting, she talked about the chat with her father the other day, and suddenly found that her parents' love sometimes broke out so violently.

Because I didn't like the job I just found in Shanghai, I left my job decisively in early July, and my father called from time to time to find out about the current situation.

This time, she and her father still have differences at work. In order to talk to her for a while, her father changed the subject and talked about her boyfriend. She kept praising her boyfriend, giving her a lot of things, taking care of her and hurting her.

My father looked at her with a bitter face on the other side and said, "All the cabbages at home were arched by pigs." She also said that "you didn't take care of the cabbages at home, and others took them away."

Father proudly said, "I don't want to talk to you", and his face was lost.

No matter what kind of father, the daughter is the beloved of the father, and there is nothing to lose when the beloved is taken away.

She said that she was distressed to see her father's loss. Perhaps it is because her baby has grown up now, and the father who is not good at expressing can't express his love and reluctance to his daughter.

She said that her father can't be a baby forever like other fathers. Her name is Xiao Cute, mostly by name, and Xiao Intimacy is called "daughter".

She said that in fact, she knew that her family loved her very much. Her family is a group of people who are not good at expressing themselves. My mother once told her that when she was brought up, her grandmother would sit by the bed and secretly look at her picture and cry. When she was too ill to speak, she would cry and laugh when she mentioned finding her a boyfriend. She also knows that her parents still miss her before and after she comes home.

In fact, she still cherishes these feelings, but it may be too beautiful. She was also afraid of losing them, so she hid them deeper. If she doesn't show it easily, she won't lose it easily

Some people may not be loved because their love is hidden deep, but their love is the purest. The moment you find it, you will find happiness at your fingertips.

Once you find them, please cherish them and love them more.

Feifei, a girl who is considered simple, Aries, is in full swing. We, as friends, all agree with this character and are enthusiastic about doing things. It is good to have a hot temper. As a friend, I seldom see her angry.

She said that she had recently alienated her friends, which was unilateral. Xiao Ah is her college classmate, good friend and best friend for four years, but the other day she learned from another best friend Xiao B that in Xiao Ah's eyes, she is a person who can use her friends.

Hearing this, we all think that Xiao B may be doing something, but she said that in the small circle of three people, she and Xiao A both regard Xiao B as their sisters, and they will tell this sister if there is anything on their mind. Xiao is a baby of mom and dad. They all regard Xiao as a child, so they try to follow everything.

We all told her that the small circle of three people is very complicated.

She said that she felt that the three people had different personalities, got along well and talked about everything. Although the triangular relationship is subtle, they can also coordinate with each other. I used to think that it would be a lifetime to get to know each other, but now it seems a bit wishful thinking.

She said that she was a bit insensitive, but she would still observe what she said. Recently, it's a little strange to be small. She goes straight into the room after work every day. She thinks it may be the reason why Xiao B wants to move recently, and she is a little unhappy. Maybe she's just thinking for herself.

Emotionally, Feifei doesn't emphasize embarrassment, but insists: If you are willing to open your heart, I am willing to be a listener. If you don't want to express it, I won't force it. She thinks everyone has their own ideas, and friends are: I will be by your side when you need me, and I will leave you enough private space when you want to be quiet.

But some things are not as simple as imagined, just like the subtle feelings between friends.

Last weekend, Xiao went out to play with his former friends, came back early on Saturday and took two friends home to live. In the evening, Feifei is still considering whether to let Xiao sleep together. Xiao B was afraid that two people couldn't sleep well, but then she thought, maybe the three little sisters want to talk privately, just like the three of them before.

But the next day, she knew that Xiao and Xiao B had slept together the night before, and they talked until five in the morning. During the conversation, Feifei knew that she was a person who regarded her friends as stepping stones in her heart.

I don't know what it's like to be regarded as such by a good friend. Maybe it's uncomfortable, maybe it's lost.

She said she didn't know what she had done to make Xiao think so. Did she forget her childhood when she got a boyfriend?

She said that when she first came to Shanghai, she was with Xiao A. Her boyfriend was a colleague and was introduced.

Since ancient times, loyalty and filial piety have been in a dilemma, and girlfriends and boyfriends can't save them.

She said that sometimes she thinks too simply. She wants to play with a few friends, call more people and enjoy the atmosphere of expanding her circle of friends, but Xiao seems unwilling and feels embarrassed.

She said she was afraid of being in a dilemma. When she first started with her boyfriend, she thought that since it was so difficult, she wouldn't talk about it. After all, she has been a good friend for many years.

She said there was nothing wrong with other boys.

She said that not choosing between the two may be the most wrong choice. She wants both, or she is selfish.

Maybe she made a choice at this time, and there is a gap between the two.

She said that she felt that as a friend, she had a clear conscience, and her baby was a treasure in the eyes of her parents, and she was willing to take care of her like a child. Xiao wants to go to the movies. Although her boyfriend asked her out a few days ago, she promised Xiao to go with her.

She said that if she thinks she is a person who uses her friends just because there is another person in her life, she is very lost.

She said that sometimes she wanted to be a bad girl. Since you don't like me, I hope I don't like you, but she feels that although the feelings are scattered, they didn't come at once.

Sometimes, it will take you a long time to discover how this friend is so congenial and speculative. These feelings are really hard-won.

She said that sometimes she feels small and doesn't pay so much attention to her, but she also knows that everyone will have many friends and limited energy. Spend more on other friends and less on you, but as long as you get along well,

She said that she is not a good friend either, and sometimes she finds it annoying that Xiao Yi touches her principles, but she is willing to give up her principles for a short time and denounce "evil" leaders and annoying jobs from Xiao Yi's standpoint.

She said that behavior is already an expression of the heart. Is it really necessary to cut out the heart?

Yes, because we know how to cherish it, we think it is good to have a friend. It's great to remember her in our hearts and talk about her. She is the most warm person in the innermost circle of different patterns.

She said she hated this feeling of loss, but it was more of a sense of powerlessness.

A few days ago, when I was listening to Jiang Xun's Dream of Red Mansions on Dragonfly FM, I saw a program called-Someone always sees through you and still loves you.

A Zen monk said, "When one day it was found that there were more and more shortcomings in those lovers, it was not because time made him unlovable, but because he loved you more and more. He slowly relieved himself, because you were his weakness and he exposed his shortcomings."

? So the real feeling is: does anyone still love you after seeing through you?

We cannot be perfect children, perfect lovers or perfect friends.

We will be unscrupulous in front of our closest parents, lovers and friends. There are always a few people who have seen our dirtiest appearance.

They have seen your impudence, your gnashing of teeth, and your relief.

Just like our parents, there will always be a moment to expose their love, their reluctance, that is the softest heart. Parents are those who will still love us no matter how we change.

Everyone has his own way of expressing his feelings, and we can't always express our thoughts like them. Sometimes words slip by the mouth.

Just like when we are waiting for our girlfriend to be pursued by the rich second generation, our girlfriend is waiting for us to make a fortune.

We can't buy her a suite anywhere or a car at any store in 4S, but we can cook a meal and accompany her to the movies as long as she likes.

At first, you should consider whether you like this person or not, but after a long time, you should consider whether you like yourself or not.

"If you always decorate yourself in the way he likes and always show him the perfect side, then in your heart, you must be distrustful of this relationship and afraid of losing it, so you have to be with the person you love, even if you lose yourself. If a person can't stand your imperfect side, then he doesn't deserve your best side. "

Although a little biased towards love, but other emotions are not the same?

Isn't it because you like this person? If you don't like someone, you can't pretend to like him for many years, unless this person can really act and act so well.

A person is doomed to be imperfect. If you only covet one person's good, can you be perfect? Isn't it as simple as exchanging things for sincerity?

Insisting on being yourself is the best solution. Feifei always has to solve this problem by herself, and it is inevitable that she will feel uncomfortable and lost. If she still cherishes and believes in this friendship, she should try her best to be herself, because Xiao Ya still cares about her most essential side, no matter how she changes.

"Love means not only loving your strengths, but also tolerating your weaknesses. He can appreciate your beauty in front of people and accept your commonness behind your back. Because the most beautiful thing has always been your incomparable heart, caring about your little temper, and also distressed by your awkward words. You don't need to change yourself because he loves himself. "

People who don't get along are tired for a long time, and people who are just right can be fluent.

Man, you are cute because you are kind and soft-hearted. Don't you think cruel and mean people are cute? I think the people around me are doubly lovely because she always exudes the warmth of sunshine and the breath of love.

People who are not good at expressing themselves will make us feel cute with actions.

Although we are independent individuals in this world, we have close ties with the people around us, and our loved ones, whether alive or dead, are concerned; Our friends, from the moment they know each other, are destined to be together; Our lovers, after getting to know each other, are destined to "grow old together, never leave, and hold hands."

The inner softness, deeply felt, savored. Be yourself, be the person you like, and learn to understand that some people still love you after seeing through you.

Of course, I also want to cherish everyone I like and cherish every relationship.