I give you a pension, waiting to take care of you, but you buy a house for your brother-in-law: my mother-in-law is eccentric and eventually tastes bitter.

Looking around, we can easily find that some brothers and sisters have very good feelings. Rich or poor, they can support each other, help each other and care for each other. But some brothers and sisters have bad feelings. When parents are alive, they can be polite on the surface. After my parents passed away, I basically stopped seeing each other. What's more, they will fight and become enemies. The reason why the situation is completely different is actually the unfair treatment of parents. There is an old saying that "not suffering from widowhood but suffering from inequality" illustrates this problem. Figure network.

To put it bluntly, the relationship between brothers and sisters is decided by parents. If parents can handle it clearly, they should treat every child well, not treat them differently because of personal preferences. Basically, the relationship between brothers and sisters will be good. If parents are partial and prefer sons to daughters, brothers and sisters will eventually become strangers. One more thing, at the beginning, confused parents won't realize that their eccentricity and son preference hurt not only the feelings between brothers and sisters.

Your own pension is also closely related to how you treat your children. Any emotional relationship is mutual, and so is the family. As a parent, if you give your only love and resources to one of your children, then you will definitely chill the heart of another child. Then, in addition to the obligation to support, what qualifications do you have to let your children give you warmth?

0 1. My husband's family has two sons, and my mother-in-law prefers the younger son.

Chen Juan and Zhao Yuan met by chance. They didn't fall in love at first sight, but their feelings were actually accumulated in daily life. Perhaps it is because a lot has happened between two people, so the feelings have always been sincere and strong. When Chen Juan was in love, she knew that Zhao Yuan had a younger brother, and her mother-in-law just liked this little son better.

She hesitated, and her parents at home also advised her that Chen Juan was an only child, and she would find an only child when she fell in love and got married, so as to avoid many contradictions and grievances in her husband's family after marriage. But Chen Juan was finally unwilling to give up this relationship. She tried to convince her parents that she didn't ask for anything when she married her husband. At first, Chen Juan really thought that her mother-in-law didn't have much money. After all, the mother-in-law was quite honest at that time, saying that the eldest son went to college and the younger son didn't, so only tens of thousands of dollars were left for the younger son to get married.

Although Chen Juan was very sad at that time, after all, his brother-in-law didn't go to college because of his poor grades, not because he wasn't allowed to study at home. How can this be regarded as giving and grievance? But later, she also put it down and was not prepared to rely on her mother-in-law. Besides, her mother-in-law is partial to her brother-in-law. She didn't know from the beginning, so why bother now? So this thing has passed. After marriage, the two rented a house to live in, but both held their breath and wanted to buy their own house as soon as possible.

Two years after marriage, my brother-in-law also got married, and my mother-in-law gave a bride price of 40 thousand. Everyone knows this, and Chen Juan naturally believes her mother-in-law's exact words. That's really all she has. But later, Chen Juan learned that the rest of the bride price, brother-in-law's car, wedding and so on were given by her mother-in-law secretly. Where did my mother-in-law get her money? There is an old house at home. Chen Juan was demolished when her husband was in college. Between the house and cash, my mother-in-law chose cash.

This matter, Zhao Yuan is thick, he doesn't know. After Chen Juan and Zhao Yuan got married, she gave her living expenses every month. Mother-in-law scrimps and saves money for her youngest son, and even doesn't eat meat for a month. Chen Juan might have been kept in the dark all his life if he hadn't been able to hide it from others.

02. Mother-in-law is sick and comes to the eldest son's house to support the elderly.

After six years of marriage, Chen Juan and Zhao Yuan finally saved enough money, and their parents helped. They bought a house with three bedrooms and two halls. A family of three didn't live happily for long. My mother-in-law had a small stroke and was in good health after discharge. But living alone and taking care of yourself are still reluctant. Seeing that his brother didn't respond at all, Zhao Yuan had no choice but to discuss with Chen Juan, hoping to take her mother-in-law to provide for the elderly.

Chen Juan doesn't like it in his heart. He married Zhao Yuan himself, although he never thought of relying entirely on her husband's family. But my mother-in-law is not helping this small family at all, which still makes her feel very uncomfortable. Besides, before she got sick, her mother-in-law had been helping her brother-in-law with the children and housework. Since I can't help you, I will ignore it and push it on myself. This is so unpleasant. But uncomfortable is uncomfortable. Chen Juan is a kind and filial daughter-in-law. She agreed to her husband's proposal and lived with her mother-in-law for the elderly.

In the days of living together, Chen Juan didn't let her mother-in-law be wronged. She can eat whatever she wants. I didn't show my face to my mother-in-law, I was caring and attentive, and I took good care of my mother, which was similar. Brother-in-law occasionally comes to give her mother-in-law some money, which is regarded as living expenses. Chen Juan never wanted the money, although her mother-in-law didn't give it to her. At that time, she felt that her mother-in-law had some money, and she could buy whatever she wanted, which was more free.

She didn't expect that every time her brother-in-law came over, she gave money to her mother in front of Chen Juan and turned to take more money from her mother behind Chen Juan's back. In other words, every time her brother-in-law comes, she wants her mother's money. Her mother-in-law is rich and her brother-in-law knows it.

03. Mother-in-law asked her eldest son and his wife to support the elderly, bought a house for her youngest son, and sent it away.

I've been living like this, maybe I can live in peace. But by coincidence, Chen Juan knew that her brother-in-law didn't pay for the new house, and the down payment was all from her mother-in-law. Chen Juan was so angry that she couldn't accept it. My mother-in-law treats herself like this. With luck, she goes home and asks her mother-in-law. Probably because of her bad attitude, the mother-in-law not only admitted that she did buy a house for her youngest son, but also talked about the bride price before, and now she gives money to her youngest son from time to time.

My mother-in-law said, "I can give my own money to whoever I want." Even if I don't give you a dime, you should give me a pension. " The mother-in-law was confident, which made Chen Juan even angrier. She married her mother-in-law directly and said, "Either you buy me a suite or you move out." Say that finish, she began to pick up her mother-in-law's things. Throwing caution to the wind, she must send her mother-in-law to her brother-in-law today.

When Zhao Yuan came back, he saw his wife like this, and his heart was clear. Not long ago, he was very angry when he learned that his mother bought a house for his brother, but after all, he was a mother and he didn't know what to do. Now, Chen Juan knows that he wants his mother to move to his younger brother, and he doesn't want to stop it, because he is also chilling about his mother's quirks. Chen Juan's mother-in-law didn't care at first, thinking that her youngest son would be filial to herself.

But after a month, she complained, especially that her health was worse than before. The youngest son and his wife are really worse to her than outsiders. She really can't live any longer. She missed life in her eldest son's house very much, so she told her youngest son that she wanted to move to his house. The younger son is naturally welcome, and immediately let his brother and sister-in-law come home to discuss the old mother's pension.

04. Having two sons and finally living in a nursing home, every quirk comes at a price.

Chen Juan means that she doesn't want to live with her mother-in-law. She always thought her mother-in-law had no money. As a result, her mother-in-law enjoyed her care and bought a house for her brother-in-law behind her back. Since the mother-in-law likes her youngest son so much, let her son support the elderly. She can pay some money, but under the same roof, she doesn't have to think about it.

In the end, neither son wanted his mother to follow them to support the elderly, and finally reached an agreement to send his mother to a nursing home. Although Chen Juan's mother-in-law doesn't want to go to a nursing home, she wants to follow her son, but she also knows that's impossible. Her son has been eccentric all his life and is unwilling to take responsibility as long as interests are involved, while another son she doesn't like is hard-hearted and unwilling to accept her again. Nursing home seems to be her only choice.

The worst thing is not this, but that she has no money in her own hands, and the two daughter-in-law are arguing over who will bear the expenses of the nursing home. The eyes of the two sons are also full of resentment.

Not only the relationship between brothers and sisters is decided by parents, but also whether parents are happy in their later years is largely decided by parents themselves. Everything in the world has a cause and effect. As parents, if you can't treat your children equally, a bowl of water is flat. Then how can you expect your favorite child not to become a "baiwenhang", and the child who is not favored by you will not be cold.

You treat your children differently, favoring one over the other. How can you ask your children to be as filial as you are? When your children blame each other, become strangers, even become enemies, and are hostile to each other, it is actually the result of your eccentricity. In your later years, support being pushed around by children is actually the bitter fruit caused by preference. It may be at this time that eccentric parents will realize that they were wrong at the beginning, and now the result is the price of eccentricity. I hope parents can treat their children equally.