The difficulty of mother-in-law remarriage

When my mother-in-law was forty-eight years old, my father-in-law fell ill and died. After being introduced, I met a retired professor, ushered in the second spring, and married the professor's family. Originally, I wanted to find my mother-in-law, and I hope to be harmonious for a hundred years. Now I am constantly distressed every day.

My mother-in-law retired at 50. I had just given birth at that time. Mother-in-law naturally went back to her son's house to take care of her grandson. For convenience, my husband and I also prepared rooms for my mother-in-law and my new father-in-law, but the professor didn't want to move in. My mother-in-law lives alone in my house. My husband and I have a rest only on Saturday and Sunday, and my mother-in-law goes back to take care of the professor's clothes and clean the house for a week.

The son has just turned two years old, and the professor's daughter-in-law has also given birth. No one brought it. She wanted her mother-in-law to go back and help. My son is only two years old, and my husband and I have to go to work. My mother-in-law took care of me at my home, and my husband and I could relax, but for the sake of harmony, my mother-in-law went back to help the professor's grandson. I have to invite my mother to my home to help us take care of the children. My mother said to my mother-in-law: "This woman is confused and her grandson won't take it. She went to someone else's house to take care of her grandson. Is it difficult to expect others to support you in the future? "

Unexpectedly, my mother-in-law came back a few days ago and lost a lot of weight. Her eyes were red and she obviously cried. I asked her what happened. It turns out that the baby caught a cold and had diarrhea. The mother-in-law was scolded by the professor's daughter-in-law. In the final analysis, it's not her grandson, but her mother-in-law who didn't manage it well.

Everyone who takes care of children knows that children can't be so delicate. It is not surprising that they occasionally have fever, cold and diarrhea. No big deal. My mother-in-law was just about to distinguish between two sentences. The professor interjected, "You didn't take care of your children. What did your wife say about you?". It is not your responsibility to be wronged by Bala and have diarrhea. "

My mother-in-law is a kind-hearted person. Because she helped me with my children, she couldn't take care of the professor at home to eat and drink Lazar, and she always felt guilty. She is very traditional and always thinks that a housewife should be a qualified nanny. So, this time I went back to take care of my grandson, and even meant to make compensation. This is a sincere effort. Busy day and night, I'm afraid I'm more considerate than taking care of my grandson. Who will take care of these children? Taking care of children is really hard. It is natural not to consider your own efforts. No one is grateful, but you are guilty.

I listened, but said nothing. I tried several times to persuade my mother-in-law to leave the professor's house, but I couldn't open my mouth. My husband loves his mother dearly and refuses to let her go back. When she is old, it is not a thing to wait on others.

My mother-in-law said, how can marriage account for so many gains and losses? When she said this, her mother-in-law seemed to have experienced this, and her heart was also very lost. She was a little disappointed in her new marriage.

My husband asked me to persuade my mother-in-law to leave the professor and go back to her house to live a good life. My mother-in-law has a pension and doesn't worry about eating and drinking. She originally wanted to remarry. She can find a partner who is not lonely, talk together, travel together and have a happy old age. Unexpectedly, when she married a professor, she still wanted rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, and she became a free nanny. She doesn't regard her mother-in-law as a relative with others. What is there to miss? Isn't it sweet to come back with your children and grandchildren around your knees?

I am hesitant, I don't know how to speak, should I persuade my mother-in-law to divorce? Can an old man find his true feelings when he remarries?

@ 丫丫丫丫丫丫丫丫丫丫丫: My colleagues and I talked about my mother-in-law and lamented that it was too difficult for the elderly to remarry, and then they were separated from others by a layer and could not kiss.

First, the remarriage of the elderly is indeed a century-long problem, especially under the national conditions of our country. Many old people remarry in order to find a free nanny, and they can really find a partner emotionally. In reality, they still have to lose to the days of daily necessities.

For example, my colleague's mother-in-law will be old in the future, and her remarried stepson will not be able to support her, but she will still push it to her parents' children.

Second, the old people have a pension, which is enough for them to support themselves. I suggest being cautious about remarriage. There are many old people around me who only talk about feelings and don't get married, and they have emotional comfort for each other. However, when it comes to marriage, it is much more cautious, because each of them has a large number of children. Once you get married, you will face the problem of the ownership of your own property, which will lead to some unnecessary contradictions. This is also a social problem. Old people seem to have lost the qualification to talk about marriage. It is also a pity that many elderly lovers can't hold hands because of their children's problems.

Third, it is better to tear down ten temples than ruin a marriage. Colleagues want to persuade her mother-in-law to divorce and stay away from trouble. The starting point is also good. But now this marriage is like a chicken rib. It seems that my mother-in-law still has emotional attachment to the professor. When she is strong, her mother-in-law thinks that she will pay more for the happiness in her later years. Her ideas are full and the reality is very skinny. In the face of interests, no one will give up easily.

Let's talk about it Do you want to persuade your mother-in-law to divorce? Is it necessary to maintain such a marriage until old age?