My mother is very partial to my sister. What should I do?

I don't know if you have noticed that many parents have an idea of sharing wealth. Physically, it is. For example, if a child has money, he must unconditionally help his brothers and sisters with poor material conditions. The same is true in life, and so is your situation. If you are too capable and diligent, and have the ability to take care of your children by yourself, your mother will naturally think more about your sister who won't take care of her children.

Another possibility is that your mother doesn't feel needed with you, but she feels needed with her sister. Without her, she can't even eat. Generally, the elderly are old, and this situation that needs to be affirmed is particularly serious.

I happen to have a sister, and even the experience is somewhat similar. However, I had a baby first, and my mother helped me to be two years old. My sister happened to be pregnant, so I went to take care of her. When my mother just left, I was completely at a loss and didn't know how to take care of the children alone. My sister was just pregnant at that time. My sister can't cook and doesn't want to cook. My mother was worried that she couldn't raise a baby, so she went to cook for her. At that time, I was also a little disgusted with my mother.

I can't cook either. After my mother left, I began to learn to cook for my baby by myself. When my husband is not at home, I will ask my mother to help me. Later, I found out that my sister didn't cook at all when my mother was away. She eats takeout every day, whether when she is pregnant or when she is alone with the baby. Occasionally, her brother-in-law cooks a meal or two when he is free. My mother can't sit still and thinks about it every day. So even if my husband was not at home later, I didn't ask my mother to come over.

It's really torture for my mother. She will be worried on both sides and want to separate herself. She is thinking of her sister here, and I believe she is thinking of me when she is there. But now I don't blame her at all and I never blame my sister. I have a good relationship with my sister. Although she doesn't want to cook, she is diligent in other aspects. My sister will think of me, too. She said that she would let me have a second child, which happened to be a big one, and then asked her mother to help me. ...

I just hope my sister's baby is older, can take care of the baby alone, and then let her mother accompany her father. It's too hard to take care of the children, and mom looks old. I don't want my mother to work so hard anymore. I haven't decided whether to have a second child, and if so, I haven't included my mother in my plan to help me with my children. I will ask my aunt for help. If my father wants to retire, I can come here with my mother to support the elderly, play with my grandchildren and hire an aunt to do housework.

Oh, my mother also said that my sister came to my house with her children and brought two babies together. Of course, it's just talk. It's not good. My sister doesn't want to disturb our family, and I don't want to leave my sister's baby behind my father, because she helps me with my baby.

You may feel better when you don't think about relying on others. You can try to take care of the children yourself first. If you can't, you can invite your aunt or stay out. An aunt comes to clean up and cook for you every afternoon, which may be enough.