Popular Science on Hypnotherapy (4): Talk about hypnosis to eliminate memory

Hypnosis can eliminate memory, that is, forgetting. This is a normal function of the brain. There is nothing magical about it. Hypnosis is just using the forgetting function of the brain to actively create forgetfulness.

Originally I didn’t plan to write a popular science article about hypnosis to erase memories. These days, many people have contacted me and want to use hypnosis to erase memories, so I decided to write about it.

Mr. Freud, the originator of psychoanalysis, proposed "motivated forgetting": because you don't want to remember certain painful experiences, you forget what happened through a defensive psychological mechanism. When the motivation to forget is strong enough, "motivated forgetting" occurs, which is not too difficult to understand.

Human psychology has a very strong subjective initiative. Among mental diseases, there is one called "hysteria", which was formerly called "hysteria". One of the possible symptoms of hysteria, hysterical blindness: medical examination, blindness that cannot find any physical problems. It’s not that the patient pretends to be invisible, but that it is truly invisible to the patient himself, and the patient himself wants to be cured. There are also various symptoms such as hysterical deafness and inability to move the hands and feet. These symptoms are mainly caused by psychological factors.

The subjective initiative of the mind is so powerful that it can cause physical diseases. In comparison, active forgetting is just a piece of cake.

I said in the article "Popular Science on Hypnotherapy" that professional hypnotists who abide by professional ethics will only perform hypnosis to erase memories except for severe traumatic experiences caused by realistic factors that are difficult to change. Easily use hypnosis to erase memories.

Why?

Most people who want to use hypnosis to erase memories are emotionally frustrated and very painful. I often think of my ex and want to get over it as soon as possible, thinking, "If I forget that person, I won't be in pain anymore." If you encounter such a situation and ask me for hypnosis to erase your memory, I will refuse.

Why do people feel pain? Wouldn't it be nice not to feel pain? I'm not afraid of swords, guns, ice and fire, and I can't feel pain anyway.

If you feel no pain, you will die quickly!

Pain is painful and unpleasant, but it is meant to protect people. When people feel pain, they will remember the danger and stay away from it. This is true of physical pain, and so is psychological pain.

Pain has a function.

Students who were belittled by teachers in public felt embarrassed and unconvinced but worked hard to study and their academic performance improved; students who were scolded by their bosses had their self-esteem frustrated and were anxious and worried about losing their jobs. They worked hard to learn new knowledge and skills and their abilities were improved. ; When dating a scumbag who talks sweet words, it will be very painful after being cheated on. Realize that you should not only listen to what a man says, but also what the man does, so as to avoid being deceived by a scumbag who is good at sweet talk again;...

Psychologist Bion said:

The most critical factor in determining psychological development is whether to choose to avoid or face setbacks.

If the experience of emotional frustration is not painful enough, you may experience similar emotional frustration next time and it will be painful again! Only when you are heartbroken can you wake up and learn from the pain.

Children may find the water dispenser fun. Parents have told them many times that if the hot water is hot, don’t play with it. Children won’t listen. After being scalded by hot water once and feeling pain, the child naturally learned not to touch the water dispenser.

Learning from experience is how people learn. After experiencing pain, you will learn how to stay away from pain; after experiencing emotional frustration, the mind will learn in a natural way.

Using hypnosis to eliminate the memory of your ex also eliminates the learning process of the mind.

On the other hand, memories related to people are not single memories and must be connected with other people, things, and things.

For example, a certain memory of your time with your ex-boyfriend may also be related to the day you got in touch with a child you had not contacted for more than 10 years, and agreed to meet on a certain day. As a result, this incident became a hypnosis It is entirely possible that the side effects of erasing memories are forgotten together. One of the ways the brain stores memories is to encode them according to emotional tone, and memories with similar emotions are stored together.

Hypnosis eliminates the memory of a certain person's existence. When you recall relevant memories, you may feel "sorrowful" and feel that something is missing, but you cannot remember it.

At the same time, the existence of the soul pursues "gestalt" and holistic characteristics - Gestalt psychology has done a lot of research in this area. If you are interested, you can learn about it yourself. Hypnosis eliminates the memory of a person's existence, and other memories related to this person become incomplete. The gestalt characteristics of the mind may self-supplement the incomplete memory part, forming a "fictitious false memory."

During dreams, the brain can automatically construct a grand dream world, and fabricating memories is really not a problem. This is not my assumption, there are studies to prove it. If you are interested, you can learn about psychologist Festinger's "cognitive dissonance theory" and see how people deceive themselves.

Due to the above reasons, it is not appropriate to use hypnosis to erase memories when you are emotionally frustrated, and it is not necessary.

But it’s painful!

There are other ways to deal with it.

Hypnotherapy has a very good concept for dealing with pain:

Keep the pain that is beneficial, learning and protective; eliminate the pain that is unnecessary, unnecessary and has no benefit.

Teach you two methods to deal with the pain of being unable to get rid of feelings:

Method 1:

Find something you hate doing very much, for example, you hate it very much The smell of stinky tofu; I really hate cleaning the house; I really hate running;...

Every time you think about your ex, let yourself do this very annoying thing. It's best if it's something that can be done immediately for this method to be effective, and it's best if it's easy to implement at home.

Method 2:

Set aside a fixed time every day to think about your ex, and you must think about it for 1 hour.

This 1 hour is only allowed to recall the ex, and no other things can be done. Keep your phone away and don't play with it. This is homework, stick to it for 1 month.

If you can't do it, you have to reflect on whether your determination to forget is strong enough. Sometimes your conscious mind wants to forget, but your subconscious mind doesn't want to forget; or some parts of your subconscious mind want to forget, and some parts don't want to forget. If your thoughts are not unified, should you forget it or not forget it?

Hypnosis master Erickson said that you must first determine how determined you are to change. A patient once came to Erickson and hoped to quit smoking through hypnosis. Erickson told the patient that he should first climb a local mountain every day. If he is determined to do it, it means that his desire to quit smoking is strong enough and he can use hypnosis to quit smoking. The patient found it somewhat difficult, so Erickson asked the patient to go back and decide whether he could do it again. The patient came to Erickson again the next week and said that he didn't really want to quit smoking.

Sometimes, the change you think you want is not the change you really want. How can others help you?

First understand your "sincerity", and the second step is to change it in many ways.

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