"My son and daughter-in-law have AA system, and her family has plenty of money." How can a witty son protect his wife online and undermine his mother's prestige?

Marriage is a difficult problem. We don't know what kind of questions to ask and what difficulties to test, but both husband and wife must work together to answer them in order to have a satisfactory answer.

When we can't solve this problem, we will try to succeed in many different ways. I don't know if the method will work in the end, but if I make a mistake, I will pay some price and even lose my qualification.

Many men and women will choose the "AA system" mode to operate when they get married. No matter what kind of consideration, the initial intention is to solve the problem of getting along, so that two people can go on better in the future.

Couples can practice AA marriage, but in a big family, there are numerous conflicts of interest.

Not all methods can solve the problem at once. If not, it is better to come up with the most sincere heart and re-plan the mode of getting along. Don't take the wrong path until your feelings are irreparable.

AA system has played a very good role in many interpersonal relationships. However, marriage is a special relationship, because the people involved are not only husband and wife, but also because they have the same children and parents, so they cannot achieve complete independence.

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Money runs through life, and couples who care too much will choose AA lifestyle in marriage. They don't hurt each other or take advantage of each other. The seemingly perfect model has affected the feelings between husband and wife.

After Mona (pseudonym) and Zhong Xiaohai (pseudonym) got married, they had serious differences on who should take care of the money. Mona is a relatively independent woman. She works well and earns a considerable and stable income. She doesn't accept giving money to men to manage, and wants to dominate the family's economic lifeline.

Before meeting Mona, Zhong Xiaohai talked about a girlfriend and gave her almost everything, but in the end, the woman almost drained him of everything and turned and left him.

So he has a feeling of "once bitten, twice shy" and is unwilling to hand over economic power to his wife. At this time, he had an idea that two people could start an AA marriage.

It is also appropriate for Mona to spend her own money, so each of them takes out some living expenses and records all the expenses in a serious account. Without economic disputes, they still have a lot of freedom in their marriage life.

Soon after, Mona got pregnant. Zhong Xiaohai was very happy and bought a lot of delicious food for his wife. His wife is very happy. Zhong Xiaohai didn't count the money in two people's accounts and thought he should come by himself.

However, later, when Mona wants to eat again, Zhong Xiaohai will still buy it for her, but she will be reimbursed with a receipt. At first, Mona thought he was joking. Unexpectedly, he is serious.

Zhong Xiaohai said, "These things are what you want to eat. I didn't eat at all. Besides, I've bought it too often recently. You should pay for a good AA system. "

Mona said, "I'm pregnant with your child, too. Shouldn't you spend money to buy some nutrition? "

Later, the two reached an agreement that during pregnancy, both of them were responsible for the nutrition, snacks and various inspection expenses that Mona ate.

Although the communication is good, Mona's heart is very unhappy, and even some small thoughts have been calculated. What kind of lover is this? However, during pregnancy, I don't get angry easily, so I still advise myself to relax, give birth to the baby safely and talk about the future.

From marriage to pregnancy, to having children, AA marriage, the feelings between husband and wife are gradually changing.

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The baby was born smoothly. During Mona's maternity leave, two people shared the living expenses, and her mother-in-law came from her hometown to wait on Mona's confinement and help them take care of the baby.

After Mona gave birth to the baby, the young couple calculated the accounts during this period and found that the cost was much higher. Zhong Xiaohai always felt that he had suffered a big loss.

Mona thinks that although her mother-in-law has been taking care of herself since she came, her expenses are also included in the expenses shared by two people. Mona said, "She is your mother, and you have to pay two living expenses."

Zhong Xiaohai disagreed: "She is here to help you with your children. If you want to give two copies, give two copies. " Neither of them wanted to give her mother-in-law living expenses, and they quarreled endlessly.

Finally, the young couple ran to her mother-in-law and said, "Mom, our life is AA. Some time ago, you worked hard, and we shared the living expenses equally. But after a long time, it is necessary to pay living expenses. "

After hearing this, the mother-in-law was very angry with two people. She has no financial resources, so she has no money to pay for her living expenses. The young couple fought there again.

My mother-in-law felt angry and funny. She smiled and said, "A couple's game is unclear. You want the AA system, you bring your own children, and I will go back to my hometown. "

After listening to her mother-in-law's words, the two felt that they should make a good plan and continue to share the future, which would not only make her mother-in-law chilling, but also make their relationship enter the cold winter.

Finally, under the persuasion of her mother-in-law, Zhong Xiaohai made a concession. If a wife really wants to live a good life with herself, she should let her guard down and give her her salary.

The wife appreciates her mother-in-law's generosity, treats her mother-in-law well and is more sincere to her husband. During the period of financial management, she would think twice about buying something for herself, but she didn't hesitate to spend money on her mother-in-law, husband and children.

Zhong Xiaohai trusts his wife more and treats her better. My mother-in-law was relieved to see the young couple live like this.

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The married life of AA system will make couples fall into an infinite cycle of "calculation".

If Mona and Zhong Xiaohai always adhere to the AA system and care about each other in spending money, even the best marriage life will be full of contradictions and calculations, which will consume all love and warmth.

AA system has both good and bad sides. It can keep you from losing money and others from taking advantage, but it also blocks the transmission of love and will only make your life full of calculations.

Love should be mutual, and home should be the place where love is carried, rather than two people testing who is better at arithmetic. Love is mutual trust and understanding, which is the correct way to solve the problem.

AA system is only a family economic commitment model, which is not suitable for China families.

Zhou said: "In a lasting and harmonious marriage, the lives of two people have been linked by flesh and blood."

Therefore, every family is faced with the problem of "supporting the elderly and supporting the young". If two people want to share yours and mine, there will be many unnecessary contradictions.

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In the marriage life of AA system, husband and wife should not forget their feelings because of calculation.

Many times, when no special events happen, AA system is often feasible.

However, when the wife is pregnant and gives birth to a child, or both parents have physical problems, AA system will often become a problem of shirking responsibility and changing the pattern of desertion.

Ideologically, everyone will become more selfish, but in life, it is more difficult to carry on well. Therefore, economic independence is not suitable for married life, and the marriage relationship is very complicated, so it is difficult to distinguish clearly.

Time flies, don't let the time of love be wasted in meaningless "calculation".

Don't care so much between husband and wife. With family ties, marriage can get better and better.