Whose life will be easy?

Life is impermanent, life is about taking it easy and cherishing it!

1.

I logged into QQ space a few days ago and saw an update from a senior sister in Chongqing, saying that her cancer cells had spread to her liver and the pain was no longer something she could control. Those who were able to resist, while cheering for the senior sister, not only lamented the impermanence of life.

Looking back on when I was studying, I admired and envied my senior sister. Study well, be a leader in undergraduate studies, be recommended as a graduate student, and be recognized as having a high standard when defending your master's thesis. One of the five beauties in Xingyuan, with good looks and good temperament. The key is to go to the hall and have access to the kitchen. The senior sister graduated a year earlier and occasionally invited us to eat in her dormitory. We casually set up a table, which was delicious and delicious. He also has high emotional intelligence and can deal with different people appropriately.

My senior sister stayed in school after graduation. A few years later, she studied for a Ph.D. at Sichuan University, and later got married and gave birth to a cute baby. I heard from a junior sister who went back a certain year that she and her husband were a perfect match. They were handsome men and beautiful women. I have a car and a house early on, my husband and wife are in love, and I am one of the top ten young teachers in my unit. I can be called a winner in life.

At that time, my junior sister and I came from poor families, with average academic performance and poor sociability. During those three years in Chongqing, we were lonely, alone, monotonous, and hesitant. We were burdened with family pressure but didn’t know how to break through. In addition to the classroom, life is the dormitory.

After graduation, we struggled to adapt to work and life. Although we have worked for more than ten years and have a stable home, the end we have reached is a new starting point for our senior sister. Occasionally when I am tired of life, I chat with other classmates and I can only express my feelings that we are the same people but have different fates. Most of the time, we can only envy what our senior sister possesses, including her family background and abilities.

The sign of maturity is that one day, we will stop envying others and start to manage our own lives with care, and we will be able to comfort ourselves with contentment. After all, the starting points are different, and being able to outperform ourselves is progress.

The life of ordinary people is that we are struggling in our own place, looking at other people's glamor and beauty in various media and social networks, although we know that it is not the whole picture of life, but we are still consciously or unconsciously Comparison makes one feel sad and sad, adding many worries to life.

We don’t have much contact with our senior sisters. We work and have a family, and everyone has a lot of trivial matters to take care of. The professional nature of teachers limits our social circle accordingly, and occasionally we have sporadic I heard or saw the current situation of my senior sister, recalled the past with a few familiar classmates, and sighed that the days are still moving forward.

I learned about the senior sister’s illness from her comments. It was not easy to ask directly. I just chatted with another senior sister in Nanjing. In addition to blessing her and praying, She didn't realize how serious her disease would be. After all, it was an early-stage cancer that was relatively easy to treat. She thought that senior sister could recover early and remain as normal as before.

Occasionally, I wonder, what causes people to get sick? I have always felt that everything goes smoothly for my senior sister. The only thing I can think of is that in colleges and universities, the pressure of scientific research work is still quite high. With my senior sister's ability and character, it must be quite hard to achieve such good results, but accidents always happen. So sudden.

We live in this world. Although we have known for a long time that life and health come first, when health, life and work expectations conflict, the choices we have are actually so pitiful.

When we are young, we exchange time and health for money and achievements. When we have some money and achievements, God will cruelly give you a blow in the head, and then you have to use your accumulated experience over the years. Money and achievements are at odds with God.

We all thought that the senior sister would get better soon, but we did not expect that her condition would worsen.

I really hope that a miracle will happen to my senior sister and she will recover as soon as possible.

(2)

After the last incident of swearing in the Beijing subway, there were many articles criticizing men who cursed. One of the articles was written by a girl who works as a local promoter based on her personal experience. Written, the main expression in the article is that due to the pressure of life and money, they have no choice but to engage in local promotion in a way that makes others disgusted, because survival is sometimes more important than dignity. If there are good conditions and a good background, who would do it? What about making others hate you?

I also saw in another public account article that an author wrote an article that caused a lot of uproar. It said that many college students work in air-conditioned rooms and complain about hard work all day long. The pressure is high, and some workers at the bottom have to work hard all day under the scorching sun for little extra. They say that those who already enjoy very good conditions have no right to complain about hard work.

After reading the two articles, some of the feelings can indeed be shared, but can this really be compared? If we really compare, I can only say whose life will be easier.

My other senior sister had a very good relationship with me during school, and we kept in touch from time to time after work. If I just listen to her introduction, even I feel that good is not enough to describe it.

A husband and wife, both PhDs, both associate professors, bought a new house in Hebei. They also had a small house given by the school in the early days. It was not big, but it was still two houses. They have a house, a car, and a very smart daughter who studies well. The couple's salary is considered very good in their city. With a background as a farmer, he has established a firm foothold in the city through his own efforts without relying on his family. With a proven resume and achievements, he can be considered a winner in life.

But who knows how hard the senior sister worked, and what price she paid to get this?

When we were in the second year of graduate school, my senior sister’s father died of a sudden illness. I didn’t wait for my senior sister’s graduation, and I didn’t see my senior sister’s results.

In the early days of her career, the wages were very low, and she gave birth to a child very early. When her children get older, it is said that almost all the teachers in their college will have Ph.D.s.

The house allocated by the school is too small, which is inconvenient for the children when they are older, so they save money to buy a new house. The children haven't grown up yet, and they haven't earned much money for the house. The pressure to get a school degree is getting bigger and bigger day by day, so the senior sister made a great effort in those few years.

His husband first went to Jilin to study for a doctorate. During the year when his husband was studying for a doctorate, my senior sister took classes to earn money to pay off the mortgage, took care of the children, and reviewed for the doctorate exam. God knows, what did she do that year? After surviving it, she actually got admitted to the National People's Congress for a doctorate, and most importantly, she took the exam across majors.

Will you be liberated after passing the exam? No, this is just the beginning. In the year he passed the exam, his husband came back to take care of the children, because the senior sister had to go off work to study in the first year. Both of them are studying, so the cost is naturally high, so my senior sister stays in Beijing from Monday to Friday to take classes for her Ph.D., comes back on Friday evening, and teaches her own students on Saturdays and Sundays. On such days, if there is no super strong The willpower can easily make people collapse.

The hard work of the couple has brought about a prosperous life, but the senior sister paid a huge physical price for all this.

She catches colds easily, and many organs in her body get sick from time to time. She should not be too tired and needs to take medicine frequently to nurse herself back to health. The only thing that can comfort me is that many years of hard work have finally paid off, but the future will still not be easy.

College teachers, the pressure of scientific research continues to increase, and their health is poor. Who is to say who is more relaxed than the other?

(3)

We live among the crowd, and there is no way to be as calm as water all the time and not compare with others. We feel anxious and hesitant in comparison, and we also improve and improve ourselves in comparison.

We never compare ourselves with people like Bill Gates or Buffett, because they are too far away from us. We are just ordinary people. What we compare is with people who have direct or indirect contact with us. Only such comparisons will be real and will affect our ordinary emotions and six desires.

I met different classmates when I went to school, met different colleagues at work, and met different parents after my children went to school. In life, I met ordinary people from all walks of life, communicated and interacted with them, and experienced their Despite their hard work, I envy their ease and learn from their optimism.

I was born in a rural area. When I was studying, my classmates who were better off wore beautiful clothes, ate cool popsicles and delicious snacks, and could go shopping in twos and threes after school. However, my classmates from poor families and I were mostly hungry. My stomach makes me unable to concentrate many times in class. We all worked in the fields during school holidays. Poverty was my deepest feeling at that time.

In school, I can be very white like others, but during holidays I am so dark that I can’t even look at it. Not only can I not eat well, I can’t even feel full. I can't afford to wear beautiful clothes, and I can't chat leisurely like others in my free time, because I want to think about how to save, how to make some change, and reduce the burden on my parents.

I will be envious, but I will not complain, because complaining is useless, let alone who can we complain? Complaining about birth? Complaining to God? Our parents worked harder than us. I will never forget my dad’s scarred hands and legs in the rice fields. I will also never forget that my dad left me forever when I just started to earn my own living.

The pain of not being able to support my son but not being with me is especially painful when my life gets better and better.

Carrying double financial and mental pressure, I finished college and graduate school. I thought I could make money, but my father left. I thought I could find a satisfactory job, but God played another big joke on me. By some strange combination of circumstances, I ended up in a place far away from home. I had to make several trips to get home, and the salary was not high. , the unit is not very good either.

In order to make money to sell my house, I once took 27 classes a week, and then I got seriously ill, which left me with sequelae. I caught colds frequently and it took a long time to catch a cold. Far away from my hometown, when I gave birth to a baby, my husband was busy, so I carried my own bag to the hospital. People in the hospital wondered why I was alone. I was so fragile that I laughed at myself because others would not think that I was unmarried. That month, without my parents around, my junior sister asked me if I would suffer from depression, but I was not even qualified to suffer from depression. If I had it, my child would be doomed. In order to write articles and evaluate professional titles, I stayed up until two or three o'clock countless times after my children fell asleep. The achievements and peace that others saw were gained through countless nights of tossing and turning.

Is it hard? Very hard? Feeling wronged? Sometimes I feel aggrieved. Everything that others get easily, we have to pay a hundred times the price.

But I am still fortunate that I can improve my living situation with a little effort. You can give even a little reward to your family through your own efforts. Through my own efforts, I will give my children a better family environment than I did back then.

(4)

I often think that life is inherently unequal. Some people can easily have what you have worked hard for for decades as soon as they are born, or you can’t even if you work hard all your life. the height reached. But sometimes life is equal. God allows you to get this, and maybe you will lose that. God lets you lose this, and maybe you will get that.

But who knows, although life is full of holes, we still have to learn to love life and be kind to ourselves.

Because living is very hard, but living itself is a kind of happiness. Because you are alive, you can feel the sunrise and the breeze. Even if you are in pain, even if your face is full of tears, it is because you are still alive.

Occasionally we can complain, because we are just ordinary people, but after complaining and envy are over, life will continue, and life will not get better because of your complaints.

We can only grit our teeth and persevere. After crossing the night, we can welcome the sunshine of tomorrow.

Only with patience and perseverance can life feel beautiful.

So my senior sister from Chongqing still smiles at every day, stays with her relatives, her lover, and her baby, and works hard to live a good life every day.

My senior sister from Hebei adjusts her mentality and actively exercises, because there are still so many promising days to continue in the future.

Everyone has their own happiness and joy, as well as their sadness and pain. It's just that they left the pain and sadness to the night and yesterday, and left the happiness and smiles to the outside world. After all, apart from sadness and pain, there are still so many beauties and small blessings in your life that cannot be let go

No one’s life is easy. While we envy others, others may also envy us.

No one’s life is easy. If it is easy, it is because they have overcome difficulties and pains that you cannot imagine.

And our misfortune is just because we magnify our own pain and ignore the misfortune of others.

I hope we can all get out of the fog, see the road ahead clearly, and let our lives not have so many regrets.

The real life is that life is not easy, let us do it and cherish it!

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