Please stop being "good for me", I can't stand it!

I witnessed an embarrassing scene in the elevator yesterday.

After I got into the elevator, I found my grandmother carrying two bags of garbage on the 15 floor. After a few commonplaces, I stopped at 13 floor, and a mother pushed the baby in. They are all neighbors of the same unit, and everyone is very enthusiastic, teasing the baby over one year old.

At this time, the grandmother on 15 floor took out an apple from nowhere and handed it to the baby. However, the apple has been bitten by the grandmother twice. When the mother saw it, she immediately euphemistically refused, saying that the child would not eat it. Children over 1 year-old are in the stage of "delicious" and curious about everything, so the little baby picks it up and chews it.

Well, my mother's face froze at once, but she couldn't say anything. To tell the truth, if I were a mother, it would be very difficult.

I believe that young mothers nowadays are very scientific, at least hygienic, in raising their children. Things bitten by adults are generally not given to children, even children. Even many young mothers, in this respect, it is estimated that they have had a lot of popular science or quarrels with their mother-in-law. But in the face of the kindness of my old neighbor, I am so powerless.

I've been in this situation.

Once I sent Little Red Bean to school, I met my neighbor's aunt on my way to school. They just came out of the canteen, and their granddaughter was holding a bag of candy. The neighbor's aunt asked her granddaughter to share one with the little red bean, but the granddaughter didn't want to. Aunt forcibly grabbed one from her granddaughter, threw it in the past, pulled her away, and turned to signal me to pick it up for the little red bean.

Well, the sugar fell on the floor. Facing her back, I was even more dumbfounded. First, I have restricted small red beans from eating sugar. Second, the sugar fell to the ground. I didn't take it, and I didn't take it. Third, Aunt would rather share the baby's crying with Little Red Bean.

I have a feeling of being accosted. I can't do anything well. Pick it up and give it to the little red bean. I feel bad in my heart Don't pick up, and failed to live up to somebody else's aunt's kindness.

To tell the truth, this is more difficult than being kidnapped by morality.

A person kidnapped by morality does something wrong or even does nothing, but asks others to pay or sacrifice for him. But in this case, the other party did something that he thought or meant to be good, and it is difficult for you to instinctively refuse.

It's like hearing your parents say, "I'm doing this for your own good" and doing a lot of things you don't want to accept at all, but there's nothing you can do.

Recently, zhuyuchen and his mother are on the screen.

Zhuyuchen is 40 years old and his old mother is over 70 years old. The old mother is afraid that her son will be angry. She gets up at four o'clock every morning and cooks pear soup for ten years. The ingredients and meat she put in her son's refrigerator will be shredded and put away at one time. Ribs are nicknamed hot water. She will also take an induction cooker and an induction cooker to the crew to cook for her son. The house is spotless and the glass is wiped clean. Vega couldn't help commenting on her old mother: "Your greatness has put a lot of pressure on your children." Zhuyuchen also said helplessly: "Mom, don't say that I am a mother treasure." . It can be seen that he is also suffering from his mother's "good for you" for a long time. He wants to escape, to escape, to change.

In the face of such "for your own good", we instinctively want to escape and don't want to accept it, but we know that it will hurt each other and feel that our kindness has been destroyed.

There is a male colleague in my company who appeared in his thirties, but he has never found a suitable partner. All the people who introduced him said that he was too picky, either because he didn't like it too much, because he was too fat, because he didn't like each other's work, or because the conditions were too good for him to reach ... now no one has introduced him. But think about it, he is not wrong. Although everyone kindly introduced him, there is really no need for him to be wronged by others because he is "good to you" and spend his life with an inappropriate person.

Therefore, I really feel that no matter parents or acquaintances, they should never impose what they think is right on others under the banner of "being good for themselves", so as not to lose both sides. Your "for your own good" is too tired for us to bear.