The old man went to town to take care of his grandson for seven years, but now he doesn't want to go back to the countryside, so his daughter-in-law declined. What should I do?

The old man is in a dilemma. 1, get used to city life. For seven years, the old man has long been familiar with and used to life in the city, and may even like the environment in the city. Now I need an adaptation process when I go back to my hometown. My grandson, who has been waiting for seven years, is unwilling to share his feelings with his grandson, and sincerely hopes to live with his son and grandson all the time.

2, no face. After staying in the city for seven years, it is estimated that people in my hometown think that the elderly will definitely support their old age in the city. At this time, when I go back to my hometown, everyone will feel surprised and the old man will feel ashamed.

3. grievances. The old man took care of his grandson for seven years, and he worked hard without merit. I didn't expect his daughter-in-law to treat herself like this. After seven years of life, the old man thought he had melted into a small family, but he had no idea that his daughter-in-law would regard herself as a member of his family.

I suggest going back to my hometown

1, son is difficult to do. It is difficult for men at home to understand the subtle relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law If you insist on staying, the son naturally has no reason to stay, but the daughter-in-law will be unhappy and may give you a look.

There is an old man living in our community. She used to live with her son and daughter-in-law. Although she didn't get along well with her daughter-in-law, she brought up her grandson. When she is close to herself, she is happy most of the time.

If you quarrel with your daughter-in-law, if your son doesn't like it, he will come in and scold her. As a result, her daughter-in-law said that you bullied me with your mother. As a result, the bride's family did not understand. They also get together to criticize. Later, she moved out and lived alone. She said:

"Save your son and don't quarrel with his wife."

If you are sure that your daughter-in-law doesn't like living with you, then move out while the other party is still polite, so as to save more unhappiness and escalation of contradictions, which will embarrass your son and affect the feelings of husband and wife. This should be something you don't want to see.

2. Different ideas. Sometimes, between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, there is no question of who is good or bad. Sometimes it's really between generations. After a long time, there will be contradictions and frictions. If you haven't got along well with your daughter-in-law for seven years and haven't established a suitable mode of getting along, it can only show that the fate between you is really not deep enough.

3. Daughter-in-law has a poor personality. Take the elderly home to help take care of the children. Please take the old man back to his hometown when the child reaches the age of primary school. It doesn't make sense emotionally or intellectually. Daughter-in-law's personality is poor, and she broke the bridge. Since you have been together for seven years, no matter how hard you work, your daughter-in-law's gratitude will not change. That is to say, in these seven years, your daughter-in-law had to let you live at home only because no one took care of the children. In fact, the daughter-in-law's personality should not be easy to get along with at ordinary times. I suggest you leave early and don't associate with such people.

One of our relatives, her husband and wife are very busy at work, and no one takes care of the children. My mother-in-law offered to help her take care of the children in her hometown, but she refused, because the old man might have to live with them all the time after taking care of the children. The youngest daughter at home was loved by her parents since she was a child, and she always felt out of place when she got along with her mother-in-law. So, she put her children in a married family and asked her mother to help her.

I think this relative is a person who can put himself in the other's shoes. When she needs to take care of the children, she can ask her mother-in-law to come over. When the child grows up, she can't just let the old man go back to his hometown. People should not be too selfish, come at their own convenience, without considering the feelings of others.

Old people should have their own lives. Some people say that you can rent a house near your son if you have money. I think it is appropriate to go back to my hometown unless my son and daughter-in-law bear all the rent and living expenses. There is a saying here that "old people's money is better than their children's". Don't spend all your savings.

From now on, even if the old people live alone, they should try their best to live a good life, eat and drink well, make people comfortable, and have fewer miscellaneous diseases. Take care of yourself, one is to be healthy and suffer less, and the other is to cause less trouble to your children and grandchildren.