The real reason why couples fall into mental fatigue is that life has become a sad "competition". Do you agree?

Introduction: Women don't understand men's pressure, nor do women's manipulative and hard-working men, which leads to a sad and tired competition, which fills each other's inner helplessness and fatigue and blinds each other's love. Home is the union of husband and wife. Only when husband and wife understand each other, tolerate each other and care about each other can they know happiness and happiness!

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Time is a butcher's knife, which makes people old. Husband and wife, is to support each other, each other bravely forward, stumbling together in the years.

They are under the pressure of time, life, work, economy and the complexity of the world.

Therefore, many people always take it as a logical conclusion that they are tired and bored. At the same time, they always attribute the reasons to the outside world, prevaricate each other with trite excuses, and even often interpret Bilei as a family debate, which makes people feel weird and terrible!

Xiaobai, a good friend, is a full-time mother. Two years ago, she resigned and took care of her two children at home. Her husband works in a private enterprise.

She told me about dinner the other day. Her husband seldom gets off work normally. Every day when he comes home, he goes straight to the table to eat, then moves to the living room and lies on the sofa watching his mobile phone.

On that day, older children need help with their homework and will call their mothers when they encounter problems. Occasionally, the child will go back to make trouble, causing the older child to be upset, or have to pee for a while, and then go to the kitchen to hug her thigh. She can only put down her work and let her husband help with her homework or wash the dishes. The promise she can get is always to wait a little longer.

Wait a minute, wait a minute, wait until the older children finish their homework, the younger children get dressed and arrange for them to watch TV for a while, but Mr. Wang is still concentrating on playing with his mobile phone, and the kitchen is still in a mess.

Xiaobai was very angry and asked him why he didn't wash it.

Mr. Wang still stared at the mobile phone and casually said, "I'll take a break first and I'll definitely wash it later."

Xiaobai said: "You never care about eating and drinking Lazar at home. You don't care about big homework. You don't care about small pants. You don't care if I try hard. You just know to look at your mobile phone and talk to it!"

Mr. Wang said, "Do you know how busy I am at work? I answered forty or fifty emails a day and held four meetings. On the way back, the boss called to talk about things. I don't have time for lunch. When eating, my mind is still thinking about things, so I just watch my mobile phone to divert my attention. I have low back pain for a day, can't I lie down? "

Xiaobai said, "I buy food, escort my children, wash clothes and tidy up, take my two children to interest classes, come back to cook and wash dishes, wash their faces and put them to sleep." I get up the earliest and go to bed the latest every day. I want to lie down all day. Is there anything to eat? "

Mr. Wang is tit for tat: "Your time is free, you can choose the key actions, and you can rest and relax at any time. To arrange subordinates, to deal with the boss, to coordinate the work of other departments, to worry about family events, and endless entertainment. I'm exhausted. "

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The old woman said the old woman was right, and the public said the public was right. Both of them think they are the most tired and hard-working people in the family.

But after the fierce quarrel, the kitchen leftovers were left there. One of the husband and wife angrily went to the balcony to smoke, and the other went back to the room to wipe tears, showing a helpless and sad scene.

How many families, how many couples, live as if for each other. The housework of rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea triggered a family debate. They are desperately emphasizing that they are tired, ignoring each other's efforts, so that the feelings between husband and wife have lost their original sweetness.

Life is not easy, we try our best to argue with each other, but we don't consider and make concessions for each other. There are many disputes, not only life is tired, but also our hearts will be more tired!

Couples will feel busier and more tired at work, and look forward to relaxing after coming home from work and having a warm moment waiting for them.

In fact, when they get home, they all want to rest and relax, but the atmosphere is tense. They often quarrel because of all kinds of trivial matters, and they are tired to death. As a result, they are always flustered and full of complaints. Then life will always be full of quarrels and arguments, and there will never be peace.

The reason is nothing more than being too self-centered and failing to tolerate and understand each other.

Many couples are like this, not because they don't love each other, but because of the pressure of life and many other reasons, they only see their own hard work, can't understand the fatigue of others, and vent their emotions to each other without scruple, even a little unreasonable and harsh.

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Both husband and wife think that they are the most tired and can have a good rest, but they don't know that others need buffering and refueling.

Marriage is a way of life. How to live and how to be happy, husband and wife should communicate and make their own choices in a planned way, instead of blaming each other and shirking their responsibilities. Over time, life will be fragmented.

Secondly, selfish, cognitive bias, completely forget each other's love for themselves.

Men feel that they are carrying their families, that is, trying to earn money; Women feel that when they are young, they are raising children and managing the family; They are condensed in a track, but they are moving in the direction of mutual cognition.

Both husband and wife think that they are the most important at home, exaggerate their fatigue, ignore or belittle each other, evade their duties and obligations, vent their invisible negative energy everywhere, and make the family full of contradictions and entanglements.

Marriage is the longest project for couples to cooperate. Men are under all kinds of pressure to build their careers and livelihoods, while women do housework and raise children. In addition to the hard work of energy and physical strength, they are also depressed and weak inside.

If a family wants to operate harmoniously and smoothly, both husband and wife must have a substitute at the right time, and each should take care of what they are good at.

Don't try to have too much superiority in front of each other, don't just love yourself, the worst man or woman, no one understands each other's efforts. People who don't want to divorce or take on too many family responsibilities complain and criticize each other in marriage.

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Happy families generally look happy and warm, and three meals a day is to enjoy delicious pleasure.

That's because the indifference and mutual encouragement between husband and wife, rather than complaining about hard work and striving for success, is the result of * * * sharing responsibilities and efforts, making planned arrangements for housework and economy, weighing the distribution of advantages and disadvantages, and negotiating and cooperating with * * *.

In adult life, no one is more relaxed than anyone else, and we all need to bear corresponding responsibilities. All love can only be called caring for each other after experiencing oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, tea and complicated pickling and infiltration.

Only when all couples understand and tolerate each other, pay sincerely and perform sincerely can they live up to their lifelong love.

Men are the pillars of the family, and women are the masters of the family. A family needs two people to run it together, without which it will become incomplete and unhappy.

Both husband and wife contribute to the glory and happiness of the family. They should be considerate of each other, care about each other, understand each other's hard work and efforts, bear corresponding responsibilities, work together and reach an understanding, so that the marriage can be long-term and complete.