What is a sentence that you believe more and more in your life?

People always hear too many truths in their lives, but there are not many that they can remember and always believe. I now believe more and more in one sentence: A gentleman is less sophisticated than a man of sophistication, and less of a rude man than a man of caution. I take this sentence as my code of conduct in life.

This sentence comes from Cai Gentan, which is an ancient Chinese book that combines Buddhism to describe the philosophy of life. The author is no longer known, but many sentences are far-reaching, and harmony is still important to our lives. Very strong practical value.

I like this sentence because it allows me to make a decision when I am most unable to make a choice, and my heart is very smooth. We inevitably have to come into contact with others in life. The first thing we learn from society is that we should care about other people's opinions, but people's hearts are unpredictable. No matter how careful you are, there will always be places where you offend others. Faced with this, everyone makes different choices and goes in different directions. The experience of getting along with others is not learned, but comes from putting yourself in their own shoes. It takes many detours and many encounters before you can accumulate practical experience.

When I first started working, I was used to observing everyone's actions, because as a basic worker, I didn't have much say and needed to deal with everyone carefully. It’s hard to guess how people think when dealing with many people and not being able to take full care of them. It’s really hard to make a choice, and there are very few people who can truly be all-rounded. There’s not much benefit to learning from all the different things.

A gentleman is less sophisticated than simple, which is to warn us that if you can't understand the world, it's better to be confused. Keep things simple for yourself, don't be cautious, make compromises, do things simply and directly, ask if you don't understand something, and learn if you don't understand. Simple philosophical concepts can make you more easy-going, and will not easily arouse the rejection of you by people around you. You can adapt to any environment. China’s golden mean teaches us to be capable and good people. This sentence is also true. When you don’t want to control the world by your own abilities, you will find that the world will always tend to develop in your direction.

People can be easy-going, but they cannot have a temper. If you are kind, you will be bullied. So the second half of the sentence tells us that instead of being cautious or careless, it means that if you deal with the things in front of you carefully and worry about gains and losses, you will easily make mistakes. It is better to make yourself more open-minded. There is no big deal in the world, no matter what No matter what happens, stay happy. The setbacks you encounter are just a matter of laughing and starting over from the beginning. This can make you highly contagious and easily lead people around you to cooperate with you. Even some sophisticated people will think that you are a simple-minded person. Even if you make some small mistakes, it will be difficult for them to find reasons to argue with you.

Principles need to be applied. It is impossible to do well all the time. You have to get used to it and adapt to it, and slowly change yourself. When you work hard to develop in one direction, you will find that you have become another image. In the eyes of others, you are optimistic, open-minded, and uncompromising, but you must cultivate yourself to be meticulous in your heart. The external way of thinking is to be shown to others, but the internal one is what you should achieve. Everyone can think I'm stupid, but you can't think I'm really stupid.

I suggest you read Cai Gen Tan more when you have time. Although many of the ideas in it are related to religion, it demonstrates the impact of people's behavior on themselves from both positive and negative aspects. This is a dialectical Philosophy is of great benefit to our lives.