Talk about my understanding of goals

Article/Brother Fei who loves learning

‖ ?Brother Fei has something to say, focusing on exploring the things that college students learn, read, and live.

Tonight, let’s talk about goal setting. In fact, each of us will make plans for ourselves. We have New Year’s plans in the New Year, mid-year plans in the middle of the year, five-year plans, and even ten-year plans. However, when you look back and look at it, many of the plans we made at the beginning failed.

So we often lament: The ideal is very full, but the reality is very skinny.

I recently read some books on time management, behavioral psychology, etc., and gained some new understanding of goal setting. I will summarize my views in my own words below, hoping to help my classmates. .

1. A good goal must meet two conditions. One is to have appropriate difficulty. The difficulty should be reasonable. It should not be too difficult and exceed your current ability, nor should it be too easy. A goal that can be completed easily is not a goal.

The second is to be specific. Specifically, there must be quantification and time limits. When they were young, many people would talk about their ideals, such as becoming a scientist, but when they grow up, they find that most people cannot achieve it. Why? It is because this goal is not specific enough. What kind of scientist you want to become, to what extent you want to achieve it and within what time period you want to achieve it. These problems cannot be solved, and the ideal is just a fantasy.

2. The goal must be "meaningful". When we set goals, we often solve the "what" problem, but fail to solve the "why" problem. For a good goal, we must actively give the goal "meaning", that is, ask "why". Many students don’t know why they want to go to graduate school until they finish graduate school. So when I graduated, I didn’t know what path I would take in the future. If you don’t seriously think about the question “Why should I go to graduate school?”, you may go around in circles throughout your life and achieve nothing. The correct approach is to ask more "why". When I set this goal, what are my thoughts? What can it give me?

When exploring the meaning of your goals, ask yourself at least ten questions.

3. Goals require supervision by others. Boldly telling others about your goals and letting others supervise you can make you more motivated to complete your goals. I never really believe that one person can complete a difficult thing without any feedback. All persistence requires a strong feedback system. Take writing as an example. If no one is willing to read what you write, and no one can give you advice, I advise you to give up quickly, because this industry is not suitable for you.

Speak out your goals boldly and let others tell you whether you can do it or not.

4. Goals need to be decomposed. Compared with "I want to be admitted to the 985 school as a graduate student", it is more worthwhile for you to decide how many words to review and how many chapters to study every day. When we set goals, they are often too big and rough. Setting these big goals will add unnecessary pressure to us. Even if the goals are too big, it is easy to lose effective evaluation and self-reflection of the goals, which ultimately leads to the failure of actions. You will be unsure and may even give up midway.

Therefore, break down the big goal into small goals, just like a marathon runner. They will never think that my task is to finish the race, but that my next task is to finish 5 Kilometers, after running 5 kilometers, the next goal is still 5 kilometers, and so on until the whole distance is completed.

Starting today, record the progress of your daily actions, and use this to tell yourself what you will do tomorrow.

5. Look within for answers. The so-called looking inward for answers means setting goals that conform to your own three views. We are easily impressed by the outstanding abilities of others, so when setting goals, we often set goals that are not in line with our own abilities or three views. For example, you see a classmate who has strong speaking skills. He often organizes language well in various meetings and can even mobilize the atmosphere of the scene well.

However, if you also want to learn from him, first ask yourself, do you have this ability? If you are an introvert and would tremble when standing in a crowd, I still suggest you give up this goal. In fact, you can set goals from another aspect. For example, if your expression ability is lacking but your writing ability is outstanding, you can train your writing ability. This is more meaningful than forcing yourself to stand in a crowd and memorize the contents of the speech. .

6. Action. Many people are actually pretending to set goals, pretending to study, and pretending to act. This can easily create an illusion: Why can't I succeed even though I work hard? In fact, you are all pretending, but sometimes you pretend too much and you believe it. Achieving a goal can never be achieved casually. You have to give up your pretense and act according to your own ideal standards. In the end, you will achieve your goal.

7. Believe in yourself. Whether we can achieve our goals, in fact, the biggest obstacle is not the problem of goal setting, but ourselves. Because of our ingrained ideas, we often deny ourselves in our brains. Therefore, affirming yourself and believing in yourself are the keys to achieving your goals.

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