My son doesn't like his mother cooking. Tell me about it.

1, your child is only 3 years old, and the child is not sensible. Don't be too sad.

2. Children need education and scientific education. You can find some books on how to educate children, which may not all work, but you can see what others think. I don't know the relationship between your mother-in-law and your daughter-in-law. You haven't said anything about your relationship with your husband. Have you reached an understanding of educating your children? However, in a family, if one spouse dotes on the child, promises everything and protects the child under any circumstances, then the other spouse can't educate the child, because for the child, mom and dad are inconsistent, which will lead to the 3-year-old child falling into chaos. The education of children should be authoritative, not to say that "mom is right, you must listen to her", but to let him.

It is precisely because your husband and his grandmother love this child very much that you should discipline him in theory, but in fact this contrast is in sharp contrast with the severity brought about by your great responsibility. Maybe your mother-in-law said you shouldn't do this in front of the children, or worse, maybe your mother-in-law didn't even say anything, but didn't you think about it? Maybe you hurt the child by hitting him! Have you ever thought about the reason why the child pulled his pants and then you hit him? Did you punish him and educate him by hitting him? Do you think this kind of education is right? Or, because he pulled your pants and made you feel troublesome and humiliated, would you subconsciously use corporal punishment as an excuse to vent? I think you should relax and adjust your mood. I can see that you love your child very much and are under great pressure. You are worried that your education will be bad for him. However, it is wrong for you to be so strict. Children will listen to others and understand themselves. If he feels that he didn't pull his pants on purpose, or even was wronged and beaten by his mother, will he feel more hurt?

So I suggest you don't put so much pressure on yourself, and at the same time discuss with your husband whether you spoil your children too much. I believe you are all for the good of your children, and the couple should twist into a rope to educate their children together! Also, in the face of children's mistakes, we should handle them with a more tolerant attitude. You should stick to your principles gently and tell your children that "this is wrong and must be corrected". You should convey to your child that your mother criticized you because you did something wrong and how to correct it next time, not because your mother is not good to you and she still loves you.

In our daily life, we often see adults recalling their childhood experiences of being beaten by their mothers, saying that they were beaten as children, and then seeing their mothers crying in their arms at night, and they reflect on themselves-although they use bad jokes, it shows that if you don't follow up, children will not really reflect on their mistakes after being corporal punishment, but will only form a conditioned reflex like tamed animals.