My brother gives me 5000 yuan a month to cook for my paralyzed mother every day, but my wife doesn't agree. What should I do?

Everyone says nice things. Is it as simple as cooking to take care of a paralyzed mother? Which one of you has taken care of paralyzed patients!

You need to cook, feed and serve tea and water every day. You can't eat too much at a meal. You need to cook more meals. You don't know whether you are warm or hungry. You need to estimate how much you eat at each meal. You have to sum up the situation and try to eat several meals a day. Don't tell me when you are thirsty. Can you do it well without your heart?

Besides, you often shit on your clothes. There is a bad smell in summer, so wash more. In winter, it is ice and snow outside. Did you go to the river to wash your parents' clothes in the snow and ice? Winter is not over yet, try the river! Paralyzed people are often constipated, and it is normal that they can't pull down. Have you ever shit for your parents?

In addition, turn over, paralyzed in bed, often have bedsores, and need to turn over every day. Have you ever done it? If you haven't done it, you shouldn't say such sarcastic words here!

Let's talk about sleep first If you want to serve patients well, you have to be on standby at any time. It is normal for you to get up at night. Some people say that you can't sleep well at night, but make up for it during the day! Can you discuss it with the patient? Can you stand not sleeping well every day?

There are still many aspects to be paid attention to in serving patients, so I won't list them one by one. .................

I don't agree with his lover's behavior, but I despise his brother's attitude. If everyone gives money to your brothers and sisters, then everyone is willing to take money instead of taking care of them. In my opinion, everyone should not spend money, no matter how high or low, they should be filial and take turns to serve their paralyzed mothers according to their schedules!

That was a few years ago. A neighbor's mother is paralyzed in bed, unable to take care of herself and needs children to take care of her. His six sisters, three sons, three daughters and the youngest daughter all got married in their own village. Both the eldest son and the second son have passed away, and the eldest daughter is in poor health and can only take care of herself. The third son settled in other places, far away, and could not go home to take care of his mother. At first, the third son paid for it and a female sister took care of it. However, the old man died after being paralyzed in bed for eight years. Later, only his little daughter took care of him. Those daughters don't come often. On the third day, there was no dutiful son by the bed. There was no diaper at that time. That's old clothes. I bought cotton cloth, especially in winter. It's very cold. Wash it and dry it. The youngest daughter was really filial and was moved. The third son was also moved. The son went back on his word and didn't give it to her, which led to the loss of affection. Now, seeing her is the same as not knowing her. My brother gave you 5000 yuan to wait on your mother, but her husband didn't agree. My mother and my brother's husband are your closest relatives. You are married and have a family. It is a tradition of China people to honor their parents, even if they don't give money. Discuss with your husband and see what his solution is. If the family is together, there must be a good solution through consultation.

Judging from your description, you may not earn much in a month, otherwise your brother wouldn't say so. You two brothers have an obligation to take care of the old man for a month. They each pay 5000 yuan, which is 1 ten thousand yuan. Your brother gives you 5000 yuan a month, which is equivalent to giving you 10 thousand yuan to take care of him for a month. I feel fine, but it's really tiring to serve the elderly. If you don't want to, you can ask your brother to hire someone to take care of him for a month. I guess 10 thousand depends on what you think

Your question prompted me to write a long article. (alone)

As a person who has served the elderly for 10 years and climbed out of depression, let me judge what you will lose because of this 5,000 yuan:

Professional things are left to professional people. Serving paralyzed patients is not only hard, but also requires nursing knowledge. For this chronic patient, the degree of care determines the length of life. At that time, in 20 10, my father's attending physician told me that the average life span of this disease was 5 years, and now we have been 10 years. Needless to say, the middle process is hard, but under the same medical conditions, under the premise of no fatal diseases, the care of chronic diseases determines the length of life.

Similar to my family, my family is also funded by my brothers to take care of the elderly. Mixed feelings!

This is not entirely because my brother is rich and he pays, but because of his trust in my sister. Maybe my brother knows very well that his wife is not qualified to take care of the role of mother and handle this contradiction in the family in advance. As a sister (mother's daughter), I can take care of my mother more intimately.

The intimacy between a daughter and her daughter-in-law is different and cannot be compared. (Sisters, don't spray yet, personal opinion! )

I am somebody else's daughter-in-law I get along well with my mother-in-law. But the mother-in-law will tell her daughter (sister-in-law) or ask for more. What's wrong with her, what she wants to eat, what she wants to do and so on.

I personally understand that my wife doesn't agree here. But it's up to you whether to have sex or not.

You have your own family.

Many things are easier said than done. If there is a problem, the two companies must negotiate in advance. Improper handling can easily lead to conflicts between the two families.

Remember: home is the warmest place in the world, and it is also the place we yearn for most. Because parents are here and home is here!

My brother gives me 5000 yuan a month to cook for my paralyzed mother every day, but my wife doesn't agree. What should I do?

First of all, supporting the elderly is the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation and the obligation of our children stipulated by law. Your mother is paralyzed in bed now, and she definitely needs children to take care of her. In filial piety, never compare children, but do it according to your own conscience, and don't have any unbalanced psychology.

Your brother gives you 5000 yuan a month to take care of your paralyzed mother every day. At least you have this filial piety. In terms of gender, after all, men and women are different, and sometimes it may be inconvenient, even for mothers. You spend 5000 yuan to hire someone to take care of your mother, and she may not be at ease. After all, you are his own sister. His income may be higher than yours. If he takes care of his mother at home, the loss will be very great. Paying you to take care of him can take care of the overall situation, and he doesn't want to. In this case, your lover is a little unreasonable.

If your brother doesn't want to take care of your mother just because he is rich and dirty, then this kind of effort is too much, and it is reasonable for your lover to disagree. Even if I give you 10000 yuan, the mood is different. My mother will be very sad. Filial piety cannot be measured by money. You can't prove the money, let him take care of it.

My uncle and brother are three years old, and my mother is paralyzed in bed. She can't take care of herself and needs someone to take care of her. It turned out that the three brothers took turns to take care of her. Because the boss runs his own company, he is very busy every day, and the second and third children are relatively idle in farming at home, so the boss spends money on the second and third children to take care of her every month. This is also very reasonable. The three brothers get along well and have no complaints. Is this not good?

The poor inherit the wind. Parents have worked hard to raise us, and when they are old, it is time for us to feed back. In the face of filial piety, don't hesitate, don't compare. Parents are children's role models, establish a good family style and let love pass on.

My mother is paralyzed in bed now, and I will take good care of her at all costs.

If my brother has no time to take care of my mother, I will take care of my mother myself.

Dude, I can't take your money. You can give it to your mother yourself.

My daughter-in-law can't stop me from honoring my mother. I am a man, and I know what to do. It is my duty to take good care of my mother.

Disagreement is true love!

It is every child's duty for crows to feed back. It is essential to make use of one's own advantages and abandon one's obligations!

Buy out your time and strength with money, buy out your normal order and get along with your family, and you will be accused of being greedy for money and unfilial if you are not careful. Be wary of such affection!

Do what you have to do while you are alive. Don't take the responsibility of others. Only by being clear can conflicts and resentment be reduced.

Mother is her own mother, brother has no time, and brother pays! Sister, there is nothing wrong with it! Why do you have to ask your husband for advice when taking care of your mother? Why does your husband object? Difficult, isn't he raised by his parents? Or, you can pay 5000 yuan for your brother to hire a nanny to take care of his mother. Does your husband agree? Or ask your husband, does he choose to give or contribute? Don't say that children are different, children should be filial!

Mothers can't take care of themselves, so children should negotiate a feasible plan, which can take good care of the elderly without hurting each other's kindness.

I have had a similar experience, and I can understand how you feel. Here, I would like to talk about my views and suggestions from the following aspects.

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Judging from the decision that "my brother gives me 5000 yuan a month to cook for my paralyzed mother every day", your brother still feels guilty about you, because he knows the meaning of the old saying "raising children to prevent old age".

Your brother may have some unspeakable helplessness. He can't guarantee his mother three meals a day, or he can't guarantee that her mother who is paralyzed in bed can eat, drink and eat well. If he lets his aunt cook, he will pay his sister to cook for the old man for fear that his old mother will be wronged.

The price level of living in big cities may be higher. For ordinary people, a person's monthly meal fee of 5000 yuan is enough, even if your hard work is included, it is meaningful. After all, they are brothers and sisters, and it is your own mother who is paralyzed in bed. Even if your brother earns a lot, it's not a pie in the sky.

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It can be seen from the "lover disagrees" that your lover still loves you very much.

You have to go to work, take care of children, buy food, cook and do housework. Your little house keeps you busy. Now, if you cook three meals a day for your mother-a nutritious meal suitable for bedridden patients, it will be a trivial matter if you do less housework and can't go to work normally. Your wife is worried that your body will be overwhelmed and exhausted again.

As a son-in-law, it is of course appropriate to invite my mother-in-law to have a bite, but I really don't want my wife to work so hard for a long time. This has nothing to do with the amount of money, it is not a question of money at all!

03

Daughter will always be mother's cotton-padded jacket. Even if your brother is penniless, your daughter will try her best to serve her mother well. Even if you have been tortured to a nervous breakdown and exhausted, you will certainly kneel and crawl to serve your mother.

Brother has to pay for cooking for his mother. You can feel his love for you. On the other hand, your lover is afraid that you are exhausted and disagrees. You can feel your husband's deep love for you.

Do you feel helpless when your love for your mother, your love for your brother and your love for your husband are intertwined? I don't know how to deal with it so that "love" doesn't hurt each other.

My mother was ill for three years, and she was bedridden, and she also met your embarrassment now. But through family "round table" and practice, as well as what I have seen and heard, I think the scheme we implemented is still feasible.

1, hire a care worker from a service organization with good reputation.

Patients who stay in bed for a long time like this are most afraid of bedsores, and they need to turn over for up to 2 hours every hour. Moreover, when patients lie on their side and lie flat, pay attention to the height of the bed, and professional nurses can handle it well.

In order to prevent muscle atrophy caused by long-term bed rest, it is necessary to do full-body massage and exercise at regular intervals every day. The bones of the elderly have become very fragile, and a little carelessness will lead to injuries and even fractures. Professional care workers are trained and even have certificates.

Patients who can't take care of themselves should be cleaned once every morning and evening, and urinate and change diapers countless times every day. Only in this way, careful nursing is not easy to grow bedsores. If the child does it himself every time and is young and strong, he can recite it for a while; However, for their young children, I am afraid it is a nightmare.

2. Rich children contribute a lot.

When my mother was still in the hospital, there lived an old lady in her seventies in the hospital bed. She has three children. The boss and the second child are both girls and have retired; The third is a boy, still at work.

The nursing expenses are paid in 200 yuan every day, and the nursing food allowance is paid by the son in 50 yuan every day. The two daughters are responsible for the old mother's three meals a day. As for what to eat? How to cook and deliver food in shifts? After discussion between the two daughters, the mother's food expenses are also borne by them.

In order to get better care for their mother, the two sisters will bring a copy to the nursing staff every time they send their mother a meal. My brother goes to the hospital to visit his mother after work every day, and the family looks very happy.

I hope my analysis and suggestions will help or inspire you to solve problems in your family.

I wish your mother a speedy recovery!