Colleagues in the company are very indifferent. What is the reason?

Xiaowen welcomed a new life last year and returned to normal work after taking maternity leave. Although Xiaowen has already done some mental construction before returning to work, the work situation may be different and she needs to re-adapt to the workplace environment and work content. But she really didn't expect that she would face such a situation: Even though she just came back from maternity leave, her colleagues were still the same colleagues before the maternity leave, but why did they become so indifferent? It was obvious that they had a great time chatting together, but when Xiaowen walked over, they immediately stopped talking and returned to their respective workstations to continue working. Obviously everyone has brought food, even if I invite them to sit together, they would rather squeeze 6 people into a table for 4 people. Obviously her colleagues knew about the dinner party that evening, but no one informed her. The next day, Xiaowen was criticized by her boss for not attending the dinner party.

Xiaowen felt particularly aggrieved. She obviously did nothing wrong, but why did everyone treat her so indifferently? 1. Being marginalized is a norm in the workplace. Being treated indifferently and marginalized is a norm

The workplace itself is a vanity fair, which is especially in line with the words of former British Foreign Secretary Palmerston: "There are no permanent friends, and there are no permanent friends." There are no eternal enemies, only eternal interests.”

Because of this, you may be having a peaceful exchange with your colleagues one moment, and the next moment they are catering to each other and accommodating each other in order to stay together or survive in the workplace, as if this way they can get along with others. Become a group, close and powerful.

So if you have done nothing bad or done anything sorry for others, but you are inexplicably treated with indifference, marginalized, or even looked down upon, this is a kind of being ostracized and isolated by others. phenomenon. It often manifests itself as:

When joining a company or a new team as a newcomer; When disagreeing with the immediate leader and being marginalized; When being blocked by colleagues because they are about to leave; When taking maternity leave When returning to work, many people in the workplace, including you, have experienced more or less the cold violence of being marginalized and treated indifferently in the workplace. This can make you feel out of place in the moment, which can make you feel stressed and depressed.

At this time, you should look at the situation of being treated indifferently and marginalized calmly. After all, this is a normal situation in the workplace, but this time it unfortunately happened to you. Instead of feeling sorry for yourself, it is better to work hard to get rid of the current situation

Maybe it is very unfortunate that you are in a state of being marginalized and isolated, but you can also look at this phenomenon calmly.

Many times, this is not just your problem. Everyone has a social attribute and will inevitably come into contact with society and groups. Sometimes friction will inevitably occur. It is difficult to clearly say who is right and who is wrong. But you still feel wronged in your heart and feel that you have been treated unfairly.

First of all, you must adjust your mentality and continue to live optimistically, as if this short-term loneliness is an independent space for yourself. Enjoy this time of dialogue, communication, and solitude with yourself.

Secondly, be yourself and analyze clearly what can be changed and what cannot be changed. Compromise and concessions are required but the maximum extent they can be achieved requires detailed analysis of specific issues.

Finally, be proud of yourself who is not afraid of being isolated and marginalized. You have overcome group pressure, do not follow the crowd, have a firm stand, have strong ability to withstand pressure, and have strong psychological qualities that can resist the ridicule, indifference, sarcasm and exclusion of others, and become a hard-working and outstanding being.

So when faced with the status quo of being treated indifferently and marginalized, instead of feeling sorry for yourself, you might as well work hard to analyze the reasons and change the status quo. Do three things well to get rid of the status quo of being isolated, excluded, and marginalized. Analyze the situation calmly, stabilize your mentality, and analyze your own demands

Since being isolated, excluded, and marginalized is already the status quo, it is even more important to analyze it calmly. Only by considering your own objective situation can you make your next action plan.

What kind of department are you in, and what is the relationship between colleagues? What about relationships with other departments? Is being excluded a confrontation within the larger team or is it just limited to a few specific people? What are the reasons for the current situation? What kind of obstacles and troubles does ostracizing your colleagues cause to your work? Is your boss aware of this? Are there any colleagues in the team who are in the same situation as you? How has this situation affected your work and career development?

At the same time, think about it from a third-party perspective, how do you feel psychologically when faced with this situation? What should the correct mental state be, and what is the most fundamental desire in your heart?

Stay calm. Faced with the reasons for being isolated, can you make compromises and debug? If you can't understand it yourself and can't stand this kind of isolation, you can take appropriate actions, make changes, and let the other person know: Although I am a soft persimmon, I will not let anyone manipulate me. Communicate actively, win sympathy, and seek trust and support

No one can be as popular as money, and in fact money may not be able to do that. Therefore, when you are squeezed out by other colleagues, you can actively communicate and let the leader understand your plight through communication and win sympathy; show your ability and enthusiasm through hard work and gain the trust and support of the leader.

As the opinion leader of a team or department, gaining the trust and sympathy of the leader will make his or her work and situation smoother and more satisfying. Even if you are still isolated at this time, your colleagues can't do anything to you. Even with the leadership's attention, this kind of clumsy and crowded team may be diverted, or even completely broken.

And people who are deeply appreciated by their leaders will also be more stable in the workplace and will go further than others. So instead of worrying about being squeezed out of a group, it is better to make achievements and communicate actively. Work hard to perform your duties, improve your business, and enhance your competitiveness in the workplace

No matter what situation you face, you must work hard to do things within the scope of your responsibilities, and don't give others an excuse to find fault with you. After all, when you have no flaws, others can't do anything to you.

When you are marginalized, you will find that you suddenly have more time. The time originally used for socializing is released, and this time is used to improve business capabilities, enhance self-awareness, work hard to learn business knowledge, enhance professional competitiveness, and upgrade workplace competitiveness.

At the same time, you must leave yourself a way out at all times. With your strong workplace competitiveness, when your job is really unpleasant, you can quickly find new opportunities that suit you.

In the face of being marginalized, never be shy. The workplace is not everything in your life, and everything in life is not for the eyes of others. Work hard to enrich yourself, whether it is spiritual level or real life, so that you can enrich yourself. Make yourself more confident. It is more important to like yourself than to be liked by others.