Mother gave birth to grandmother. Why are most families "grandma helping to take care of the children"?

In the program "Dear Come for Dinner", Huang Zulin and Fan had a meal and walked into a Shanghai family. This family, like all parents in China, took the initiative to take care of their two grandchildren when their daughter was busy making a living.

Wong Cho Lam also has a mother-in-law in Shanghai. He also shared the fact that her parents-in-law helped take care of his wife and daughter. When I go out to work, my parents-in-law help take care of my wife and daughter. At that time, my daughter was still young and nursed at night. My father-in-law took care of her for one night and my mother-in-law took care of her for one hundred days. They take turns to look after the children, even if it is hard.

In fact, this is not what all parents are currently facing. Nowadays, it has become a common phenomenon for grandma to take care of the baby, and only a small part of it is brought by grandma. China News once launched a poll, and more than half of people voted for grandma to take care of the children.

The son of Linlin, an upstairs neighbor, is four years old and should go to primary school in two years, but the local policy is that he can go to school only if he has a local hukou. Linlin wants to work in the local area for several years, get local social security and settle down in the local area.

Because taking care of children at home a few years ago does not involve the elderly taking care of children. But now I have to go to work, and the children have to pick up and drop off the kindergarten every day, so Linlin wants her mother-in-law to help take care of her for several years. However, the mother-in-law refused to help with the children on the grounds that life is inconvenient, she can't communicate with people in dialects when she goes out, and she has language barriers.

Linlin had no choice but to turn to her mother for help. When she was discussing with her mother, her mother said, You can go to work if you want, son. I'll pick you up, so you can work with peace of mind. . In this way, mothers send their children to school every day and clean the house and cook during the day. It's been three years. For three years, mom and dad separated and dad worked in his hometown. Every holiday, my father will come and live together. Seeing her mother's efforts for their family, Linlin was very sad and ashamed of her parents. Instead of enjoying herself, she helped. Linlin couldn't help but sigh? It's good to have a mother. Is a child with a mother a treasure? .

There are four reasons why more and more grandmothers take care of their children:

1, distressed, considerate and tolerant daughter

Home is the warmest place. No matter how you live outside, home will always be your harbor. Parents are always the people who care about and tolerate you the most. My mother is distressed that we have to take care of the children after a day's work, wash clothes, cook and clean the house, and take the job on our own initiative, so that we can have a rest and spend more time with our children at night.

I remember once, when the child was still young, the mother looked after the child at home. While the child was taking a nap, the mother quickly cleaned up the house. As a result, the child woke up while cleaning. The mother didn't notice that the child was awake and climbed into bed without crying. As a result, it is conceivable that he fell out of bed and cried. My mother hurried over and picked up the child to coax him. The child's forehead was red and he was out of breath. Mom quickly called me to explain things.

What I said to my mother in a hurry was a bit heavy, and I wanted to apologize afterwards, but I couldn't help feeling embarrassed, so I sent a short message to my mother to express my apologies and thanks through the short message. Mom called me back? It's okay. Mom forgot, okay? . At that time, after reading this short message, I immediately burst into tears and felt particularly ashamed of my mother. Poor inheritance, my mother has worked hard for me all her life, but I can't let her enjoy this happiness and let her continue to work hard for my children. My mother is always considerate and tolerant to me.

Step 2 avoid the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law

Since ancient times, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have been difficult to get along with, and it is difficult for honest officials to break housework. Maybe a family can't accommodate two hostesses! Differences in education and consumption concepts lead to contradictions. Two unrelated women pay for the same man, and it is inevitable that there will be contradictions together. It takes a long time to run in. I have always felt that many contradictions can be avoided as long as the mother-in-law does not have too many shortcomings and the daughter-in-law is very open-minded. As long as both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law adhere to the principle of family and prosperity, many contradictions will naturally be solved! In order to avoid this contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, many families ask grandma to take care of their children.

Step 3 pass retirement time

If you help to take care of the children, they will shift their attention left on you to the children, work hard for their food, clothing, housing and transportation, and have little energy to pay attention to them. Is to kill my mother's free time and make it easier for us to be daughters again. I will talk to my mother more and more about work now. On the one hand, I hope she can know me better, on the other hand, I will also save her mental boredom at home.

My mother-in-law doesn't want to bring it.

Now many mothers-in-law pursue freedom, and finally raise their children and liberate themselves. They can do what they want, dance in the square dance, go shopping and eat with friends, and go out to enjoy the great rivers and mountains in China. I don't want to be with my children anymore. I want to live for myself.

The person who gave birth to me coaxed the person who gave birth to me. Grandma helps with the children not because she is free, but because she knows how to let go, no matter whether the most tired person is her daughter or not.