Put it another way.

Lin Qingxuan wrote such a sentence in "Human taste is pure joy":

Life is like a cup of tea, you need to savor it carefully to know its beauty. However, in this fast-paced era, too many of us just focus on moving forward and forget the original intention of running. In order to pursue a better life, we are very sad.

In life, there is really no need to push yourself too hard. We don't need to live for others, you can tolerate yourself.

When you are tired, stop and have a rest. Tired, walk in another way.

A friend I haven't contacted for a long time sent me a message the other day, saying, "I'm very lucky to be your friend." I hope you don't forget me. I may have to go to therapy. Please don't forget me if I forget you. "

A few years ago, this friend was diagnosed with depression, which was very serious, with loss of appetite, insomnia every day, depression and no desire for everything. I know she's been taking drugs for a long time, but it's really useless.

So she followed the doctor's advice and tried a new therapy. Of course, this therapy will make people forget painful memories for a short time, and there will only be happy things in their minds, so it is indeed possible to forget people's symptoms.

I have known this friend for eight years. She has a strong personality, likes everything better than others, and is also a very hard-working person. In order to catch a story, she can stay up all night without eating or drinking. In order to take the postgraduate entrance examination, she can even stay in the library for more than ten hours every day until the library closes and then work. For this project, she can work continuously for more than forty hours until she graduates to the hospital.

Once I asked her, "Why are you pushing yourself so hard?" She said, for living.

But the result is that even after so many years of hard work, it is not the happiness after success, but endless pain. Excuse me, is it worth it?

Osamu Dazai wrote in Disqualification on Earth: My misfortune lies in my inability to refuse. I am afraid that once I refuse others, I will leave a rift in each other's hearts that will never heal.

We all know that we have to work hard to have a future, and forcing ourselves to work hard is for a better life. All this seems to be right. Even these words are often said to us by family and friends. We can't ignore others' expectations of ourselves, so we must work hard to become successful people in the eyes of the secular.

Many people want us to move forward, make a lot of money and support our families. When you succeed, they cheer for you, but few people ask, are you tired or bitter?

All the sad and painful emotions, we can only laugh alone when we dream of midnight, and we are not as strong as we thought. When stress and pain haunt our hearts, we are as fragile as cotton and will collapse at the touch of a button.

I know that living in this era, everyone has his own suffering, everyone is riddled with holes, but people always have to find a way to cure themselves. Be happy even if you work hard. No matter how hard you try, you should do it for what you like.

No matter what the result is, we are happy, not to meet the expectations of others. In order to please others, such efforts will not be happy anyway.

The meaning of hard work is to do what you like and want to do, but it will make you a person, not a pain.

There was a saying: "All efforts are bound to be accompanied by pain."

In fact, I don't agree, because as I am writing now, I am happy to do it, so even if I stay up late to write, I feel happy, but if you let me do something I don't like, I think it will be a torment to do it for one more minute.

Therefore, efforts are not the source of pain, but the unworthy efforts are. If you feel that your present life is very tired and painful, please change your lifestyle.

I was deeply moved by the words of Ma Dong and Cai Kangyong when I watched The Story of Seven Paes.

Ma Dong said: "As time goes by, we will eventually forgive those who have hurt us."

Cai Kangyong went on to say, "That's not forgiveness, that's forgetting."

People who have been hurt can never pretend that something has never happened, just like crumpled paper can never be erased. Even if the written paper is erased, there will still be traces, but those things will pass by with time, so let's stop pestering and choose to forget.

Many times we feel too tired and miserable, not because we have too little, but because we want too much. Because those unsatisfied desires make us greedy, and not getting them will make people feel painful.

It is better to learn to look down and let go than to pursue something that does not belong to you.

Lu Yao wrote in Ordinary World:

Life is like a blank sheet of paper, every step will leave a mark on it. As we go further and further, there will be more and more traces on it, and this piece of white paper will become thick and deep. If we can't put something down and continue to stack and write on it, then this piece of white paper will be damaged sooner or later because it is overwhelmed.

Learn to let go, learn to underestimate the gains and losses, and learn to shake hands with the world, so that you can have a better life. As Lin Qingxuan said, "spotless is not the absence of dust, but the dust makes it fly, and I am my own sunshine."

When your heart is bigger and the pattern is bigger, then the biggest thing is smaller. Life is a tortuous road. Let go of those unnecessary obsessions and look down on the vicissitudes of the world in order to be calm and calm.

I like this passage very much:

I deeply believe that the road of life, whether difficult or not, needs to be completed by ourselves, and we can do our best. There's no need to push yourself to the wall.

Life is not easy, learn to let yourself go. When you are tired, don't push yourself forward. Close the curtains, have a good sleep, get up and go out for dinner, and have a good time. Hard times will pass.

When you learn to put down the extra burden on your shoulders, re-examine yourself and live a good life. You will find that the happiness you get is better than you think.

Our days are still long, and we deserve a brighter life.

So if you are tired, change your lifestyle and no one will blame you.