Take a walk with my aunt after dinner.

Basic information: My father's sister (my aunt) just turned 60 and has never been married.

Status: It's miserable.

Tell her story.

When my aunt was young, she was very beautiful, with fair skin and a good face. Grandpa was an accountant in the village, and his family was not bad. So material conditions allow her to cut fashionable short hair and wear fashionable clothes, which can be said to be one of the most beautiful girls in the village.

However, she doesn't like reading, but she is rebellious. In the best years, she fell in love with the handsome barefoot doctor in the village, although the other party had married and had children. In the early 1980s, the reform and opening up was still in its infancy, so it is conceivable that the social atmosphere in rural areas of northern Jiangsu was conservative and feudal. My aunt has had two abortions for this man's pregnancy, and each time she induced labor after being pregnant for more than six months. She was accused by thousands of people, abused and beaten by the other family, and was rejected by her family for a long time and was not allowed to enter the house. But this man never loved to leave her original home, and kept her living together illegally in the county under the stigma of shame.

Time passed quickly, and men's children began to grow up. In order not to affect the children's marriage, he chose to leave her and bought out all their past years with a small house less than 40 square meters in the county. Since then, there has been no contact.

At that time, she was not too old, just over 40. Because she had a good foundation when she was young, she still looked good, and some men were kind to her. However, her abnormal emotional experience over the years made her unaccustomed to normal emotional life, and the result of being abandoned in chaos made her lose confidence in men. Years of captivity have made her habitually lazy and lazy. She started dancing school and wandered between different unmarried/married men in exchange for material rewards. In the past ten years, she has also done several jobs. Because of her low education, age and lack of work experience, it is difficult to find a job. But she can't do every job for long, mostly because she feels too tired or loses her temper with the young lady, and conflicts with leading colleagues. During this period, the only real estate, a small house less than 40 square meters left by the first man, was demolished, and she suddenly had a fortune. As a result, all the money was cheated, and her face-saving personality kept her from telling the truth in front of her family, but in fact, her family knew everything.

In her fifties, she finally realized the sense of crisis, wanted to save some money for the elderly, went to nearby Shanghai to work as a nanny for two families, and finally lost her job because of her bad relationship with her employer.

Now, at 60, she looks like a little old lady. Years have left old spots and wrinkles on her once beautiful face. Her slender waist has changed beyond recognition, and her white hair is increasing. You may delay, but time will not. I have no fixed place to live these years, so I can only apply for government low-rent housing. If I want to eat and drink, I have to go to work at someone else's retirement age and live on less than two thousand yuan a month. Brothers and sisters have worked hard for many years, running families and raising children. Now their children have grown up, live and work in peace and contentment in big cities or small cities, and even have grandchildren and begin to enjoy family happiness. Only she, still lonely.

I don't know if anyone was waiting for her when she was ill in these years, whether she shed tears when she was wronged in these years, whether she envied her little granddaughter when she was toddler, whether she was alone with her on a stormy thunderstorm night, and whether she would regret looking back on these years. However, there is no regret medicine in this world.

She lives a free life. However, how headstrong once was, how muddy the reality was.

Life is not only a trip and food in a circle of friends, but also a person's crying and tears in the dark at night.

Getting married or not is a personal choice. If you are not a practitioner of unmarried people, please don't influence (poison) other people's lives with those "glamorous cases" of selective blindness.