"fifty knows the destiny, sixty listens": after fifty, the rest of your life has already begun.

Confucius once divided his life into several stages. Among them, he called 50 years old the year of knowing destiny, and 60 years old the year of listening to destiny. Fifty years old is a very critical age in life. A person should be able to know his future destiny from here for the rest of his life.

Life is not an established procedure. At the age of forty-nine, a person is at a loss, and it is impossible to realize his life after one year.

Many people in the world, even if they live to be 80 or 90 years old, are still in a mess. Therefore, Confucius' words are only a summary of his own life. The truth that ordinary people can learn from is that they just need to work hard and motivate themselves. By the age of 50, they must be able to understand life thoroughly in order to reach the realm of knowing destiny. Otherwise, life will not be so smooth in the future. To reach the realm of "knowing destiny", we must be able to cultivate an open-minded heart. Specifically, it is in these three things that a 50-year-old should be able to be open-minded.

Irrelevant person

A lot of times, life is like a person who travels back and forth constantly, and a large part of it has nothing to do with our life. It is said that people will meet more than 20 million people in their lifetime and communicate with 10 million people. In such a huge number, we can't regard everyone as the importance of life. Only by knowing how to observe and choose, and who is the most important person in life, and realizing this essence, can one learn to be open-minded in interpersonal relationships and not be swayed by considerations of gain and loss.

When dealing with others, many people are always afraid of being upset by sticking to principles. This mentality is not open-minded. Everyone has a destiny. A person who can become a bosom friend must have the same temperament between two people. If the other person is out of place with you, then no matter how you compromise, you will eventually become a stranger.

Life is full of too many irrelevant people. They are business friends, fair-weather friends on the wine table and casual acquaintances on two parallel lines. These people are just passers-by in your life and are not worth your trouble. Only by putting all your energy into getting along with your intimate friends can you finally "know your destiny" in interpersonal relationships.

Boring things

Irrelevant people will consume the energy of interpersonal communication, so there are many boring things in life, mostly for entertainment. Each of us knows that an inch of time is worth an inch of gold, but this truth is often just lip service and has not been recognized from the heart. So most people will regret wasting a lot of time in the past when they are 50 years old, but it is too late to regret, and there is no remedy.

However, the ancients said that "it is not too late to mend." Although the lost time cannot be recovered, we still have the same precious time for the rest of our lives, so as long as we know how to "cherish time" in time, it is a kind of "knowing destiny" in life. A man who knows his destiny will never waste his life on boring things. Therefore, in the rest of his life, let's leave the card table and the wine table and choose a science to study and explore a new thing. This kind of life will make the rest of our lives glow and make up for the regret of wasting time.

Go against common sense

Fate is a seemingly mysterious thing. In fact, fate, like heaven, is common sense in the operation of the world. Our life is always full of "reasons", some of which are innate, such as eating when hungry and sleeping when sleepy, which is also our nature. There is also an acquired truth, such as doing good deeds, being a good person and being kind. This is our human nature.

If you want the rest of your life to be smooth sailing, then you must be able to balance your nature and humanity and achieve a balance, that is, to achieve what the ancients called the "golden mean." At the age of 50, you should go to bed early and get up early, exercise regularly, treat people as kindly as possible and help people in trouble as much as possible. Only by doing this can you be in the best state in your later life.

Don't do anything unreasonable. When you are young, you can go against logic and your own life, and you can also bear some consequences. But the most important thing in the post-50 s life is to be able to understand life, and then be obedient. What kind of behavior a person does, what kind of feedback he will get. It is this simple truth that Confucius emphasized that 50 years old is the year of knowing the destiny, in order to see the common sense of life and know how to start the rest of my life.