Which relatives or lovers have you suffered from verbal violence?

There is an old saying in China: "A gentleman talks but doesn't do it." But I don't like this sentence, because there is a kind of violence that hurts more than physical violence.

I have experienced verbal violence in my body. Let me talk about my personal experience.

This is my childhood experience. I remember when I was still in junior high school. Because the schoolwork is too heavy, the grades can't go up, and there are not many classes in the cram school, but it won't do either. After that, my mother was very angry and dissatisfied with my various behaviors. I told her that I really tried my best, but my mother just didn't believe me and always thought that I just didn't work hard and make progress. Once, when I was studying at home, I felt so tired that I threw my head up and made a very relaxed state. Suddenly my mother saw it, and my mother came up to me and said, Are you heartless? How can you be so heartless! Are you a fool? You are a loser! Nothing can be done! So the overwhelming hurtful words blurted out, and I was cheated at that time and ran out crying. After this incident, my father is still adjusting in the middle. My mother's state lasted for many years, and I often suffered from this kind of language violence.

I also know that she is good for me, but I really can't stand this language attack. I'm so scared and feel inferior.

Now, whenever I think about it, I always think that I am a useless person. And at that time, my self-confidence was really hit hard and I didn't dare to play my own ability. I still dare not speak loudly in college. Language violence can make children lose confidence seriously.

The so-called "love" on parents' lips is becoming the scar of children.

1. The more depressed children are, the more they will feel inferior.

In daily life, our parents are the closest people to our children, but children are often the most vulnerable to language violence, usually from their favorite parents. Parents' "unintentional" suppression of children will make children fall into the whirlpool of self-denial, and the pain caused by language violence from parents will accompany them for life. It will form the habit of constantly denying one's own thinking and make children feel more inferior.

The more you hit the child, the more disobedient the child is.

In reality, the starting point for many parents to scold their children is to make them more obedient and obedient. Some parents even adopt "stick education", thinking that "strict teachers make excellent students" and sometimes use some challenging methods to "stimulate" their children. When the child did badly in the exam: "How dare you come to me when you did so badly in the exam?" "What can you do besides eating?" "It takes so long to consider this mistake. Do you have a brain? "

Many parents think that children should be given some setbacks. "Repressive education" has gradually become popular among parents. Parents believe that giving their children some setbacks will make them more obedient and more motivated to learn. However, this kind of "repressive education" will gradually make children have rebellious psychology. The more parents suppress their children, the more they resist.

Everything starts with love, and parents should give their children respect and encouragement.

Parents' verbal violence against children brings infinite pain to children. These pains will become a child's psychological shadow, and will accompany the child's life like a child's shadow. As a result, children dare not face reality, avoid problems and avoid results under pressure. When children encounter setbacks, as parents, we should not rush to blame them. Children may just want their parents to understand themselves. At this time, our understanding and encouragement to children is the driving force for children to move forward. Sometimes giving children pressure and frustration can not only solve problems, but also hurt their young hearts.