The inner monologue of a woman who wants a divorce.

The idea of divorce will appear in every woman's mind countless times, in marriage. Now let me talk about my feelings.

The idea of divorce keeps flashing in my mind. Once he had this idea, his heart grew like weeds, and he felt that his husband was wrong and that life was not going well anywhere. Any one of his shortcomings will be infinitely magnified by me until I can't stand it. I built this person in my own imaginary spiritual world. Even if I know that this is biased, I feel that his shortcomings outweigh his advantages (the advantages are even completely ignored). They don't want to communicate with each other, so they torture themselves.

Once you think of divorce, you must first consider many practical issues, such as where to live after leaving, how to deal with children, and how to ensure financial resources. These practical problems are the same as yours. You know how helpless and sad you are as a woman.

In my mind, I have analyzed these problems in depth countless times. Aside from secular arguments, these practical problems alone are enough to trap a woman's footsteps.

First of all, life, once I choose to leave, I have to bear all the expenses of basic food, clothing, housing and transportation. Although I haven't left my job for a day since I got married, in reality those salaries are really not enough for me to pay for these basic living expenses. Although this is a stumbling block, it can be overcome as long as it is cruel.

Secondly, talk about children. Speaking of children, it's really a dilemma. If you retire, you will be wronged. If you advance, you will really feel sorry for your children. You can't take care of them with yourself, not yourself. How can children miss their mothers, and mothers don't want children? This is a woman's greatest weakness, but also the deepest helplessness. All marriages in danger are still together, and it is this bond that keeps them alive. I don't want my children to suffer, which is the motivation for all women to choose forbearance.

Although there is no need to be a ninja as long as the marriage is unhappy. Unfortunately, it is better to end the marriage happily than to linger on, which is more beneficial to the growth of children. However, a statement is a statement after all. Why do women choose to endure for thousands of years for their children? It is because women suffer a little more, which is nothing compared with giving up their children.

In addition, gossip from eight neighbors, relatives and friends and leading colleagues is enough to make a person nervous breakdown. This is not weakness, this is reality, a very cruel reality. If the heart is really not strong enough, after being hit by divorce, the sequelae of later verbal attacks will be even worse. People who don't know the truth hear it from hearsay every day, and the reasons and arguments made out of nothing will give you an unrecognizable view. This is more terrible than divorce itself, and it is related to a person's reputation. You can't stop thinking about it.

Finally, marriage is no longer beautiful, which is just my own unilateral idea. The magnified pain actually distorts a part of reality, and there is still an advantage, but it is ignored by myself. That advantage is sometimes great. Thinking of this, I still feel that I can finally control my present life. This person is not so miserable, but once I take this step, what the future looks like is unknown, and it is difficult for people to get out of the inherent and step into the unknown without becoming extremely bad. Because the unknown is the most terrible and frightening. Because although you have the opportunity to meet good people, you also have the opportunity to meet bad people. I'm afraid I'll end up behind the person in front of me. At that time, I regretted my reckless behavior.

This is true, this is what I thought of in extreme circumstances, struggling helplessly, trying to break free but being tightly imprisoned. Reality and ideals torment me, reason limits my sensibility, and finally compromises with reality. It's not easy to really get out, but this is really what I thought of at that time. I think all the women who have had the impulse to divorce first appear in their minds and become a factor to contain themselves.

Bottom line: Life is not easy, but do it and cherish it. It's easier said than done. When the passion for marriage fades, it will be repeated day after day for decades, so perhaps only responsibility and children can support our persistence in marriage. This is why children are the bond of marriage.

After the inner experience, I really realized that it is not easy to be a woman, and why the society defines women as vulnerable groups.

This can be traced back to our ancestors in ancient times, who advocated that men should be masters outside and women should be masters inside from the social division of labor at that time. Men are responsible for making money to support their families, and women are responsible for taking care of their husbands and children and taking care of everything at home.

Today, this difference in social division of labor doomed men to walk wider and wider outside, women to work day after day, and finally divorced from society, the road ahead became narrower and narrower, and finally entered a dead end. This is particularly striking in today's society. A yellow-faced woman with no future will eventually have the same fate-being rejected. After working hard all my life, I ended up in a miserable situation of "no looks, no talent, no family and no ability"

The division of labor between men and women has been like this for thousands of years. Now the society is slightly different, and women begin to go abroad to work hard. But it is more challenging for women, because he has to take care of more aspects, not only to do a good job, but also to work hard for women in family affairs. Men are absorbed in their work. Can the efficiency be the same?

In other words, women are now facing unprecedented challenges. In the past, I only needed to take care of my family. Now it is very difficult, especially difficult, to do family work correctly. However, I have to do it no matter how difficult it is, or it will be even harder in the future.

No matter how big the problem is and how long the road ahead is, we are still in it, we can't escape, and we can only struggle forward in our hearts.

Women should be strong and independent. This is the first thing I thought of after I experienced this incident, and because of my weakness, it deeply hurt me, leaving me with no choice and no retreat.

Women should have a sense of crisis, because we live in a dangerous society. If we have no sense of crisis, the crisis will come to us sooner or later. Thousands of women have proved it for us, and there will be thousands of women tragedies in the future to prove this eternal truth.

This is really my reflection. When I was happily married before, I never looked at it from this angle, thinking that now is the future and the whole life. After this incident hit the cold reality, I began to wake up. On the other hand, this is a good thing, which really makes a person mature and know the laws of reality. It won't be like a frog boiled in warm water. If you get used to it in a comfortable environment, you won't make progress and eventually become your own dead hole.

You know, if we are the same and the world is changing, we will be eliminated. If we don't change ourselves and our husbands are changing, we will be passively out. Always remind yourself to learn an ability, learn a little, accumulate some capital, and fight against the world and family in the future. No matter how hard it is, we must struggle forward, and no matter how tired we are, we must grit our teeth. In the end, it will be the real backbone to support us.

We shouldn't sigh after the tragedy. When tragedy strikes, we should plan ahead. Even if it does happen one day (people who have been working hard will not be too unlucky), we can walk out with our heads held high and dignity.

Work hard, work hard, study and study again. No matter how long the road ahead is, I just keep going, keep going. I shudder at the thought of the consequences of not working hard. Can you do it without hard work? If I don't work hard now, that's the saddest thing when I have no choice.

Having a choice is the greatest sense of security for yourself. As long as people have a choice, they tend to choose the favorable side, but when there is no choice, the worst result can only be passively accepted, so we will always be the one with a choice.

Predict ahead and plan ahead, that's the way we should live.