Because I like you, I like this world better (part two)

A year ago, I just finished my studies in America, ended my long-distance relationship with Maxi, and went back to China to look for a job. At that time, I was both longing for marriage and a little confused, so I had the first part of the story, and the details can be seen (because I like you, I prefer this world (I)). Now, Maxi and I have been married for half a year. In two weeks, we will celebrate the first anniversary of our license. At this time, I got up the courage and continued to write some new experiences about feelings and marriage.

Before I thought of the word "marriage", I always felt that it was a calm state after the passion and romance faded. In front of and behind the house, daily necessities are two people who are indifferent to each other. I will be happy, but it may not be as "interesting" as I thought. Now, I find that marriage is not a watershed that obviously isolates all the interests of life, but an undeveloped new continent, which really opens at the moment when two people join hands, just waiting for us to slowly explore the potential infinite possibilities for the same goal. It's not only a feeling, but also a need to find someone to talk to when entering marriage. It was he who convinced me that marriage was not that complicated at all, it was just a continuation of love.

Living, of course, requires two people to run in slowly. From jiaozi who eats vinegar or soy sauce to buying a big home, it is a time to test the tacit understanding between two people. Take a simple breakfast as an example. I am always used to eating sweets (cakes, bread, etc.). ) with milk, and Maxi's ideal is definitely a bowl of beef Lamian Noodles. It must be true love for such a sweet and salty party to compromise with each other. If the wedding is for the sense of ceremony of marriage, then the real decision to entrust yourself is the eve of the license. I remember the sudden rainstorm that day, and my plane was delayed. He comforted me by saying that he would buy me my favorite sugar-fried chestnuts. Later, the plane arrived at night 12. When I got off the plane, I saw him waiting for me with a bag of hot chestnuts, saying that he had finally found a shop that had not closed after two subway stops. Perhaps, it was at that moment that I decided to marry the man in front of me.

So, we acted quickly, I called the small restaurant, he checked the information that should be prepared for the last time, and we went out quickly, thus fulfilling this extremely certain wish for each other. No long-planned marriage proposal, no grand celebration, everything is so natural and logical.

Later, we were busy every day, but we didn't forget to take time to play. For example, Maxi grabbed the tickets in advance, and then took me to Hohhot to watch the Eason Chan concert at the weekend. I once had a great wish, that is, "I will go to an Eason with my loved ones in my lifetime". When Eason sang "How brave it is to love to go to the end of time" that night, we turned to look at each other and smiled with satisfaction. You can have a moment of dissatisfaction and anxiety about life, but never be disappointed, because "the most beautiful and ordinary is for".

Tomorrow is Valentine's Day. In those years of school, I felt that it was really a big day, and there were many surprises and accidents at the same time. When I am not around him, I always spend Valentine's Day singing K with my friends. Although it will be full, there is always a trace of loneliness in my heart. With him, I always want to plan different experiences together, only to find that even if they don't do anything, just watching a play or having dinner together is very reassuring. Last Valentine's Day, he happened to be on a business trip, so I went to dinner with other friends. When I got home, I got a phone call saying that the flowers had been placed at the front desk of the fitness center opposite my home. At that moment, I felt that he was always around and never far away.

I once wrote in an article that the best state is "nothing to rely on", which is a state in which two people are free and independent, full of love and respect loneliness. In fact, this is the life with Maxi after marriage. Go shopping together in your spare time on weekdays or simply go out for dinner, and go out for a walk on weekends. At home in the evening, I practice calligraphy and read books in the study, and Marcy plays games in the outhouse. Make a pot of tea together every once in a while and spit on each other occasionally. This is the most comfortable way I can think of compared with two people brushing their mobile phones separately when they are together. Once I watched TV at home and saw delicious food, so Maxi bet with me that he really found the "tofu skin" steamed stuffed bun mentioned in a dream of red mansions. Sometimes we play checkers to decide who will do the dishes and housework at night. He often works late at night, so I arranged the whole evening in my own way. After dinner, practicing yoga, baking, watching an episode of drama and turning over a few pages are both fulfilling and happy. I always like to make good strategies and travel arrangements before I go away, because I know that as long as I do, he will do his best to implement them one by one on the way. In fact, all too difficult love is just falling in love with the imaginary person, and the basic condition of happiness is to learn to be alone first. Equality, independence and slow growth may be a subject that we should practice with our hearts all our lives.

I always like to see things with an idealized aura, and the same is true for life. I think it was only after I got married that I realized that I think it is beautiful to have romantic things. Finally, everything is poetry. There is no contradiction between nine to five and poetry. Many people used to say that I was independent and strong, but in front of him, I always seemed to be a "stupid white sweet" with insufficient IQ. He can always read my mind at a glance. Maybe in his view, many things I do are "useless". But every time I am tired or unhappy, he will come up to me and say, "Come on, it's useless for me to stay with you for a whole hour." Ordinary and interesting, you can be relative every day.

I know Maxie liked Kumamon for a long time, before I met her. So I never realized that I was influenced by him. Now I like this lovely mascot with him and I have gained a lot of fun unexpectedly. Each of us has a Kumamon emoticon pack in our mobile phone, and sometimes we can finish our daily conversation by sending pictures directly. Knowing that Kumamoto Prefecture in Japan is the hometown of Minister Kumamoto, I have always wanted to take him to see it. This idea was planned in my mind for a long time, and finally I had an opportunity during the Spring Festival this year. With the experience of studying abroad and traveling, it is natural for me to apply for a variety of free travel visa series. I am also an expert in making food guides for travel, so the process is cumbersome but enjoyable.

Two days ago, during the trip, I suddenly had a high fever. He kept a cold towel at night to help me cool down until dawn. He also said that if I didn't feel well, I would go back early. As for Kumamoto, I can go again at any time. I was very touched, but fortunately, my state recovered quickly this time. We changed trains all the way and finally arrived in Kumamoto smoothly.

That day, the sunshine was just right, and I saw Kumamoto, the former minister of kumamoto castle, with his iconic smiling face. I pointed the camera at it and motioned him to stand over and try to press the shutter at the most appropriate time. Seeing them laughing so brightly together, I suddenly felt very happy.

Too often, we always want to be treated gently by the world, but when the world is sometimes not so gentle, do you still treat it gently? So, again, whether you are single or not, whether you love someone or not, you should know how to get along with yourself, so that you can get along with another person better.

Should you find someone who loves you more or someone who loves you more? I think asking this question itself makes me hesitate about love and marriage, because love is love, and I will go all out when I meet it. The efforts of two people have never been absolutely equal, but I can achieve a relative balance through hard work and running-in, and this balance is the ideal life.

Yes, it's fine now. Day after day, year after year, I have all kinds of tricks, and he never tires of watching them. Although there are many challenges ahead, as long as we are together, the solution will always be much more difficult.

The world is so big, there will always be a person walking leisurely not far away, knowing what you love and even loving what you love. Tell us that the previous waiting may be hard, but it is worth it after all. It gives us endless courage and strength, and let us love the world better together.