What is the reason why children prefer to be with grandma rather than grandma?

In the description of the problem, it is said that grandma is not close to grandma because she is related to her mother. Grandma criticizes the discipline of children, and mom won't be angry. For children, no one likes to take care of them, so her relationship with her grandmother is not close. And grandma, separated from her daughter-in-law, loves her grandchildren, so the children are more willing to be with her. You can understand the problem this way.

I think whether grandma or grandma, what is involved here is actually a problem of interpersonal relationship. We have a saying that distant relatives are better than close neighbors. What does this mean? That is to say, whether there is a real blood relationship or not, maintaining a good relationship requires more walking, more contact and more time. So the problem of grandma or grandma can be understood in this way.

Of course, we said it under the condition that grandma and grandma are "normal people". (It is not excluded that some grandmothers can't be human, or take care of children, or are particularly stingy, and so on. We exclude these special circumstances and only share them under normal general circumstances. )

1 myself, because my mother often took me to my grandmother's house when I was a child, and my grandmother was very kind to me, so my relationship with my grandmother was very close. As for my grandmother, she has seven grandchildren, one more and one less don't think much of me. More importantly, she doesn't have a good relationship with my dad. He doesn't like my dad because he thinks my dad doesn't have the ability to earn money like other uncles and grandfathers, so naturally she won't like me either. In addition, my mother seldom takes me to my grandmother's house, so naturally I am not close to my grandmother.

Now, my little niece grew up in her grandmother's house and is very close to her. Because of business reasons, grandma seldom sees her, but often sends her money or buys all kinds of delicious toys. Since my little niece went to kindergarten, she has been particularly fond of grandma. So she is as happy to go to grandma's house as she is to go to grandma's house.

Therefore, specifically speaking, the problem of interpersonal relationship will involve many aspects, which is still relatively complicated.

The above two stories are shared with you. I just want to discuss it with you. Looking forward to hearing your stories.

I'm Atupo, and I want to share my precious parenting experience with you.

This should not be the identity of grandma and grandma, but the following aspects of grandma and grandma!

1, Grandma and Grandma's Personality If Grandma has a good personality and often follows the children, but Grandma has a bad personality and often criticizes the children, then for the children, she is definitely willing to follow her grandmother and is unwilling to follow her grandmother! The child is smart enough to identify who is good to him or who will follow him more. For example, if he wants to eat candy, grandma will give it to the child. Grandma may be in charge of him, so he wants to eat by himself, and he will be more willing to follow her. The reverse is also true.

2. Will grandma and grandma spend energy on their children to make them feel concerned and loved? Some grandmothers have to do things by themselves. If they are working and can't take care of their children, and the children really want their parents to accompany them, then the children will be separated if they don't feel concerned. For example, grandma doesn't need to do anything else, or even if she is cooking, she will pay attention to the children, so the children will naturally be willing to follow her. Similarly, for example, grandma has to do a lot of housework and other things. At this time, only let the children take care of themselves, have fun and don't pay attention to the children. Then the children will feel that no one is taking care of them, and naturally they will not kiss their grandmother.

3, the way to treat children If grandma is more positive about children, she often praises and encourages children, while grandma treats children more negatively and often beats and scolds children, children will naturally like grandma and don't like grandma. The same reason as parents.

what do you think? Welcome everyone to chat!

I'm grandma, my granddaughter has been three and a half weeks, and I haven't been with her grandmother for a day. I guess if I let her stay with my grandmother for a day, she will cry.

My granddaughter has lived in my house since she was born, slept with me at night, and didn't go back to her home until she went to kindergarten at the age of three. But every Tuesday and Wednesday, her mother picks her up from kindergarten, and she always comes to my house to play for a while before going home.

My in-laws are several years older than me, suffering from high blood pressure and heart failure. I'm trying to take care of her grandson and daughter. Her daughter's mother-in-law is far away in the northeast. I really understand her. I seldom have time to rest, but I never complain in front of my in-laws.

Usually I always tell my grandson: Grandma loves you, and she loves you very much. Grandma bought you a scooter, saw that you were sick, and cried with distress, and so on. In this way, although the children rarely see her, they are getting closer and closer to their grandmother.

The child's heart is pure. Whoever is kind to her and who she is happy with is willing to talk to. Even if you hit her and scold her, you can feel her love and tell who really loves her. It doesn't mean that the child must be willing to talk to her grandmother or willing to talk to her grandmother.

For grandma and grandma, although the heart of loving children is the same, the method and state of taking care of children are different, which leads to the choice of who the children are willing to be with and who they are unwilling to be with. However, when the children grow up, she will know that they are all her relatives.

We are all grandmothers, why do we have to compete for favor? Helping children to take care of their children, enjoying family happiness and solving their worries should be regarded as exerting the residual heat. If they don't have the opportunity and ability to take care of their children, they should take it easy. No matter who the child follows, as long as she is happy.

In short, I don't expect my grandchildren to be filial in the future, so I don't care who my children want to be with.

Grandma naturally wants to be with her. The child knows in his heart who dotes on her in a short time and who she is good with. I don't know who is really good to him until I grow up.

It is wrong for a grandmother to spoil her children. It has nothing to do with which surname or whose grandson. There are only children in the city, and four old people and two adults in the whole family make one child. Everyone is a treasure, and no ancestor favors one over the other.

I use biology to answer this.

You see, grandma's sex chromosome is XX, grandpa's is XY, and mom's is XX. This XX is inherited by grandma and grandpa respectively.

So are grandparents. Dad's x is inherited from grandma, and y is inherited from grandpa.

Where are the children? If it's a girl, it's XX. These two x's are inherited from father and mother respectively. On it, mother inherited X from her grandmother or grandfather, and another X from her grandmother.

If it's a boy, it's XY, X inherited from grandma or grandpa, and Y inherited from grandpa.

From this point of view, both boys and girls have inherited grandparents' genes, so it is normal for children to have uncles' genes, but in terms of kinship, they are scattered, and because only one of the two X's can be passed on to children, there is still a probability, while grandparents' genes are directly inherited.

And children are close to grandparents, so they will be close to grandma, but not so close to grandma.

Of course, the gene says that there is no evidence, and the high probability is because I spent a long time with my grandparents.

First of all, grandma and grandma are equal. In this equal relationship, whoever really loves children is willing to be with him. The topic says that children are willing to talk to grandma, which means that grandma really loves children.

1998, my son is three years old. My husband and I went out to work and left the children at my grandmother's house for three months. In the past three months, I have been giving my mother 100 yuan to buy snacks for my children. After three months back, my son was dressed neatly, his little face and hands were clean, and his little face was watery.

The following year, my husband and I went out to work again. My husband insisted on leaving the children to his grandmother, so I had to leave them with her for three months. In the past three months, I have been giving my mother-in-law 300 yuan and four parts of the food. At that time, I planted a garden full of Chinese cabbage, eggplant, rape, loofah, beans and lentils in my garden. I think this garden is enough for Mr. and Mrs. ta to eat for three months. Before leaving, I sent my mother-in-law ten catties of soybean oil and ten catties of eggs. Three months later, I came back, and the child was stolen at grandma's door like a little beggar, unkempt, with a small leather coat torn one by one, barefoot, and thin little hands showing bones. I stared at my eyes and burst into tears. The child's eyes are so stupid that I don't even know him. I squatted down and hugged my son and said,

"Son, I am a mother."

My son is so stupid that he only eats stolen fingers and doesn't know me at all. I picked up my son and went home. I'll wash my son's hair and give him a bath at once. The child is as thin as a bone. After a while, the child's eyes became less dull, so she told me that grandma often beat him, didn't give him food, and didn't give the child a bath. When it was time to go out to work, my husband said that he would take his son to work with him. Our family has been together ever since. On the first day of last year, our whole family had a happy reunion. My son brought many delicious dishes to grandma. While eating, my son opened the door and went out. I found something wrong and followed him out. My son is crying in a corner downstairs. I advised my son to stop crying and be a man. My son stood up and said to me:

"Mom, I think of three months with my grandmother when I was a child, which can only be described as hell. A small poplar tree in her house was skinned by her pig, and she said I peeled it. She hit me with something like a belt, cursing' You peel the young tree, I will peel you ...' "The child cried so sadly that I couldn't persuade him. Finally, the child never went back to the house for dinner. He said that seeing his grandmother reminded him of his unhappy childhood.

Later, I asked my mother-in-law if she hit my son with something like a belt in those three months. My mother-in-law refused to admit my son's life and death, and called my son nonsense and made her blood. Then she rolled and spilled all over the floor.

Alas, no matter grandma or grandma, whoever really loves the child really loves her!

This question! Blood relationship! Grandparents are also really distressed by their grandchildren! Grandparents are also really distressed by their grandchildren! They all love their children equally. Why do children give their grandparents a kiss? Grandparents really think about it.

Although children can't say: their hearts are as bright as a mirror, sometimes grandparents say a word casually, and the children remember the bad words of grandparents and their fathers. That's their relatives! They don't want others to speak ill of them, children don't want to listen to them, and some children don't want to stay at their grandparents' home.

I have become a grandmother, I have become a grandmother. I think whoever gets along with children for a long time will kiss them. At that time, the mother of the child had to go to work, so it became my unshirkable responsibility to take care of the child. But children are too young, and sometimes they have to feed on time every day. It is no use coaxing them.

I have no choice but to let the child eat my milk. As a result, the child was really good and stopped crying.

From then on, children can't live without me, and they have to follow me when they eat and sleep. My mother is relaxed, but I'm about to collapse.

In the middle of the night, the child cried. When he got up, he had to give him milk powder when he was hungry. He became the child's biological mother. During the day, he takes his children, plays with them, watches cartoons with them, goes out to play with them, and feeds them behind their butts. Really tired, I have to wash clothes, cook and buy food. Only four hands are enough.

I went anyway. I didn't expect to bring my grandson. I was angry. My daughter said that I didn't work hard and that they were tired from work. When I got home, I sat on the sofa waiting for dinner.

I have to give her three meals a day to take care of the children, and I have to pay for it myself, and I have to buy her milk powder diapers and something, and sometimes I have to pay for it myself.

The child is sick and uncomfortable, always blaming me, how to take care of the child? When the children are crying, they are told to go to grandma. No matter whether I am sleeping or working, I will put it down and coax the children.

They go home to cook a meal and send it to the table for them to eat. Then I will feed the children and put them to bed after eating.

I can only eat a little by myself. I'm washing dishes and cleaning up those things, but my daughter and son-in-law are watching TV after dinner. How happy they are.

They have gone to work, and we have to send our children to the kindergarten to pick them up. They want to have a rest on Sunday. They always have something to do, either socializing or resting at home.

@ jingjing jingjing (this is the truth of my old man. It is a new society now. Kissing anyone is the same. Some people say grandma is close, others say grandma is close. )

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I am the one who is very close to my grandparents, but only polite to my grandmother.

As long as I can remember, my grandparents loved me very much and gave me the best. There are three brothers and sisters in my family, and my grandparents spoil us very much. Our feelings with grandparents are even deeper than those of our parents. This is probably the so-called "generation gap". Grandpa is very strict with his children. They are often scolded by his grandfather, but he is very tolerant of us.

As for grandma, we only visit them during the Spring Festival. After dinner, we hurried home and spent little time together. Besides, grandma has so many grandchildren that it's not my turn to hurt and love!

To this end, I think the most important closeness is to see how long we have been together and how deep our feelings are, rather than to judge the relationship between grandparents or grandparents in general. There are also many people around us who have a very good relationship with grandparents.

However, no matter grandparents or grandparents, we should treat them well if there is an opportunity. Unfortunately, there is no chance now.

I'm skeptical about this formulation. Why?

If someone said this decades ago, I think most people still believe it. At that time, only a few young people in rural areas went to work in other places or cities every year through examinations and recruitment, and most of them stayed in rural areas to farm, so their children lived in rural areas for many years. Even a few young people who work outside the home put their children in the countryside to live with their grandparents. In grandparents' home, only parents occasionally take him (her) to visit during holidays, and seldom contact grandparents. It is precisely because I have been in contact with my grandparents for a long time and have less contact with my grandparents, so relatively speaking, it is normal to be close to my grandmother and far away from my grandmother!

However, after the reform and opening up, with the acceleration of urbanization, young people poured into cities to settle down and live in peace and contentment, and their grandchildren were all around their parents. After all, the superior living environment in the city and the superior resources for children to receive education are beyond the reach of the countryside, so most grandparents and even grandparents follow them to the city to take care of them. In this case, do you still think the grandmother is far away? Don't!

The examples I gave are sufficient to support this view. My grandson spent nine years ago in the army compound and the blue sky kindergarten. During this period, his grandmother took care of him, and she only took care of him for a short time, so every time someone asked him, grandma, grandma, who are you closest to? He always says: Grandma! On the contrary, there is an old grandmother who has been visiting her nephew there for many years. Because this nephew's grandmother has three or four sons, she doesn't look at anyone's children. So this nephew only has his grandmother to visit, so when someone asks him who he is kissing, he naturally answers his grandmother!

Speaking of which, it is still inconclusive who the child is close to. It all depends on who he has been with for a long time and who he knows best. Subject, do you still insist on your point of view?