Make each other more confident, and your married life will be happier!

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If you think of someone coming in, please raise your hand! You got it wrong, married life is not just about having sex.

Of course, sex is essential between husband and wife!

To be honest, it’s impossible to have sex without confidence. When having sex, smart women are good at using encouraging eyes and delicate gasps to inspire men's confidence and passion.

Ahem, but this is not the focus of this article.

Research from the University of Pavia in Italy shows that the brains of men and women who have just fallen in love will send instructions to the body to secrete a chemical substance that researchers call "love hormones."

This chemical makes people attracted to each other in love, but it only lasts in the human body for about a year.

When the passionate attraction from the body gradually fades, how can we be happy after entering marriage?

Some people say that a good woman is a housewife at home, a noble lady outside, and a mistress in bed.

Some people say that a husband should get up early to say he loves you, send roses often, and preferably have Kato Takashi's hands. (Actually, I don’t know what it means. Can anyone explain it...)

However, most of these are superficial. A man who doesn’t love you can also pay a florist to send flowers regularly and get up early. It doesn’t take much effort to speak.

Women know how to cook and make love, but they cannot stop the wrinkles caused by time and the lustful and tender mistresses who are eager to look at them.

Simply relying on these materialistic, carnal, and erotic approaches may not be reliable.

Plato said that it is best for love to only pursue spiritual communication and reject physical desire. Let’s call it rational love.

Of course, couples cannot completely exclude sensuality, but when the passion three times a day becomes homework once a week or even once a month, how should the couple maintain their love?

The proportion of spiritual communication must be increased, and as the age of marriage increases, it must be in inverse proportion to the speed of passion fading.

The most important thing about spiritual communication is to inspire the other party's self-confidence.

Recognition from the other person is the motivation to move forward confidently together, and is the key to transforming hormonal love into rational love.

By encouraging each other, pushing each other, and supporting each other, couples can achieve spiritual and practical growth together.

For example, if the husband is not tall, the wife should not always wear high heels (not when she is with him).

How to give your husband confidence? Just do it like Milk Tea Liu Ruoying sang, "I don't wear high heels for love."

For example, if your wife has small breasts, your husband should not follow Sora Aoi’s Weibo all the time (and follow her secretly).

How to give your wife confidence? It can be said that you always give me a girly feeling.

Of course, these are all superficial and external self-confidence, but external self-confidence is also very important!

Being a husband means giving your wife the confidence of Song Hye Kyo.

Being a wife means letting your husband be like Song Joong Ki.

How can a person who is not confident about his appearance expect to be strong on the inside?

Just stop at this point. Real confidence comes from appreciating the other person's connotation.

Be good at exploring the other person’s inner self, and cultivate it if you can’t discover it. In short, you should make the other person glow with self-confidence from the inside out with your encouragement.

In this way, he/she will be mentally inseparable from you.

The reason why I dare to open a public account is inseparable from my wife’s blind worship of my writing.

Although my wife’s writing is actually much better than mine, she always finds reasons to make me confident.

Whenever the reading volume of my official account’s articles hovers below 100, she will always say that your articles are of higher quality and not many people can understand them, but those who like them have good taste.

(Fans, you are all such tasteful people!)

As a newbie, I am actually very timid.

Every time I finish writing, I hesitate for a long time before posting. Only my wife said, "It's okay. Look at my writing so well, why don't I just leave it as it is?" You are much better than me.

Sometimes, the reading volume of an article reaches hundreds. My wife says, look, your number of fans is one-tenth of mine, and your reading volume is higher than mine. Wait until you arrive. With so many fans, my reading volume will definitely be ten times that of mine.

Wife, your emotional intelligence is so high, is God trying to balance your lack of IQ? (Don’t let your wife see this sentence)

I’m just kidding, my wife, you chose me because of your high EQ, high IQ, and higher vision!

Look at my confidence, it’s all because of my wife’s habit.

When two people live under the same roof, they are good at discovering each other's strengths and amplifying them, just like depositing money regularly into a love bankbook, the more the relationship becomes stronger. If you always focus on shortcomings and complain repeatedly, sooner or later you will overdraw the little money in your relationship bankbook.

What truly inspires self-confidence is not just verbal encouragement, but also support and support in life, no matter the highs or lows.

Among the actors in "Ode to Joy", Liu Tao, who plays Andy, is my favorite.

In 2008, Liu Tao and Wang Ke got married and retired from the entertainment industry. When everyone thought this was just another cliché of an actress marrying a wealthy family.

In 2010, Liu Tao returned to filming, and rumors spread online that Wang Ke was bankrupt. Wang Ke began to give up on himself, became addicted to drugs, and fell into depression.

Liu Tao used the money from filming to pay off her husband’s debts and fund his career.

Liu Tao once told this experience in his long Weibo post "Bottom Line".

When he is at his lowest, chat with him, encourage him, tell him the true, good and beautiful things in the world, instill "positive energy", and tell him that you will always love him and never give up on him.

Go to worship Buddha and hide a signed sign for him to see. He loved watching movies, so I pretended not to understand and asked him to tell me about it, and then listened to his bragging, and then he would brag about it.

In order to make him happy, accompany him to do his favorite thing - driving, day and night.

From Frankfurt to Venice, from Venice to Rome, from Rome to Monaco, to Paris and then to Switzerland.

Until one day, Wang Ke said to her, wife, thank you for staying with me. Let’s go home. I’m fine. We will definitely get through it if we work together.

Although Wang Ke has not regained his former financial resources, Liu Tao is happy because she allowed her lover to regain confidence and return to the world.

She said, although I rarely attend events with this short fat man, drive sports cars and visit famous stores, and always feel like I have been cheated, I will always be his wife because I keep my promise. My wife's bottom line is that she has kept my professional title competently. The people who love him and I have turned him from a dying man into a healthy, positive and optimistic person. This is what I am most proud of.

It is this kind of Liu Tao who can perform that kind of Andy.

Making each other confident is the key to maintaining a healthy relationship.

Never consume each other in the negative energy of criticizing each other. It is not easy to meet in the vast sea of ????people, and it is difficult to fall in love. When you meet, you must cherish it.

It takes a hundred years to be able to cross on the same boat, and a thousand years to be able to sleep on the same pillow.

I wish every couple in love can confidently walk hand in hand and live a happy life!

Every couple who reads this article, you should be happy!