My granddaughter and grandson.

I can't believe it: I'm the closest relative to my granddaughter over the age of/kloc-0! I got special attention, closeness and need from my granddaughter! Although I have proved it to be true so far, I still can't believe it in my heart! This is a shot in the arm for a person with bad interpersonal relationship (I always feel that my interpersonal relationship is poor): you see, a young and innocent little life is so close to me, from the perspective of high probability, I have become the person she values most, the closest person and the person who needs most.

I keep asking: Why me? Why can I get such recognition from my little granddaughter and need to be close? Why can I be so calm and settle my little granddaughter's body and mind?

Why should I doubt for so long that I have this possibility, this certainty? This heart has a trembling feeling and can't believe what this means.

I'm reviewing. ...

From the day after her granddaughter was born, she and her parents returned to their grandparents' home from the hospital where she was born. I, promoted to grandma, put my granddaughter in my heart, hold her in my arms, and think about everything I can do for her with love. I am extremely concerned about her sense of security, her importance, her music, her classics, her language, her socialization, her greetings, politeness and gratitude. In her and her parents' room, classical music is played almost 24 hours (of course, when sleeping, the volume is turned to low, and the high notes are not there). I hold her and dance to the rhythm of music during the day. I let the child's little body feel the rhythm of music as a whole, and let her feel the music all over. When she was about two months old, I saw her clearly from her little face and eyes during the pause between one piece of music playing and the beginning of the next piece of music. She is waiting to listen to music! Every morning when my granddaughter wakes up, I hold her in every room and place at home and tell her what it is, what it is, where it is in the room and what color it is. On rainy days, I took my granddaughter to the window to watch the rain, took her to the park with an umbrella to watch the rain and rainy sky, and described to her what kind of rain, sky and feelings I saw in words. I pay special attention to protect her attention when she looks at things, and dare not disturb! I pay great attention to bringing her into a neat consciousness, doing things in time and putting things in place. When I get up in the morning, I always play hide-and-seek with her, and then teach her to fold the quilt and spread the sheets neatly. Toys, books, milk powder cans, I took her home in time (also); Wash your hands before, after and after going home, and form the habit of keeping your hands clean; Wherever she goes, she takes her to read and count; I appreciate the environment layout of the kindergarten very much, and I really want to decorate the front hall and living room at home into a learning, edifying and playing space similar to the kindergarten. Unfortunately, it is a bit like it, but there is still a gap. Wait a minute.

Do these people make my granddaughter feel that I am the person she values most, is closest to and needs most?

Maybe these also make my granddaughter feel, but for me, I feel that I always hold her and dance with music and children's songs. My full love and her heart are close to hers. Many times, the integration of body and mind brings her feelings of body and mind, so that her body and mind can feel that she is loved and valued enough and important enough, and we are very happy together.

I lived with my granddaughter/kloc-0 for more than 500 days in a year and a half. I observed from her:

How people entered the WTO step by step, how they had feelings, connections, values and various emotions with people and things in this world, and how they accepted the names and knowledge of people and things in this world, which gradually became what she thought she had;

Observing the inner development strength and the rhythm of life, we can see that children grow up step by step, which makes our eyes shine and our hearts rejoice: we can look up, turn over, sit up, stumble and walk happily, find our way, dance in circles, pronounce the language sounds of "mom" and "what is this", and know many languages and things.

I really, really lament the inherent development strength and rhythm of life itself, and lament the growth of a child, just like vitality is playing a play, starting slowly and then performing one scene after another. As time goes by, the drama of life is staged with embryo, fetus, baby, infant, child, teenager, youth, prime of life, old age and death. Some people say that the world is an open book, an open book without words. I saw scene after scene of energetic performance. Really, life is like a play. People should participate in the play, but don't be too involved, too serious and too concerned. Life is worse than death after China's entry into WTO. Keep a clear head. Being too involved in the WTO will be too persistent. It is better to be open-minded when you are sober. When you judge others and yourself, remind yourself that there is nothing to judge and care about. Everyone is an actor coming from fate, and the play will end. Then I suddenly remembered that sentence: it's hard to be confused. At this moment, I seem to feel that this confusion is open-minded, that is, to see through the openness and wisdom of the world about right and wrong, kindness and resentment, good and bad.

Granddaughter 1 year 1 month, her brother, my grandson, arrived. I realized the happiness and how to get along with two children at home. The boss will have the problem that her sense of security is violated by her second child, and she will prevent people she values from having a second child. Adults in the family should pay great attention to maintaining the boss's sense of security and let the boss feel it carefully and skillfully. I appreciate the simplicity and clarity of children. If I want to stop them, I will stop them without any worries and express my wishes clearly. At the same time, there are some feelings in my heart: children, don't care so much! There are many things in life, don't care too much! I hope the baby will realize the selfless, open-minded and relaxed pleasure in your life as soon as possible and accept the reality! There is no gain or loss, no right or wrong. It's enough to do your job. What exists is reasonable, and confusion and modesty are very important.

At present, in the process of raising two children, one is almost 1.5 years old and the other is almost 5 months old, and I feel a little sorry: I rarely give in to my convenience and force my granddaughter. For example, she sometimes refuses to wash her hands, diapers and little ass, but I still insist on forcing her to wash her hands, diapers and little ass. I'm worried that her short-lived adult compulsion against her will in her early years will also leave her a little helpless influence. For the second grandchild, because of my little granddaughter's prevention, I seldom held my grandchild for the first four months, and I seldom talked to my second grandchild, and I hardly took him around. This is the pain in my heart.

There is another regret: for these two grandchildren, for some reason, their parents and I basically didn't record their daily or major growth performance, and we didn't form their training plans and programs together. In the earliest and most precious time of their lives, I still didn't cherish their golden minutes with their parents, and didn't make plans and plans for their lifelong happiness.

Is it necessary to form a basic plan and plan to make fetuses, babies and young children happy and capable throughout their life cycle? Or seriously take it one day at a time, so-called let nature take its course?

At present, everyone understands that prenatal education is useful and there is such a thing as prenatal education; -1 -7 years old is the softest, most plastic and fastest developing period in a person's life; 80% of brain development will be completed at the age of 6-7; There is a saying from generation to generation: "Look at the big at the age of three, look at the old at the age of seven" and "You can only see far if you climb high". What kind of information and vigilance do these convey?

Happiness is what people want most in life. Happiness requires three conditions: first, external cognitive ability; second, internal ability to settle one's heart and emotions; sense of security, value, meaning, belonging and existence; The third is creativity and self-confidence. These three points need to be promoted through planting, fertilization, sun and rain in the most plastic period of embryos, fetuses, babies and young children, and lay a good foundation stone. After the age of 7, some learning abilities will gradually decline. From this perspective, it is really necessary to consider and cherish the development cornerstone of embryos, fetuses, infants and young children. Celebrities handed down from history, such as Confucius, can read, write poems, write books and play at an early age. They all started reading and writing at the age of 2-3, and lived a long life, living to 70 or 80 years old.

The premise has been made clear: cherish the first seven years of a child's life (-1 -6 years old) and carry out appropriate, rich and beautiful early edification and development. So, the important thing is: what is the appropriate content? how much is it? Time schedule? In other words, it is necessary to do a good job in the basic development planning and planning in the early stage.

Once I got along with my granddaughter and grandson, I was deeply impressed, learned a profound lesson and had far-reaching significance. One night when my granddaughter is almost one and a half years old, my little granddaughter always doesn't sleep, but I am responsible for taking her to sleep because I have some tasks to finish. The more children don't sleep, the more anxious I am, and then I get irritable. Finally, I couldn't help it. I made a violent move on my little granddaughter: I took her toys by force and wanted to take her to bed. The little guy has a sense of self, so let her resist. I sat about 3 meters away from her, and the little guy obviously felt my anger and irritability towards her. Obviously, she left her alone, and she turned to me and cried. It was really hard to reflect later! My lesson is: never vent your emotions on your little grandson just because something has affected your future emotions! Through learning, I know that adults' attitudes towards children aged 0-3 are the key factors that affect children's self-awareness and understanding of the environment, and will profoundly affect children's self-awareness, self-worth, security, popularity, strong sense of belonging and happiness. I want to remember!

I am very grateful to my granddaughter and grandson! Because of them, I began to pay attention to observing our surroundings carefully with them; Because of them, I began to examine myself. What do I need to improve, perfect and promote in order to become an example worthy of their emulation; Because of them, I feel the happiness that children bring to us adults!

Granddaughters and grandchildren are here, and my next important and continuous lesson is how to be an example worthy of their imitation.

Granddaughter, grandchild, dearest baby, thank you!