My brother bought a car and a house, but my sister didn't have the help of her brain. How outrageous is this magic to help my brother?

The reason why I write this kind of article is that I hope everyone can correctly realize that if you spoil your child too much, you can't let your child realize your mistakes when he makes mistakes, which will have a great impact on your child's future and old age.

Today, I am also talking about children's education, but this time I am not talking about us as parents, but about helping my brother's sister. This kind of sister has a * * * sex. "As long as her brother needs help, she will do her best to help him." There seems to be nothing wrong with this. My sister loves my brother, and it is natural and commendable for my sister to help my brother. What if you don't care about your husband's feelings and help your brother at the expense of marital happiness? Is her behavior right?

I believe that most of my friends will have a clear answer in their hearts, and my personal answer is that it is right for a sister to love her brother and help him when he is in trouble, but only if the happiness element in marriage cannot be damaged.

Because this is not only my own irresponsibility to marriage, but also my husband's irresponsibility. The younger brother has his own life. As a younger sister, if you really love your younger brother, you should help him in the right way. You can't spoil him too much. Excessive indulgence will only make him lazy and demanding. There is a saying that saving the poor does not save the poor. This sentence is also suitable for elder sister's love for younger brother. My brother is lazy and short of money. As a sister, you can't directly give him money to help him because of this. You give him an in-depth education first, and then find him a job to learn to work hard.

Sister, you have to understand, if brother works hard, will he still be short of money? I believe not, but I will have a bright future because I work hard. My brother did something wrong. As a sister, you can't take the fall for him. You can't cover for him. Blindly shielding his younger brother will only lead his life astray and will not be happy in the future. You should let him know that doing something wrong needs to be punished. If you do something wrong, you should face it bravely and correct it in time, so that your future will be better.

A male reader told me privately that he married a wife who loved his brother very much, and his married life was miserable. In the end, because his wife ignored his family and his brother's behavior, he could not bear to choose a divorce. He told me that I hope that through his experience, some women who are not helping understand that there is nothing wrong with loving your brother, but you should love your brother in the right way.

Mr. Li and Ms. Zhang are high school classmates. They established a love relationship in college, and their feelings during college have always been sweet. After graduation, they worked hard together, bought a wedding room and got married.

But less than three months after they got married, they quarreled, which was the first time they quarreled. When they decorated the wedding room, they borrowed money from their friends and promised to pay it off within three months. After all, their friends also spent the banquet money they needed to get married three months later. However, at the critical moment, Ms. Zhang fell off the chain. Her younger brother, who graduated from college, is practicing and lost money in the stock market. Her sister, reluctant to beat and scold, helped him pay off the foreign debt of100000 yuan.

Mr. Li is very angry about this. He thinks that Ms. Zhang's love for her brother is too bottomless, which violates her promise to lend money to their friends.

To this end, Mr. Li blamed Ms. Zhang and said, "Wife, we made money and saved money together, and also provided for your brother to go to college together. Now you not only ignore my feelings, but also directly gave me100000." Sending him to college is related to his growth and studies, which is understandable for a sister. But now that he has started his internship, you should let him become an adult, instead of indulging him in everything without a bottom line. You are pushing him to the irresponsible road, and at the same time, you are hurting ourselves and breaking our promise to friends who lend a helping hand. "

Ms. Zhang listened to her husband's reprimand. Although there was no reply on the surface, in fact, she didn't feel sorry for Mr. Li. She takes everything she has done for her brother for granted. Mr. Li thought that his wife's silence was because she understood that it was wrong to spoil her brother so much, so she didn't pursue it too much. However, in the next two years, he found many times that his wife helped his lazy brother financially. Once or twice before, he would choose to communicate with his wife, hoping that she would realize that this practice would affect each other's marital feelings and happy life in marriage, but Ms. Zhang continued to help her brother unmoved.

Mr. Li felt that it was useless to argue any longer, and gradually lost his feelings and patience with Ms. Zhang. What broke out completely was Mr. Li's dissatisfaction. He found that his brother-in-law who had just graduated for two years had bought a house and a car. Under his questioning, his wife admitted to him: "My brother wants to buy a car and a house, and I am a sister. It doesn't matter. Especially since my brother has reached marriageable age. Any girl who has no car or house will want to be with him. I can't let the fragrance of our Lao Zhang family break. "

After listening to this, Mr. Li said angrily, "You always ignore my feelings. You should live with your brother and get a divorce. "

Mr. Li gave up on his wife completely and found it boring to go on. Two people don't care about each other, so why leave endless quarrels. Get together and leave. Mr. Li told me: "After the divorce, she came to me many times, hoping to remarry. She said she knew she was wrong and shouldn't spoil her brother like this. However, I'm really scared. I have been married to her for many years. I worked hard for this family and made a lot of money, but there was nothing left. If I get back together with her, she hasn't corrected the way she loves her brother. I don't know if my marriage will have happiness and future, so I dare not promise to remarry.

To tell the truth, I have no objection to my sister taking care of my brother. After all, my brother is my sister's closest relative. But what I object to is my sister's unprincipled and bottomless doting on my brother. Therefore, I hope that through experience, those women who dote on their younger brothers will wake up and know what they should do in order to be good sisters and wives. "

From what Mr. Li said, I can see how disappointed he is with his ex-wife. Just like Teacher Li said, it's right to love your younger brother, but don't spoil your younger brother in the wrong way, regardless of your husband's feelings, marriage and happiness of life. Love your brother in the right way. Don't let him do anything wrong, so you can handle it for him. You should let him know that there is a price to pay for doing something wrong. You should let him know that you are too lazy to marry a daughter-in-law.

You should make him understand that only by working hard and striving hard can he have a bright future. If you love your brother, you should take the right way to give him a correct outlook on life and let him face the future positively with a burning heart.

Advise some "helping brothers": it is not what a good sister should do, nor is it the performance of loving her brother, nor is it what a wife should do. You will only ruin your brother's life and make him a lazy, unscrupulous and despised person. If you do this, you will only lose the happiness of your marriage and your dear husband. Today's topic: doting on my brother without principles and bottom lines, regardless of family and husband, will it make my brother have no correct outlook on life and a bright future? Will you lose your marriage and happiness?