How to deal with people who disgust you?

In daily life, we sometimes encounter malicious words from others, which will make us feel uncomfortable and even affect our mental health. How to face the malicious behavior of others? Is to fight back, or silence. Let's analyze it from a psychological point of view today and talk about how to fight back against others.

(1) Scenes suitable for counterattack

If the other person's malicious behavior is likely to happen again, or just enter a new environment, you need to use counterattack skills. The reasons are as follows

A. It is necessary for people who may have repeated contact to turn back, because the inherent psychology of human beings is bullying and being afraid of hard work, and your compromise will make the other party push your luck. And the other person's repeated malice will cause you great psychological pressure.

B. Just entering an environment, there is a process of testing how to get along with each other. If you don't set your own bottom line at this time, you will not only be vulnerable to the malice of the other party again, but also leave a weak impression on the people around you.

(2) Post-spreading type

When you can clearly feel the malice of the other party (intentionally, strongly, with a clear purpose, that is, insulting you), you need to leave a deep impact on the other party through explosive attacks. The more violent your attack is, the more intense your emotions are, the less bottom line you have, and the greater the psychological damage you cause to the other party, the better the effect will be.

(3) Clever return,

When the other person's malice is not very high, or the environment at that time is not suitable for you to lose your temper (if there are elders and leaders present), you need skills, such as:''

A. directly point out the specific purpose of the other party. Most people's malicious attacks are side attacks. For example, the other person may say, "It's a little difficult for you to find a boyfriend/girlfriend like this." You can directly reply to him, "Are you calling me ugly/poor?"

Can cause a direct psychological impact on each other.

B. In the same way, when someone throws dirty water at you, you can choose not to answer and say it back in the same way. When others say you are ugly, you say others are poor. When someone insults your father, you insult their mother.

C. deliberately showing weakness is suitable for facing malicious elders. For example, some elders often say that your work is not good. You can directly reply, "Yes, I don't want to do it either. Please introduce me to a job. "

D. You can follow the trend, deliberately blur the concept, turn the other party's attack on you into an attack on most people, and use others to put pressure on you. For example, the other side is black: "You xx people are like this". You can fight back, "Hey, you xx people are aristocrats? Everyone else is xx? " Use the people around him to put psychological pressure on him.

(4) Scenes unsuitable for regression.

In a scene with complicated interpersonal relationships, you don't know each other's background, and you don't have enough strength or background. It's nice to go back for a while, but it may be uncomfortable afterwards.

In crowded places, going back to other people's homes, if not high-level, can easily turn into a war of mutual tearing, making people around you look at jokes for nothing.

If you are a person who is not angry and arrogant, you don't need to talk back, and you can also cause enough psychological pressure on the opposite side.

Conclusion: In the face of other people's malicious attacks, if your psychological quality is not very strong, it is easy to blindly appear various psychological problems. The above methods may be helpful to you.