As "divorced women", Ma Yili and Li XiaoLu are very different. Why?

0 1 The word "divorce" was not so terrible today. Some people are reborn because of divorce, and some people meet the only thrill because of divorce. Divorce is not only the end of the previous relationship, but also the arrival of a new relationship.

But how to divorce a woman is very different. People's tolerance for divorce is gradually increasing, but their attitude towards how to divorce is clear. Whether it is the wrong party or the victim, the evaluation given by this society is different.

Ma Yili and the article announced the news of their divorce at the same time on July 28th. The article said: "I like Yi Fu, and I am halfway with my peers. I don't want two widths, I am growing up, and I am still waiting for my family. " Ma Yili said, "You and I loved each other deeply, worked hard and achieved each other. This feeling is regrettable, but there is no right or wrong. In the future, every student will be happy. "

If you leave, no matter how literary you are, you can't hide some facts. The derailment of the article may be the fuse of two people's divorce.

Look at Li XiaoLu and Jerry. On June165438+1October 14, they issued a joint statement. While Li XiaoLu was criticized by countless people, this marriage came to an end. Li XiaoLu's infidelity became the fuse of their final divorce.

From the divorce to the present, Ma Yili and Li XiaoLu have completely different positions. As can be seen from the news of two people in the entertainment circle, Ma Yili's career is still on the rise. In the eyes of others, she is a good mother and a strong woman, independent, self-reliant, confident and pessimistic. Li XiaoLu, on the other hand, was gradually swallowed up by saliva, and her status dropped again. It is difficult for us to see her existence from film and television dramas. As long as a few news pops up occasionally, everyone laughs it off.

The same brilliant career, the same "divorced woman", but very different! The reason is only because their roles are different: one is the wrong party and the other is the victim.

It's not just about public figures. In this society, no matter who it is, people have completely different attitudes towards the wrongdoer and the victim.

Xiaoying's uncle Du has been suffering from diabetes for 20 years, and it has been 5 years since then. Diabetes has been reverberating to his eyes, which makes his eyes unable to see clearly. Du Shu, once a disabled person, was abandoned by his aunt for three years.

Xiaoying said that since my uncle lost his original job after his eye problems, my aunt wanted him to go to a factory to watch the gate. But the stubborn uncle refused to do some small business at home to make money. My aunt didn't listen, so I went to work in the factory in a rage.

At this time, rumors spread. Some villagers said that they saw Aunt Xiaoying talking to a man in the cornfield. Some people say that Aunt Xiaoying went home with someone else when she was on the night shift ... She said everything, but she ignored it. Until later, my aunt took the liberty of renting a house near the factory. At this time, it was said that my aunt lived with another man.

Good things stay indoors while bad things will go far away. These things have been spread by people, and it is not good for Xiaoying and her family to believe them. But the family wanted my aunt to go home, so she filed for divorce. After Du Shu followed in a rage, he found that those rumors were not groundless.

Xiaoying actually knows her aunt quite well. Uncle Du is less than 50 years old. Although he has eye problems, it is no problem to look at people at close range. Why can't he get married and work to make money? They still have two daughters to support. How do men flinch at this time? She also understands why menstruation chose to cheat and just follow that man, so that life can be easier.

She can even understand her aunt's request for divorce. But what she doesn't understand is that in a feudal village, how can my aunt ignore my reputation so casually? What can't I do after divorce, and who can't meet after divorce?

My aunt's reckless behavior led her to live in the village. People often sympathize with the weak. They called their aunt shameless and romantic behind her back. I sympathized with this man's experience behind Du Shu's back. My body collapsed and my wife ran away with another man.

Behind the fame of thousands of miles, menstruation fled overnight. Since then, my aunt's reputation has become more and more thorough. The villagers gnashed their teeth at the mention of their aunt, as if they were the ones who were sorry for her.

On the other hand, Aunt Liang, another divorced woman in the village, can help her neighbors. Everyone has always been smiling at Aunt Liang. Aunt Liang went to water the ground. Some people helped fertilize it, and some people held out their hands. Even sitting at the door chatting, some women take the initiative to share the delicious food cooked at home.

We do this because we feel sorry for the divorced woman from the bottom of our hearts. After all, no one in the village has seen Aunt Liang's ex-husband enter the widow's door in broad daylight and come out an hour or two later. Everyone knows what happened in the house, but no one can say it. It wasn't until Aunt Liang ran into me that she chose a divorce regardless of my parents' in-laws' obstruction.

A woman who dares to say no to a "bad marriage" deserves admiration, but a woman who divorces because of betraying her marriage will be despised. It is also a "divorce", but the comments are quite different.

Looking at the usual appearance of two people, there is actually a big difference. Aunt Du has had a hard time since she went to other places, and the taste of leaving home is unpleasant, especially for a woman who doesn't know a word.

In fact, the object of her affair also has a family, but the other party did not divorce because of her aunt, but returned to the family and gave up her aunt. Menstruation thought it would be brighter after the divorce, but he didn't expect the blow to follow.

Aunt Liang is different. With the help of relatives and friends, she was born in the sun and I started farming. She has been betrayed and beaten, and she can't say anything tall, but she has supported two children by herself.

The world is fair. People who are too greedy and do something wrong may end up with nothing, but those who can withstand the blow of life, don't complain, don't slack off and rely on themselves will be lucky in the end. It is a fallacy to have a guilty conscience at any time.