A little advice for married men and women

In the present marriage. Most of us will blame each other when we encounter problems, and then make a fuss about trivial things everywhere. Finally, we either love it more, or the family cares more about the family's apology. There are many ways to apologize, which can be a meal, a speech, or ... but most of them are selective, temporarily forgotten, and then the next contradiction or a contradiction is turned over. And then hurt each other more. Why is the divorce rate so high now? Because the repeated injuries have saved enough despair, the burden of drag, the pressure in my heart, and the ability to live alone are still more temptations to choose to separate. So I just left. But there are also a few irresponsible and irresponsible things. But it is still a minority, especially those with children.

In fact, many divorced friends always say that he or she would never have divorced, and few people care about their mistakes. Then reflect on yourself in order to make better changes.

The teacher said that changing oneself is a god, and changing the other person is a neuropathy. But there are quite a few mental disorders in our life. Me too.

In fact, life is very simple. If you really love each other, remind them of their shortcomings, and then give them time to change, or encounter problems, first examine whether you have made similar mistakes in the past. Even if not, plant good seeds for yourself. Start by being strict with yourself. Be yourself, and then over time, the other party will definitely see it and ask for a change.

? Don't start a marriage easily and don't end it easily. When you meet the right person, you can talk and have common hobbies, but it's not exactly what you want. Be good friends, you may wish to wait and see. Wait until he becomes what you want, then consider getting married. Few people feel this way when they get married for the first time. After all, young people were thinking more about love, feelings and hormones, and some didn't even control their desires and didn't know physiological common sense. Then, when they find out, the child has already taken shape, and they have to pay for their actions.

But married, really want to see clearly. If you just think that the other person is your type, but don't look at the lining through the surface, then your future life will be very trivial. How to choose a good man is really important. Let me give you some advice:

? First of all, if you meet a man (woman) you also like, you might as well do the same thing. In the process of doing things, see if the other person agrees with you. Even if you don't do one thing, you might as well talk about your own views and handling methods with a few things, and then see if he knows and does. In order to consider whether the three views are consistent.

Then bring him or her into your circle. No matter who he is or what his status is, how much you care about him. You should be yourself and see if he will leave or have his own opinion. Remember not to disguise yourself, because it is inevitable to repeat today's experience after you are alive. If the other party can't accept it, stop in time. Life is really long, don't force it. Reluctantly, there is a lot of trouble behind the disguise. Unless you can pretend for a lifetime, even if you really know that something is bad, don't pretend when you meet it, but you can change yourself (it takes time to make it clear to the other party, let them change, and let people reach an agreement and move on to the next step). You should also make it clear that you are separated. Don't get hot-headed, quarrel and then part. Why? This is the story of the pen, which I will tell later. Calm treatment is more affectionate than quarreling, because in this society, more friends are better than more enemies.

If you have passed the first two levels, you might as well live together for a while to see if the other person's habits suit you. Whether the way to communicate with each other can be calm and acceptable. If you find out in about three months, you can get married again.

Make it clear before marriage that the other party's property is owned separately before marriage (of course, I would also like to say that I plan or prepare to let the other party share it, but you don't care about it. ), the marriage law also thinks so. If there is a loan, how to repay it should also be discussed. After all, it is to reorganize the family and avoid unnecessary troubles in the future. After marriage, the property of * * * is also stipulated by law.

Most importantly, please bring your sincere heart. Ask your children to treat each other's children. Give children a lot of love and give each other.

Be honest with each other and work out a mutually acceptable way of communication. Even if you quarrel, you can immediately use a calm way as a bridge for family communication. Solve problems in time and be open and honest.

Please remember that marriage is a responsibility and the beginning of a love. Without love, if you are just people who can make do, don't look down on this. Because you don't understand, family conflicts are inevitable. When encountering problems, we might as well use a story of a pen to ease the mood at that time. Or throw a charming smile and tell him that you love him. No matter who is right or wrong, it is not a matter of principle. In love and marriage, there is nothing shameful about bowing your head. It is better to bow your head more. Let the other person know that you love him or her, and more importantly, remember to read the seed book of love? Books? Together with the other half, I am sure to get a happy book.

Anyway, remember to be grateful to each other, because fate makes us know each other, and together, no one has the obligation to do anything for you and do their part. If the other person helps you do your thing, you must remember to be grateful. If the other party can't do it, please do it yourself first.

Don't ask why, if you are interested in reading it together, there are answers in the book.