How do I deal with frivolous people?

This is my first work after returning to Kunming. I believe that everyone has dealt with frivolous people and has gone through stages of frivolity. This article will mainly talk about some of my experiences and opinions on dealing with frivolous people. Regarding this question, I won’t be too busy and give you the answer early. Let’s look at it step by step: Youth First, let’s talk about what youth is. Young, from a physiological perspective, can be called young people from 20 to 40 years old. To explain it a little deeper, it means having passion, energy and physical strength. Therefore, we must establish a point of view: youth refers to a stage of relatively sufficient energy for people, and has nothing to do with maturity, immaturity, and stability. However, there is a phenomenon in society now: once someone makes a stupid mistake, others will usually say: he is too young; young man, etc. In other words, in contemporary society, youth will always be It is unwrittenly associated with being unsteady and immature. Why is this? This is because, in the real society, most of the people who are immature, unstable and unstable are young people, or the vast majority are young people. Why is this? Because young people, in most cases, lack psychological experience and adaptation time. Therefore, when facing accidents and emergencies, young people are usually less sophisticated and psychologically accepting than older people (but this is only in most cases, and special circumstances are not excluded). Therefore, young people are It's easy to make mistakes. However, we must establish this point of view: the word "young" itself does not mean immaturity or instability at all. These meanings are interpretations that incorporate social factors. However, all the articles I write are closely based on reality and are based on realistic considerations. Therefore, in this article, I incorporate realistic factors into my youth. Frivolity Then let’s discuss what frivolity is. We usually use this word rarely, almost never, but everyone roughly knows what it means. First of all, we must make it clear: frivolity refers to a characteristic of thinking rather than a behavior. That is to say, when someone does something wrong, we cannot say that he is frivolous. Because frivolity cannot be used to describe things, it can only be used to describe people themselves. In other words, frivolity actually describes a way of thinking about problems. What is the specific method? To put it bluntly, it refers to a way of thinking that is not comprehensive and rushes to conclusions. Having clarified the above two points, we started to discuss the topic. The first question: How to deal with frivolous people. There is no answer to this question. To put it more professionally, it means that specific people should analyze it in detail; to put it more popularly, it means that no one cares about what you do with love. Therefore, I can only talk about my own way of coping. This is the only way I deal with frivolous people (this is how I deal with them): laugh---gt; let---gt; accumulate--gt; Crossing the line will make you laugh instantly: Flirty people are usually very arrogant, so when I meet such people, I will usually chat with them according to their wishes, and I will say whatever I want to make them happy. I know that in fact, many people in life are generally reluctant to talk to frivolous people when they meet them, but that is not the case for me. Because I believe that any frivolous person must have some merits in him. If you don’t let him talk about everything arrogantly, then his merits will not be exposed. Think about it, everyone. Yes or no? There must be something redeeming about everyone, especially frivolous people. And his frivolity, after all, shows that at least there are aspects of him that he thinks are awesome, so why don’t we get him to talk about it and take a look? If it's not that good at all, then we just need to know in our hearts. If it does happen a little bit, then we might as well listen to what he has to say. So, just let him talk as much as he wants, right? And let me tell you, one characteristic of a frivolous person is that once he thinks that you admire him and you are interested in what he has to say, he will tell you everything incessantly. This is really the best thing in the world. It’s a piece of cake, everyone.

Isn’t that good if a person is willing to reveal his own secrets to you? Why don't you listen to him? Everyone, no matter how arrogant he is, just listen to the story, right? In the whole process, you satisfy his vanity. This is actually the morality of communication. Whether you like others or dislike them, you must respect others, so that others will respect you. Jean: If you want to deal with a frivolous person, you have to give in. You have to satisfy his vanity. Moreover, you have to make concessions at a high level. You can’t make him feel that you really admire him. You really admire him and think he is the emperor. You also have to make him feel that although you are not as good as him, you are still the best. Still somewhat powerful. Therefore, letting go is also a knowledge in itself, because only by letting go can you truly make friends with frivolous people. Because a frivolous person himself does not like people he thinks are weak and incompetent. Ji: When you deal with a frivolous person, you have to figure out how much he owes you and how much you have tolerated him. Otherwise, if your tolerance becomes a habit, then you really want to make friends with him, which would be very bad. Therefore, he owes his own principles, his own mood, his own character and his own heart. He must know it in his heart and be very clear about it. The account must be settled clearly. Let me tell you, over the past seven years, I definitely know who owes me and how much I know better than they do. I have always said this: I am casual and easy-going on the surface (simple-minded people are definitely not sure at all) You can’t tell), in fact, I will remember everything clearly for you, no matter how big or small, it’s just that I never show it to frivolous people (I definitely have to show it to others), six years Always. Cross the line and die in one step: If the person on the other side is still unaware and continues to be frivolous and arrogant, when the account in my ledger reaches the top, the line is reached. If you continue to be self-righteous and arrogant, I'm sorry. After giving you a hard beating with a stick, I will never talk to you again, and I will cut off all emotional contact with you from now on. Unless your contribution to me in the future exceeds the amount recorded in my account book, I will continue to interact with you carefully. Otherwise, as long as the account in my account book has not been cleared (and I will not give you the slightest hint about your specific No matter how much you owe me), I will never look back. We will go our separate ways as if we have never known each other. From now on, I will treat you with a completely truthful attitude without any consideration for you. Once you cross the line, I will settle all the accounts for you at once. Nothing more, nothing less. One thing that must be emphasized is that this process of mine is used to face frivolous people. If it were to face my other friends, then I would definitely still have sadness and joy written on my face, and my joy and anger would be fully visible in my color (and I am very, very If you hurt me, I will let you know immediately. Because only in this way can others understand you and then help you. This process is only used by me to deal with frivolous and arrogant people. When dealing with other good brothers, of course I still show my sincerity and convince others with my honesty and sincerity. This must be made clear! This is just my way. I know that my way is a bit extreme, and I also know that there are other softer ways, but I have been doing this for six years and I have gotten used to it! ! If I were asked to change it, I really can't completely change it to another process at the moment, but I believe I will switch to another process in the future, which will not be so extreme. Everyone has their own way, so there is no standard answer to this first question. The second question: Why is frivolity always associated with youth and immaturity? The reason is the same as my explanation of why youth is always associated with immaturity and instability. No more nonsense. I hope everyone can have a good life.