The old man wants to take care of his grandson, but what if his daughter-in-law doesn't let him?

When my grandson is born, I really want to take it. Reason, 1. I am a pediatrician. I will never be seriously ill when I take care of my children, because minor illnesses are optimistic. 2. I have a degree, at least graduated from a serious undergraduate course. I have successful experience, because I brought out an excellent child.

But the daughter-in-law wouldn't allow it, but her mother didn't go to school all day, but she gave birth to more than six. So, she said that her mother has experience.

I threw them ten thousand dollars and turned away.

The child was brought up by her mother, skinny, except for her big head, which was not up to standard. He is six or seven centimeters smaller than children of the same age, and his weight is light. He is full of foul language, fighting outside every day, and hitting grandma when he picks up something.

Even if I travel and fly around every day, they can't stand it anymore and say let me take it. I'll take it. Now the child is in the third grade, in middle school, very considerate and overweight, belonging to middle school.

So, relax your mind, let it go if you should, let it go if you shouldn't, and let it go if you like. Don't force it. However, you have to have your own life.

Let me talk about my mother-in-law, and you will know why I don't want my mother-in-law to take it. When I first got married, my mother-in-law gave me a pair of mother-in-law airs. She told me everywhere that she was a mother-in-law and I had to wait on her. In my family, I really sit on the sofa all day and have to be poured water for her to drink. After dinner, the bowl is left there and never sent to the kitchen. She is from the mountain, and she was pushed by her mother-in-law. I understand her. But why should I wait on you and follow you? When I got married, my mother married a suite, and my mother bought me a car for 50 thousand. My mother-in-law didn't take anything or buy a house, so she gave me a pair of mother-in-law airs. Of course, I ignored it. Later, I got pregnant and didn't come to see me during the whole pregnancy. After ten days of birth, I saw the baby and left. Confucius didn't wait on me. My mother-in-law is in the hospital, and I only have my mother-in-law. Later, when the baby was more than three months old, she said she would come to take care of her grandson so that I could go to work, so I said I would come if I wanted to. What did she do later? At home, I just hold the baby, do nothing, don't change her diaper, and don't make milk powder. I taught her that she can go to work safely in the later period. As a result, she always refuses to learn for various reasons. Sometimes she says that the baby is too young to do it, and the milk powder is too difficult to do. She can't learn. Forget it, don't do it! But I have to wait on her to eat and drink, and I am not happy! But I am not happy. I didn't say a word and didn't complain to my husband. I always feel that she will leave one day, and I won't let her come back to her hometown. She has been here for about ten days. At about six o'clock in the evening, my husband called me to ask if the meal was ready. I said no, he asked me what I was doing. I said I was holding the baby and the baby was sleeping. Why don't you eat something outside? My husband asked me about the fucking situation, because my mother-in-law was sitting next to me, and I couldn't say that she was just sitting there watching TV. I hung up the phone and sent him a message saying, damn it. He came back with a black face. After he came back, he washed vegetables and cooked. When his mother went to eat dinner, I estimated that my son was unhappy and asked him. Later, the two men quarreled at once, and I pulled a few words to no avail. I carried the baby back to my room, followed by my mother-in-law crying and packing up. My husband told her to leave quickly, do nothing and start asking you for help, not calling the queen mother back. My mother-in-law heard about it. Suddenly broke out and said that she quit. We are young and want her to be older. We don't do it now. Let's turn around and cry on the balcony. I cried for over an hour. I went to help her, let her sleep, and said that my husband was not sensible or something. Later, when he came back from work, the two men began to quarrel again. My mother-in-law made all kinds of accounts, from her husband's elementary school to her marriage, saying that her husband never bought anything when he came home. Shit, I'm speechless. Every year during the holidays, I don't give thousands of dollars when I go back. Because I didn't know what she liked to eat, she bought it for herself. She fell from her hand. We drove more than 200 kilometers from the countryside to the city overnight just to see her hands. I went to several hospitals and said that it was a comminuted fracture and needed surgery. Later, I said that small city hospitals could not do it, so I went to Hefei to see a doctor. Although some experts said it was a comminuted fracture and it was estimated that surgery was needed, more than 200 yuan was connected, but I didn't spend 1000 yuan. I just got a salary of 590. Two days later, my mother-in-law probably realized that something was wrong with her. She had a heart-to-heart talk with my husband while I was taking a shower. As a result, people said that I didn't teach her, and my husband was also straight and went straight back. I haven't taught you anything, and you expect my wife to teach you how to learn? My mother-in-law is ashamed to go back to her room. At that time, I really began to have a bad impression on my mother-in-law. In the evening, my husband told me that he always thought that his mother would take good care of the baby when she came. After all, she is a grandmother. As a result, his mother was too disappointed, saying that my mother took care of the baby, washed clothes and cooked, and the baby was well served. She can do anything, but how can it not work here? And my mother-in-law has been with me for more than forty days. She gets up at eight or nine every morning, takes a three-hour nap in the afternoon and goes to bed around eight in the evening. I am also very dissatisfied with this. Moreover, when the baby was three or four months old, she fed my baby ham sausage and said it didn't matter if we talked about it. Singing nursery rhymes to the baby is to make a poop, make a pee, eat it at home and give it to others. This is teaching him to be selfish! There is another favor. She broke her hand and was lost to 500 yuan. When her mother died, she only paid 400 yuan, saying she was an aunt, big! When people are ill, she always wants to see them at night. I said it was unlucky and we were not interested in seeing patients at night. As a result, she said that we would all die anyway, so it doesn't matter. Hehe, there is something wrong with personality ... can I bring it to you? There is another important point. My mother-in-law can't understand a word of her dialect. After teaching her to talk, I don't think I can understand calling mom. You said, if you have such a mother-in-law, are you willing to let her take care of the children? Our child was taken away by my mother. My husband said he would give money every month, and my mother didn't want it either. Father said that we are all family, why should we divide it so clearly? Ah ~ the more my mother-in-law looks at her son-in-law, the more she likes it. The more a mother-in-law looks at her daughter-in-law, the more annoyed she becomes. ...

Seeing your problem, I think you worry too much. I happen to be a daughter-in-law who doesn't want her in-laws to take care of her children, so I'll talk about my psychology.

I actually thought about asking my mother-in-law to help me work and take care of the baby before giving birth. But I took my mother-in-law home for about 9 months and found that her mother-in-law was too diligent. Since she got home, my husband has become a basket case. He used to wash the dishes after dinner, but later he didn't touch the housework at all from morning till night. I made up my mind at that time that I could not live together. Mother-in-law's help is temporary, but her husband has to live for a long time. Isn't it my fault that I am so lazy?

Later, when I had a baby, I took care of myself. It happened that my sister-in-law also gave birth to a second child, and my mother-in-law went to her house to take care of the children. It turns out that in the past four years, my husband and I have been cleaning up together, and my sister-in-law is the only one at home who is busy.

Moreover, because the children are not satisfied, the young aunt's family is a little picky about her mother-in-law's methods, and the friction is constant. On the contrary, our relationship is more harmonious.

In fact, I like my parents' attitude very much, leaving a sentence "When do you need us to make a phone call" and traveling far and wide.

Taking care of children is really a matter for young people. Old people don't need to be too active They might as well take a rich old-age life as their children's filial piety.

I said, I don't want to bring it to my mother-in-law because there is 1. My mother-in-law has different parenting concepts, such as leggings at birth and salt after three months, which tastes heavy and salty. Wash your ears when taking a bath, enlarge your red ass, cover yourself with a thick quilt when sleeping, blow an electric fan when sweating, feed beans when you are over one year old, wash your feet for your children and wash your ass, and so on. I am narrow-minded and opinionated. Every time I tell her what is good for my child, I feel that I am deliberately making things difficult for her. I say I'm not good, and I always cry and pretend to be poor. 3. provoke feelings between husband and wife. Tell my son that I am not good to her every day, deliberately find fault, difficult to serve and so on. The relationship between husband and wife plummeted. 4. Preference for sons, keeping children at home and not letting them do anything, thinking that daughters-in-law should do it, leading to the son becoming a giant baby.

To sum up, I can't wait for such a mother-in-law to leave early, and the children don't trust her to take it.

Of course, my mother-in-law finally succeeded in alienating her. I'm divorced. My ex-husband is Ma Bao. No matter how hard I tried, I brought up the child. Of course, for the ex-husband's family, the daughter also loses money. Until she received the certificate, neither her husband's family nor her ex-husband fought for the custody of her daughter. Therefore, it is not easy to meet someone.

Now I'm glad I stopped in time.

I don't want my mother-in-law to intervene either. Mainly because everyone's concept of parenting is different, she is still the same. The point is that she really wants to bring it. As I said when I was pregnant, boys and girls are all the same. As a result, I gave birth to a grandson, and the old couple were very happy. Ask my husband if your parents like grandchildren. Husband said that they seemed indifferent, but in fact they still liked their grandchildren. . I said, hehe. . Mother-in-law can't even hold the most basic child. The posture is particularly distorted, like holding a time bomb. Changing diapers is not good either. So don't worry about letting her bring it. . Sister-in-law's child was only 6 or 7 months old at that time, and her mother-in-law fed the child with food and soup. The key is those dishes. The soup is super salty. I told her not to give her salty food, but she wouldn't listen. . The child is too young to shake. Tell her mother-in-law not to shake, because the child's brain is not well developed. As a result, she told the child that her mother wouldn't let me shake it, so we hid and shook it secretly. . I am really speechless. If my mother-in-law is willing to accept the correct concept of parenting or is experienced, I am happy to let her take it, but she will not think that she knows everything like my mother-in-law. If she is wrong, she will go her own way and always say some dirty words when talking to her baby. I really don't want to bring it to her.

To tell the truth, I don't want my mother-in-law to take care of the children either! It is true that a mother-in-law loves her grandson, but excessive love is harmful! I have taken care of my son for more than a year since he was born. Sometimes my mother-in-law will help me when there is something at home. I don't deny her contribution, but from the starting point of children's education, mother-in-law is not suitable for taking care of children. First of all, my mother-in-law can't read and can't give her children some enlightenment guidance! Secondly, my mother-in-law dotes on children too much. When I take care of my child, I will let him do something by himself, such as drinking water and exploring by himself, but my mother-in-law won't. My mother-in-law only took it for a week, and my son will never drink water by himself again. Every day, he waits for his grandmother to hold the cup to his mouth before drinking water! This is just a small example, and there are many such things! Moreover, the mother-in-law is too big-hearted, and sometimes when chatting with others or doing other things, she completely forgets that there is a child around her. My mother-in-law has helped me take care of my children twice now. The first time I took care of my children, I broke the kettle. The crumbs in the kettle liner hit my son's face and eyes, and the whole living room was covered with crumbs. Fortunately, there is not much water in the kettle, otherwise the consequences will be much more serious. I burned my son's foot with hot water for the second time, and the child is still being treated in the hospital! Now that children suffer that, adults can't stand it! So I really don't want my mother-in-law to babysit for me, but my own parents don't understand me. They said it was someone else's grandson. Why not let them take it? I think I really can't stand these careless mistakes at my age. Sometimes I'm glad I burned my feet! I always think that you are so selfish that you don't let them enjoy the family happiness, but I just don't want to hear or see my son have such an accident again! My own mother, she will tell her children what is right and wrong, what can and can't be done, and will accompany her children to recite Tang poems and sing children's songs, but her mother-in-law will not, and her grandson will do whatever he wants. In a few days, she will become a bully! So I hope grandma can help me, but my mother thinks it's my fault that my mother-in-law wants to take me, so she doesn't! In this case, I should not hesitate to decide to bring it myself, but I really don't like the life with little effort. This kind of life is not so comfortable, so I struggle every day, but one thing is certain, that is, my son's personality is different from the children brought out by the old people outside! Self-confident, cheerful, love to laugh …

I dare not let my mother-in-law take care of my daughter now.

Last year, I gave birth to a child. My mother took care of me for three months. I went back to rest when I was in poor health. My mother-in-law came to help me do it for three months. Finally, I sent her back to her hometown. My daughter and I returned to my family.

My mother-in-law has been here for three months, and I feel that I am serving her. I buy food, cook, feed, change diapers and take a shower every day. She is responsible for pushing the baby out for outdoor exercise and sending it back to me when it is necessary to feed and change diapers. I have to prepare at least two sets of clothes every day, and my clothes will sweat when I cook and bathe for my baby. I give her a day off every Sunday to play mahjong. She is very happy and feels like a nanny.

Although she will scramble to wash the dishes, she can't. She doesn't like using detergent. Wipe everything with a rag. The key is that the rag is not clean. I always wash all the pots and pans before cooking. Communication is useless, I have given up communication. That's what drives me crazy. I thought it was her bad eyes, but she could see the hair on the ground.

She can't read, and many new parenting experiences can't be shared through the Internet. How many times I told her, she wouldn't listen. On the contrary, she believes everything the old lady in the neighborhood says, no matter what the actual situation is. This is one of the reasons why I dare not give it to her. Illiteracy has many inconveniences, laundry detergent and shower gel can't be distinguished, and even slightly complicated electrical appliances can't be used.

She pushes the baby to play in the hanging garden and likes to stick it in the crowd. She caught a cold and passed it on to the baby. It was only three months, a month off and on, and she was completely cured. Tell her that she is completely ill and then leave, but she won't listen. Give the baby medicine, the baby cries, and always tell the baby "Mom is gone, don't take medicine", which makes me a bad person and very annoying.

I wanted the baby to exercise in bed. As soon as she woke up, she took her out and held her every day. I'm worried sick that the baby won't turn over for four months. Tell her to stop hugging, but she won't listen. Don't follow me when I go to the hanging garden. I always feel that I am supervising her.

No, in less than two months, the spur on my foot recurred.

I told her to hold the baby less, lest her feet hurt, and she wouldn't listen. Every night, whether you walk or go shopping, you must follow and grab the baby. It's no use talking more. Finally one day, the pain was unbearable. I took her to see a doctor, had physical therapy and prescribed medicine. After all, the symptoms are not the root cause. Finally, take this opportunity to send her home. Let her have a bone spur operation in her hometown.

The baby is almost one year old, and she is taking it alone at present.

There really is such a daughter-in-law. One of my female colleagues is a neighbor. My son divorced her when he was in high school. She finally gave up her son's college and later saved money to buy a house for him. Later, my son got married, which was ok at first. Since having children, the offspring have changed: the mother-in-law must ask her daughter-in-law for permission to see her grandson, and she also said that children are not for the elderly. According to common sense, it's no exaggeration for the elderly to care for their children and buy them some gifts, but this daughter-in-law with higher education is just unreasonable!

My daughter-in-law is different. From the first month after her grandson was born, she wanted to open a shop to do business, and her wife took care of her during the day. I broke my breast milk two months later and slept with my grandmother four months later. Taking care of children is a test of endurance. Fortunately, the grandson was born full, able to eat and sleep, and developed well at all stages. Daughter-in-law is very relieved. When our grandson is 8 months old and complementary food is added, our family will look up relevant information and choose what to eat. How much to eat? Whether there is allergic reaction, etc. Watching my grandson grow up ten months after he was born: he is normal in height and weight, can understand what to say, can do funny tricks, and will laugh when he is teased, especially when I want to take his favorite fruit from home at work, and I will cry and refuse to take it, just like a puppy protecting food! My wife says it's worth it to be tired!

Mother-in-law can't agree with granddaughter-in-law. It's all for the good of children, so good communication is necessary. For example, last Christmas, my daughter-in-law happily bought a big hydrogen balloon for her son. As soon as she handed it to her son, my wife immediately scrambled to stop playing. The hydrogen in it will explode and hurt children. The daughter-in-law is not only not angry, but also admits that she is thoughtless. My wife is very frugal. The cotton wool used to make her grandson's bed is a little old. My daughter-in-law thinks the old one may have mites. My wife thought she was right and immediately replaced it with a new one. On the other hand, it is a question of understanding: both sons and daughters-in-law think that the baby at home is to amuse the elderly. I believe that grandparents will really think about the baby, and taking care of their children is to reduce his burden.

As long as the elderly are sincere and willing to take care of their grandchildren, don't always nag about such exciting words as "this is a free nanny" and "this is not a legal obligation"! The first thing grandparents say to their children is their mother. Now my grandson always cries for help when he is unhappy. His grandmother sometimes says that he looks like a "baiwenhang" because he is happy that his children can express themselves normally.

I don't want my mother-in-law to hold my baby now, because when I was pregnant with Bauer last year, Dabao was over three years old and wanted to sleep with her at night, but she didn't want to. She said I didn't bring my own children, not that I didn't, but that my husband's eldest brother's son had been sleeping with his mother-in-law, and he was eleven years old at that time. My daughter wants to play with her brother, so she doesn't sleep with me. From the time I was pregnant with Bauer to my life, I bought vegetables and waited on my grandmother. My eldest brother's two-month-old mother-in-law didn't cook for me for a day and didn't take care of the baby for a day. It has nothing to do with eldest brother except taking care of her son. She only used our living expenses to buy things for the eldest brother's son, and she didn't buy my daughter's fifty cents. Now that Erwa is seven months old, more and more people want to hug her and really hate her. When the child was young, she bought food and cooked for herself, which she took for granted. Who doesn't know others?

Haha's laughter ...

During pregnancy, I collected a lot of parenting videos and books, especially videos, which were specially used for me to watch with my mother-in-law. Before I started to see them, I introduced the authority of the lecturers and how good their children are, and then took some time to study with my mother-in-law every day. ...

Then you will hear and see from the video 1 a series of psychological problems brought by parents who didn't personally participate in their children's growth before the age of half, before the age of three and before the age of six, emphasizing the importance and necessity of parents' personal parenting, as well as various drawbacks in Separate child care.

Mother-in-law just simply increases her knowledge and gradually becomes more and more determined. My husband and I are responsible for the transportation after the children go to kindergarten, but the company must be me and my husband. ...