When a child says he is afraid, how do you respond?

For example, when a child is afraid to watch TV with scary scenes, his mother has five different ways to react:

The first type: the mother said to the child, "It's okay, mom is here."

The second type: when the child expresses fear, the mother does not respond, as if the mother completely ignores the child's fear.

The third kind: the mother denies the feeling that the child is afraid. "What's to be afraid of? Everything on TV is fake. "

Fourth, mothers talk about the concept of fear with their children in a particularly rational way.

Fifth, mothers always say to their children, "Don't be afraid, don't be afraid, don't be afraid …"

These five are the ways that we are often responded to in our daily life.

No matter what form these five ways are, children don't really understand what fear is. Any of these five ways has suppressed children's feelings.

How to respond to children's similar expressions? The following example may be worth your reference.

A 7-year-old child is watching a movie. When the mummy appeared, the mother sitting on the side obviously felt the child's fear. At this time, the mother leaned down, hugged the child gently and said to her, "Son, does mother feel that you are afraid?" The child nodded. At this time, the mother held the child in her arms and said, "This is called mummy. My mother was very scared when she first saw it. This feeling is called fear. " Then the mother tells the child what a mummy is, and searches for relevant knowledge about mummies online with the child. The mother's practice is commendable.

We need to affirm and identify with children's emotions, let children accept their own emotions, and accompany them, help him develop rich and subtle emotions, and help him transition and rise to the real life world as close as possible. Only by accompanying children with love, understanding their emotions and comforting them can they get out of their emotional state.