How can I be a good stepmother?

You cannot do any of the following.

1. It’s not right to talk about the child’s biological mother. No matter how good the stepmother is to the child, she can never replace the biological mother in the child's heart. Criticizing the child's biological mother will not only make the child reject it, but also disgust the child's father.

2. Show affection in front of children. The important reason why the stepmother and the child do not get along is not only the natural blood relationship between the child and the biological mother, but more importantly, the child is full of hostility towards the stepmother. In the eyes of the child, the biological mother was driven away by the stepmother, and the father was snatched away by the stepmother. of. Being too affectionate in front of your child will only deepen your child's anxiety and hostility.

3. Educate your children as a mother. No matter how close a stepmother is to her children, she is still a stepmother. There are certain roles in the education of children that can only be completed by the mother. Otherwise, the roles are misplaced. Saying "I am not born to you" will make you unable to say a word.

4. Belittle children in front of men. A man always hopes that a woman will love him, not only like him but also accept everything about him, and make irresponsible remarks about his children. Even if you have good intentions, in the eyes of men, you have ulterior motives.

5. Be more good people and less bad people. The stepmother shall satisfy the child's reasonable demands; the father shall be responsible for rejecting the child's unreasonable demands.

6. Don’t go out of your way to please your children. It is necessary for stepmothers to care and love their children, but do not please them too much. People subconsciously despise people who go out of their way to please themselves, including children.

7. Let your children recognize you immediately, haste makes waste. In the child's heart, the distance between aunt and mother is only 10,000 years.

I personally prefer a moderate approach when it comes to dealing with children. Because people pay attention to fate. It doesn't mean that others will like you just because you are good. It's good to be able to get along with each other like friends. If not, then be polite. In this way, there will be less expectations for each other and less disappointment.

In other words, it means accepting the child as he is. He is such a child. I can only accept him and discover his advantages as much as possible, so that we can be more pleasant when we get along with him. It is not easy to be a qualified stepmother. If you do it well, you are said to be a good stepmother. If you do not do it well, you are said to be a poisonous woman.