Reason always prevails. Talk about mood.

When trauma happens, our right brain will be activated, so trauma is always mixed with emotions, and the left brain is the cause. Why does it disappear after trauma? It is frozen and expressed in our hearts, that is, we can't speak. For many people, it is difficult to tell others about their traumatic experiences easily. In fact, this is not because of escape or depression, but because the left brain is frozen and can't tell his own experience. However, traumatic experiences are repeated in our minds over and over again, and our right brain is activated for a long time, so we are very sensitive to any events that may cause traumatic memories.

So the inner things have not disappeared, nor have they weakened the influence on our personality. On the contrary, because we can't speak, the emotional part will prevail. When we can't tell our thoughts or experiences, there is no reason. To be exact, it is not reason that overcomes emotions, but reason that was placed under house arrest before entering the battlefield. Therefore, no matter what kind of emotions control our behavior, thoughts or words, no matter whether the result is good or bad, they have become our only backing. When you are in a happy mood, this is your view of happiness and security. When you are in a bad mood.

So we can always hear extreme words between husband and wife. I love you very much now, I love you to death, but the next second, it may happen because of a small thing. You don't love me at all, and you never loved me. This is not an unreasonable role in work, but a traumatic experience that brings trouble. If the traumatic experience is not handled properly, it will interfere with the establishment of our initial sense of security and turn us into a little monster with emotional control. Think about it.

It can only live in our imagination like a castle in the air without foundation. Therefore, readjusting the definition of security is a good start. Instead of using your own emotional experience or the so-called sixth sense to perceive the existence of security, you doubt your feelings, put your reasons under house arrest for too long, and release them from the cage.