What if my son plays mobile phone, watches short videos, plays games and doesn't do his homework every day?

Common psychological problems of teenagers:

1, rebellious psychology.

Young students in "psychological weaning period" strongly demand that others treat them as adults. Their self-awareness has made unprecedented progress, but their self-control ability is still relatively poor, and they will consciously or unconsciously violate discipline; They like to argue with others, but the arguments are insufficient; I like to express my views, but I'm not sure; Like to doubt or attack others, but easy to be one-sided and lack of factual basis. Mainly manifested as not teaching, disobedience and opposition.

In view of this situation, parents or teachers can establish equal friendship with them, believing that they have the ability to handle things independently and help them analyze things and distinguish right from wrong when they encounter difficulties or failures. At the same time, we can't accommodate their unreasonable demands and bad behaviors, in case they always threaten teachers and parents with resistance in the future.

2, tired of learning.

Generally speaking, the weariness of learning is from junior high school to senior high school. Because of being bullied by family environment or school, people dare not say anything, which leads to weariness of learning. Later, I was tired of learning, which was mainly manifested in losing interest in learning, not wanting to go to school, having difficulty in learning, being inattentive, and plummeting my grades.

In view of the phenomenon of being tired of learning, parents can communicate with their children more, reduce their pressure, encourage and study, discover their bright spots, create a good learning environment and communicate with teachers more. The reasons for being tired of learning are different, and the solutions are also different. Parents should first understand where the problem lies. Therefore, it is necessary to communicate more, so as to prescribe the right medicine.

3. Internet addiction.

Internet addiction, also known as Internet overuse, mainly refers to a disease in which people are addicted to the Internet for a long time and have little interest in other things, thus affecting their physical and mental health. The high incidence of Internet addiction is mostly 12- 18 teenagers, mostly male, with a ratio of 2: 1. At this time, the child's own cerebral cortex is underdeveloped, his consciousness is weak, his ability to understand and judge is poor, and his self-control ability is poor. Most of them are in adolescence, have a serious rebellious attitude, are curious about new things, and seek excitement, adventure and romance to meet the needs of life at this stage. After the internet appeared, online games, chats, etc. It just corresponds to the psychological needs of teenagers, and naturally they will be addicted to the internet. So many people call it "electronic heroin" figuratively.

In view of internet addiction, we can guide them to cultivate interest in other positive things, try to keep them away from games, reduce the time they spend using electronic products, or use electronic products specially developed for teenagers.

4. Test anxiety.

The so-called "exam anxiety" refers to the physical or psychological tension caused by exams. Physical stress, such as rapid heartbeat, shortness of breath, confusion or blank thinking, etc. Psychological stress is mostly in the form of worry, such as worrying that you won't write many questions during the exam and worrying that you will be scolded by your parents if you fail the exam.

Every student has exam anxiety, but the degree varies from person to person. At this time, the patient encouragement of parents and teachers is very important. Parents should first accept their children's nervousness and anxiety, listen to their worries and anxieties, and let them give up those unfavorable thoughts slowly, thus improving the situation of exam anxiety. Children can also find a bosom friend to vent all kinds of grievances.

5. Learning disabilities.

Learning disability refers to the phenomenon that the intelligence is normal, but the academic performance is low due to the backward learning ability. Learning disabilities are composed of several different types, including writing disabilities, reading disabilities and math disabilities (also known as non-language learning disabilities).

Generally, the eyes of such patients seem to be different from those of others, like "lazy eyes", which will miss a lot of obvious information. They can turn a blind eye while studying and throw away the whole problem, but later they say they don't see the problem. Such children are most easily misunderstood by teachers and parents. In fact, this is a special learning disability. Only by carrying out relevant visual perception training can we see the effect. Therefore, when children's academic performance is poor, parents and teachers should first understand what problems exist in children's learning psychology and to what extent, so as to design personalized education programs for children and train them for their special deficiencies in learning ability.

6. Inferiority.

Inferiority, manifested as easy to deny yourself, envy and hate others, is an emotional experience of shame caused by excessive self-denial, mainly from psychological negative self-suggestion.

Faced with this situation, it can help teenagers to change some inappropriate and unreasonable cognition and attitudes, and guide teenagers to objectively analyze their current situation. Guiding teenagers to learn to accept themselves and allow themselves to have shortcomings and failures may lose face. Perfect people don't exist. Don't be too hard on yourself and don't expect too much from the outside world. Enhance confidence training skills in action and practice. Help them make small achievements, gradually build self-confidence, and skillfully use expectation effect and label effect.

7. Dependence psychology.

Dependence psychology is related to parents' over-authoritarian and over-protective parenting style, which is mainly manifested in lack of confidence in personal self-care ability, difficulty in independence, frequent recourse to others in case of trouble, and indecision in doing things, hoping that parents or teachers will make choices for themselves.

In view of this situation, parents should care about their children moderately, and teachers and parents should provide independent activities for teenagers with dependence, and consciously cultivate and exercise their independence, so as to enhance their self-confidence, improve their ability to live independently and make their own choices, and guide teenagers with dependence to learn from their peers with strong independence.

8, withdrawn psychology.

Loneliness and unsociable psychology may be related to childhood trauma, such as parents' divorce, lack of maternal love, or parents and teachers' strict discipline; Or it is the lack of opportunities for group activities and other partners to play in school education, and the lack of team spirit training for students. Mainly manifested as unsociable, unwilling to contact with people, often bored, despised or wary of people around, easily neurotic and suspicious.

For the situation of withdrawn psychology, we can improve the family atmosphere first and increase the harmonious and warm atmosphere. People around you, especially parents and teachers, should be more concerned, caring and considerate, and help them find out the root of their withdrawn personality. Actively encourage them to expand the scope of interpersonal communication, participate in collective and social activities, and help them gradually get rid of their self-enclosed mentality. Cultivate students' team spirit, such as cultivating students' spirit of unity and cooperation and striving for collective honor in sports meetings and cultural and sports activities (sports meetings).

9. jealousy.

The main reason for jealousy is that people with competitive personality and vanity are frustrated in the competition, which is a compound emotion of anxiety, anger and resentment that others are stronger than themselves. When others are superior to themselves in talent, status, circumstances or appearance, they often use the means of belittling or even slandering others to maintain their self-esteem and vanity, which is a negative personality quality.

Faced with this situation, we can strengthen their ideal education and world outlook education, and cultivate magnanimous respect for their opponents. Guide the correct comparison, turn jealousy into fair competition, and regard your opponent as the goal of your own efforts.