Which words from your loved ones particularly chilled you?

My parents are divorced. Under their influence, I have always been afraid of getting married. I kept putting it off until I was 29 years old. I couldn’t put it off any longer, so I got married as soon as I closed my eyes! Flash forward to a scumbag who cheated on her during pregnancy and had to give birth to the child because she was too old! I have been at home all the time. In fact, after I found out that I was being cheated, I pretended to be strong during the day and cried alone at night. The pressure from my family was so great that most of them tried to persuade me to forgive. For the sake of the child who was about to be born, I endured it. They refused to let go and insisted that they must get a divorce. In fact, I didn't dare to tell them that the mistress outside the scumbag was also pregnant, and she was three months behind me! I can't open my mouth to tell them! I have been putting up with it, and now that my child is three years old, I haven’t said anything! This period is really hard! They can't understand me! From then on, I lost the love of my father and my mother. Fortunately, they only had my son in their hearts~ It was typical that they felt that the big one was no longer useful and they had to play the trumpet! It hurts a lot both verbally and mentally! He has called me all kinds of nasty words! I endured it all. From the day after the caesarean section to the second day, if the doctor hadn’t told my mother, she wouldn’t have helped me wash my lower body! When the doctor examined her, he was so angry that he thought she was my mother-in-law! I couldn't see the wound for caesarean section, so I asked her to apply medicine for me, but it turned into suppuration and the wound split open. During the confinement period, she held the baby on the bed at night and ordered me to get out of bed to get water to wash the baby's butt and change urine. If it doesn’t get wet, just rinse with water and mix milk powder to feed the baby! On the first day after confinement, I was asked to do laundry and work. The next day, I was told that others said that I had no milk and could not feed the baby at home, so I was considered useless and asked me to go out to work! What I said is what others said is actually what you said yourself, right? She is silent! I shamelessly stayed at home for another month before going out to work. I couldn't stand being scolded by her every day! I would rather leave my son and go out to work! There are also many words she said that could pierce the heart! I can't help but remember!

My grandma and my aunt.

I just started an internship in the company in September last year (I accumulated credits from my fifth year of college). I had no performance in the first two months. From the third month onwards, my monthly salary plus performance was more than 2,000. Last month I got my diploma and became a full-time employee this month. The above background

First time: In late October last year, I took my first salary and went to a milk tea shop to buy a cup of milk tea to take away. Then I got a call and went to my grandparents’ house. Have dinner. I went there with the milk tea. After the meal, I took a sip of the milk tea and choked before drinking it. After hearing my grandma say, "I use my dad's money to buy junk food" (emphasis on ""), I recovered. Full face? I admit it when I am told that I eat junk food, but I am not happy when it is said that my dad spends money to buy food. Then my grandma told me all kinds of things and asked me to hand over my monthly salary to my dad. I asked why? I was criticized because my father has raised me for twenty years. What, give the money to my dad to buy a drink? (Note: My dad often goes out to drink with friends)

The second time: Around November last year, my aunt had a little money and often went out to travel, and sometimes brought me some souvenirs. I once went to Japan and brought two boxes of raw chocolate and a box of Shiroi Koibito cookies. Later, my aunt asked me if I should bring something to my aunt when I get rich, and I said I would definitely do so (but my financial level would not allow me to go abroad, and I made it clear). As a result, my aunt thought that I would definitely not bring good souvenirs to her if I didn’t go abroad, so she gave me a gesture of giving her money. My face is full again? When bringing souvenirs or snacks, do you only consider the price and not your financial ability or desire?

Look at the pictures and tell the story!

Family love is both great and small!

When I was not a leader before, my eldest brother was very good to us brothers and often gathered us for dinner.

My sister-in-law couldn’t stand it and often scolded my brother: None of your brothers have sharp mouths and monkey cheeks, and they won’t be able to help us in the future. Why are you so nice to them?

I had mixed feelings after hearing this.

My sister-in-law is strong and snobbish. My eldest brother, however, remained the same, letting her scold him whether he should invite us to get together during the holidays or not.

We brothers, in order not to embarrass our eldest brother, carry big and small bags every time we go.

As the saying goes, people cannot be judged by their appearance. Later, my fortune turned around and I became the deputy director of my unit. Two years later, I was transferred to the Party Office as deputy director.

At this time, my sister-in-law’s attitude towards me took a 180-degree turn, and she treated me with care and concern. Every time I bring something to her, she is very polite. Sometimes she would bring some home for me if she had something there.

I felt the warmth and joy of a big family, which was really touching.

I thought that as my sister-in-law got older, she had seen through everything and became kind.

Later, I became the director of the Economic and Information Bureau. My sister-in-law’s daughter and my niece graduated from college and found a job, so I also helped a lot.

My sister-in-law also asked me to help her with her family matters. I helped everything I could, even if it wasn't illegal.

Later, before I reached the age of 50, due to physical reasons, I took a back seat.

At this time, my sister-in-law’s attitude toward us brothers changed 180 degrees, and she became mean to us again.

Once I went to my eldest brother’s house for a party. My eldest brother and sister-in-law were cooking in the kitchen. I went to the living room and didn’t say hello to them. I sat down to watch TV. I heard the eldest sister-in-law in the kitchen saying to my eldest brother: “The fourth child (that’s me) ) He is in such poor health and retired at such a young age. What future can he have to help us? "

After hearing this, I felt very cold and stood up silently. leave.

When I got downstairs, I called my eldest brother and told him that I had something to do and couldn't attend the party tonight.

This is the difference between eldest brother and sister-in-law: when I am in power, I am the eldest brother’s fourth brother; when I am not in power, I am still the eldest brother’s brother, the blood relationship is there. Where is my sister-in-law? When I am in office, I am her promising brother-in-law and the younger brother who can help her; when I am not in office, there is no use value, I am an outsider, and we have no blood relationship!

Human beings are worldly, and the world is a fickle place. I also understand my sister-in-law.

I am heartbroken, my eldest brother is my eldest brother after all, I still move around frequently, don’t let the family relationship fade away.

When my husband and I had a quarrel and we returned to my parents’ home, my dad observed my situation and said, “Your brother is just about to enter society. Life has not yet begun. If you want a divorce, don’t come live at home.” , otherwise who would want to marry him!"

I rushed downstairs alone with my several-year-old child. His words simply tore my heart and lungs.

I was dragging my child downstairs at my house. I didn’t know what to do.

I thought: I really have nowhere to go, and I am so sad.

Finally, my aunt met me downstairs and took me to her house. My uncle said harshly that he could stay at their house and would beat my father out if he came.

I remember crying so hard that I lamented the misery of my life. Later, I cried when I told my friends about it.

I think many people in this world have experienced similar things, but some people don’t want to talk about it.

Many years have passed and my father is old. I'm not divorced either, because we live in the same community, and we often go out to have a meal together and spend time with them as they grow older.

When I saw this question today and thought of my father’s words, I seemed not to be so sad anymore.

I know what he said is wrong, and I also know that some of his ideas are difficult to change, but I don’t want to worry about it anymore, forget it!

Forget it and let it go!

Before we got married, my parents told my husband’s family: We don’t want any betrothal gifts. If we ask for a betrothal gift, we will buy things for your new home as a dowry. You can just buy whatever you need at home! At that time, I also felt that my parents were enlightened and gave them all the money they earned, hoping to use it for a banquet. My husband also felt that his mother-in-law was really happy. After buying the house in full and renovating it, and buying all the furniture and appliances, he felt that it was unreasonable not to give her a wedding gift, so he thought of giving her 60,000 yuan. As a result, my parents quit the job, saying that other people’s marriages required a bride price of 80,000 yuan, and our girls couldn’t get any less! Well, my husband’s family borrowed money to raise enough money for a gift of 100,000 yuan to give to my parents! When I got married, I was the one who came here, without any dowry, and all my family and my husband's family were emptied out. Later, I gave birth to a child, and my mother came the night after I was discharged from the hospital. At that time, my wound was so painful that I didn’t want to talk and couldn’t eat. She didn’t care at all. I paid a bride price of 150,000 yuan and bought the woman a diamond ring worth more than 10,000 yuan! It means that I still think my husband didn’t give me enough betrothal gifts! I thought to myself at the time: You saw how much the bride was given as a bride price, why couldn’t you see the dowry given by the woman? The words didn't come out, and I felt so chilled at the time! I just paid off the 100,000 yuan wedding debt in the second year of my marriage. My natal brother is going to buy a house, but my parents still have the nerve to call me and ask me to borrow money! When I said I had no money, people were still not happy! The fact is that we really have no money, and the debt of 100,000 yuan was paid off with the help of my father-in-law and mother-in-law. And they don’t care at all what kind of life I live after I get married. They plundered everything before the marriage, and now they still have the nerve to borrow money. Money, even if I had money, I wouldn't be stupid enough to give it to them! These are my parents!

I remember when I was sick and undergoing chemotherapy, my father-in-law said to his son: Whatever you do, you are doing it for the devil! This sentence makes me very chill... It is also because of this sentence that my husband had an idea and almost stopped me from walking out. During the six months of illness and chemotherapy, I matured and grew up and understood the warmth and coldness of the world...

I want to say that as a father-in-law, it is definitely wrong to say this. It is too selfish. Do you just conclude that I will die? It's a pity that I'm still alive! You should encourage your son. My sick son is also at a low point. The words of his parents are to encourage his son to think about the good things, not to add insult to injury! I no longer hate everything in the past because I have recovered my health! I got through it on my own...

I am a silly daughter-in-law and a silly daughter-in-law. I have not treated my current father-in-law badly in the past few years. I have always done my responsibilities for his son. No. I care about him, because after all, I am getting older, and I also have my old days. Sometimes it is not that I can't be cruel, but that I can't bear to be cruel! Be a kind-hearted person and I believe you will be rewarded! As for her husband, he is also making money for the sake of the children, so he doesn't care about it...take good care of yourself, do what you can to the best of your ability, and give your children a complete home is enough!

When I was pregnant with Dabao, the old people said that the shape of my belly meant that I was pregnant with a boy.

On the day Dabao was born, her mother-in-law heard the nurse tell her that she had given birth to a daughter, and muttered in a low voice: "What's the use of a woman (our dialect here, girl means)."

On the first night after I was discharged from the hospital, my husband saw my mother-in-law crying alone while I was sleeping, and nagging my father-in-law that no matter what, the family needed a boy to carry on the family legacy.

During confinement, my mother-in-law was also picky about me. After my husband took nursing leave, the most I ate was biscuits and bread. I started cooking for myself when the baby was twenty days old. I knew that my mother-in-law disliked me for giving birth to a girl.

I also know that my mother-in-law has a very serious preference for boys over girls. My husband is the youngest child in the family. In order to have a boy, my mother-in-law gave birth to seven daughters and adopted four of them for other families.

I don’t care how my mother-in-law treats me, but Dabao is now 14 years old, and she has always treated Dabao badly. When her children are naughty, they are scolded, and when their children fall, they won’t rub them. When their children are sick, they just use their mouths. Talk about it.

Later, the second baby was born. The mother-in-law kept laughing from the first moment she saw the second baby. Now she dotes on the second baby in every possible way and spoils the child to the point of being lawless.

I don’t know what’s wrong with giving birth to a girl, but my mother-in-law’s words and behavior broke my heart. "Don't look at you younger than me, you will die before me, and I, the white-haired man, will give you the black-haired man!" This sentence was said by a father to his own son!

There is an old man in the village next to my hometown. When he was young, he was a "socialist", that is, the kind of person who did not do his job properly and was idle. He was good at talking. When he was young, many women chased him and even cheated on him. Spend the money on him.

Later, he finally married a wife and gave birth to three sons. However, he didn’t care whether he was old or young. He still fooled around outside all day long, stealing and cheating. Every day he The main venue for activities is the small teahouse in the township.

In a small teahouse, a cup of tea costs two cents (later it rose to five cents, and now it’s about one yuan), and you can sit there all day long. People in this teahouse don’t come here just to drink tea. But for playing cards.

This old man likes to play long cards. If he wins, he will drink and eat with a bunch of gangsters. If he loses, he will come back to his parents and ask his wife for money. If he doesn't give it, he will beat him.

He has never regarded his three sons as sons. In his eyes, these sons are all burdens.

He would take away all the money his wife spent on sending his son to school. He felt that if he didn’t have three sons, the money his wife earned would be spent on him alone, because with these three sons, his I don't have enough money, so I often take it out on my children.

When he is violent, he will hit everyone. Parents, wives, children, no one can escape his vicious hands.

My parents are old, my wife is thin, and my three children are small. They are all afraid of being beaten by him. Every time he behaves violently, they have no choice but to hide.

At that time, there was no "Anti-Domestic Violence Law", and even beating parents was considered a household matter. Once, the production team leader couldn't stand it and reported it to the police station. He was only arrested and detained for a day and night. More than 48 hours.

After he came back, he became even more violent, and his wife was beaten until she screamed.

As the three sons have grown up, the old man no longer dares to beat his sons. Beating his wife is still a common occurrence. The eldest son and the second son seem to be used to it and don't care at all.

When the youngest son was 15 years old, the old man beat him for no reason. He suddenly became angry and no longer ran away like before. Instead, he took a piece of firewood and faced the old man and said fiercely. : "Try hitting me again!"

The old man was frightened and looked at him stupidly.

His mother thought her son was going to hit his father, so she stopped her and said, "He is your father, you can't do anything to him."

The younger son threw the firewood and turned around and walked into the field. , suddenly heard her mother screaming.

He turned around and saw the old man grabbing his mother's hair and throwing her to the ground. Then he beat and kicked him, scolding him while beating him, and said: "What kind of bastard are you? If you don't respect me, I will beat you to death." !"

The younger son picked up the firewood and ran towards the old man, shouting: "If you don't let go of my mother, I will kill you!"

The old man ran away in fear. The wife ran away, and the younger son chased after her, but his mother caught him again.

Later, as long as the youngest son was at home, the old man no longer dared to beat his wife, nor did he dare to beat his three sons, but he would often scold her, and the scolding would be particularly unpleasant.

The sentence at the beginning of this article was often used by him to scold his three sons, cursing them to die before him.

Now the old man is over seventy years old. Both his eldest son and his second son have gone out to work and have settled down outside. Only his younger son is with him.

He always looks pitiful and tells others: "I have raised three sons, but in the past few decades, I have not heard anyone call me dad!"

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His son and daughter-in-law don’t call him daddy, and none of his grandchildren call him grandpa. It seems that he has a big family, but he is not much different from a lonely old man. The old lady is chatting and laughing with her younger son and his family. , no matter where he stood, he was like an invisible man, no one said hello to him, and no one said a word to him.

This is really what you sow, you will reap melons, and you will reap what you sow. I wonder if he has ever regretted what he did when he was young.

The most chilling thing to say when calling a relative is "What's going on?" Especially when an old person calls their children, they just want to ask for safety and say a few words, but they can't listen patiently? The old man's mouth was blocked by just "what happened"!