High EQ of a 60-year-old mother-in-law: I never quarrel with my wife. I just want to help them. what do you think?

For a long time, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law seems to be a gap that many families cannot cross. Is it really that difficult? The fact is that when you care about something, it is difficult, and when you don't care about it, it is simple.

Aunt Liu is 60 years old this year. She is an old woman in the countryside. Although she is not very rich, she has a kind heart. Aunt Liu has two sons. The eldest son studied hard and settled down in the city. The youngest son does a little business in his hometown, and his life is not too good, but it is also good.

Aunt Liu is a kind old man. In her eyes, as long as she can help her two sons, she has no complaints. Therefore, for a long time, there has been no contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and there is no such thing as "daughter-in-law squeezing mother-in-law" or "mother-in-law squeezing daughter-in-law" in a family.

In fact, only a mother-in-law who can be reasonable in family relations is really good for her children. They follow a principle: as long as the small family is good, they have no regrets. Such a mother-in-law has a professionalism that people admire and have to respect.

Aunt Liu's eldest daughter-in-law is from the city. Although the two families are a little "unsuitable", the other family values her son's honesty, ability and reliability, and doesn't care about marrying his daughter.

Whose home is the son's home? For Aunt Liu, the son's home is the son's home. Aunt Liu never wanted to argue with her daughter-in-law. She doesn't interfere in anything. My daughter-in-law was a little afraid of her, and she really loved her old man after getting along with her mother-in-law.

The real respect of a family is what you do that makes me respect.

After the eldest daughter-in-law got pregnant and gave birth to a baby, Aunt Liu helped them for three years, with no regrets. There has never been any contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, some are "who listens to whom" and some are respectful and caring.

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Through some small things in life, we can see Liu Daniang's high emotional intelligence. Although the old lady can't read, she is really nice.

For example, when my daughter-in-law is pregnant, her attitude is: I will go if you need my help, and stay at home if you don't need me. The daughter-in-law gave birth to a boy and a girl, and she was very happy.

Mr. Wang's eldest daughter-in-law gave birth to a child, but because the eldest daughter-in-law has to go to work, she will also discuss with the second daughter-in-law and then come to take care of the child for the eldest daughter-in-law. After coming, because Aunt Liu is not good at cooking, the eldest daughter-in-law has never given up on this.

Because cooking is not very delicious, Aunt Liu told her eldest daughter-in-law first. She was embarrassed to say, "xx, my cooking may not be very delicious. Please forgive me. I am really not good at cooking. " Not everyone can cook well, but after telling my eldest daughter-in-law in advance, I got an understanding.

Aunt Liu and her eldest daughter-in-law have never quarreled over one thing during the period of raising children with them. She thinks very well and has a good attitude. She has never been jealous of anything.

Living under the same roof, but not interfering in the daughter-in-law's private affairs, this is the criterion for aunt Liu and her daughter-in-law to get along.

Many mother-in-law will always be overbearing and stubborn after helping their daughter-in-law take care of the baby, which also leads to many contradictions.

In fact, it is very important for a mother-in-law to live in harmony at home. You care about everything, and everything becomes important. It's much easier for two people to get along with each other if you don't care so much about anything.

Although Aunt Liu Can doesn't know a few big words, she is really a mother-in-law with high emotional intelligence and can think more openly.

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One thing happened, please, you can see that Aunt Liu is open-minded. Her eldest daughter-in-law's sister took the children to their house for a while. Of course, the eldest daughter-in-law discussed this matter with Aunt Liu in advance. When the eldest daughter-in-law said, Aunt Liu was very enthusiastic: "Nothing, it doesn't matter. It's great that your sister can be my companion when she comes. "

What did Aunt Liu do after the eldest daughter-in-law's sister came? She also helped her take care of the children and watched her two cousins play. She is very nice and won't be angry at all because outsiders come to her house.

Aunt Liu is kind-hearted. She will let her eldest daughter-in-law's sister rest more, and then she will be more considerate. The eldest daughter-in-law's sister lived for more than ten days, and everyone got along well together. The two children had a good time.

If this is an ordinary family, most mother-in-law may be very angry. "Even if your sister comes, she will bring the children." However, instead of being angry, Aunt Liu went to bask in the quilt to buy food in advance and be a host. Don't you think her eldest daughter-in-law will be moved by such a high emotional intelligence? Such a good mother-in-law is really hard to find with lanterns.

Some high emotional intelligence standards for aunt Liu to get along with her daughter-in-law;

First, I don't make decisions and don't interfere in your young affairs;

Second, I should help, who listens to who, home and everything;

The third person is a good family, so why care and mind so much;

If the fourth son quarrels with his daughter-in-law, he will definitely unite with her.

A generous and kind mother-in-law like Aunt Liu won't have any contradiction with her daughter-in-law. It's no wonder that when her eldest daughter-in-law and her sister visit, her eldest daughter-in-law can clap her chest and say, "My mother-in-law has nothing to say. Don't worry, she can get along well with anyone. "

A home, you care about everything, but it becomes trouble. No matter how big the pattern is, you don't care about the comfort of life.