What have I experienced from "hoarding life" to "throwing away half my home"?

Just last weekend, I threw away half my home.

Numerous unopened makeup gifts, clothes piled up in the closet, bottles and cans piled up on the table ... now they are lying on the floor like that, criticizing my waste.

What makes me blush even more is that when I look at these old things, I realize that I have spent so much money and lived a "hoarding life".

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When I just graduated, I wanted to fill my life better with the money I earned, and I bought a lot of things for myself unconsciously.

When it comes to discounts, I can't see how much it will cost. All I see is discounts. I bought it home on impulse, hardly used it, and didn't wear it very much. This kind of thing is too common for us.

I once thought about getting rid of these old things, but just like facing many suitors, it is difficult to choose.

Cookie box Billy told me, "Don't you like me, too?" I also want to use my postcard. "

Make-up Gift Tony said, "Maybe you will need me in the future."

After eight years' observation, Eiko Yamashita, the founder of the concept of "breaking up", found that people who can't throw things can be divided into three types:

Escape type

This type of people are too busy to stay at home, so they can't tidy up the house.

Persistent past type

Even the things of the past, which are no longer needed, should be kept, mostly because of nostalgia for the happy days of the past.

worry about the future

They are always worried about the future of "inseparable from these things", but this day has never really appeared.

I belong to the second and third categories.

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When I re-examine those old things, I find that I actually wasted a lot of time, space and energy on them, and of course, I didn't spend less money.

Whether it's clothes or biscuit boxes, these unused things are cursed "I hate it", which makes me feel uneasy because I can't make the best use of them. Just thinking about "must use", the result is that you can't act, and then you will enter the self-blame of "this is not possible." It's like beating yourself up, then putting a band-aid on it and playing it again, and unconsciously consuming a lot of energy.

The more things there are, the easier it is for people to fall into a state of "having to manage" and always force themselves to clean up. But once people get busy, they can't finish cleaning up, which eventually leads to the proliferation of items everywhere. Everything has a "retention cost". As long as you have it, it will occupy your time and space and consume your mind and emotions.

The article is our own projection and a mirror that can reflect our true self. Our attitude towards articles is our attitude towards our own life, and we can organize our own life by sorting out articles.

Those things you don't use remind you of its existence from time to time, occupying your physical space and your spiritual space, making you feel irritable and making life not free and easy.

I don't like what I still use, but I force myself to use it. Self-image is projected through objects. You can do one thing casually, and others will treat you casually. Once you improve your self-image by abandoning them, others will naturally feel that "he/she lives so exquisitely that you can't give him/her anything casually." Slowly, you will feel that the attitudes of people around you have changed.

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Do I really need this now?

When I threw something last week, I thought like this, not "Can it still be used?"

These two kinds of thinking are different. "Can it still be used?" It is my previous way of thinking, with the object as the center, and the object itself is valuable because of "I use it". "I" should be the protagonist, and the timeline is always now. Now you must put down what you don't need.

In the process of thinking, you will gradually realize that your life is full of so many useless things. At the same time, we can move from the visible world to the invisible world, and finally realize a profound and thorough understanding of ourselves and accept the truest self.

When we are hesitant, we can try the following methods:

Isolation method

Take this thing out of sight. If you can't remember it for a while, you can remove it.

substitution method

If you have something you don't want to throw away, use it instead of what you want to throw away, so that the total amount of items remains unchanged and the ones you like stay.

Renovation method

When we can't throw away some old things, we can actually send them to be refurbished and then put them to use.

When we no longer need this item, our fate will be over. In order to make it exert its surplus value, we should treat them well, abandon our obsession and entrust them to those who need them.

Last weekend, I put the dolls, small objects and gadgets that I wouldn't use in the drawer neatly in a small cardboard box, and put the cardboard box downstairs in the community, which read "Help yourself if you need it". By the time I went downstairs for dinner, the cartons had been taken away, and these things had a real owner.

We can sort out and store the things left behind in a reasonable way.

trichotomy

Trigonometry is simply to divide objects into three types: large, medium and small. Taking the kitchen as an example, we can roughly divide the things in the kitchen into the following three categories, and then subdivide them continuously. Repetitive dichotomy can avoid the confusion caused by sorting things out.

75 1 principle

Invisible storage space can fill 70%, and the vacant 30% can be a passage for goods to enter and exit. This is also an environmental impact theory. If channels are left behind, people will want to tidy them up.

Visible storage space, aesthetically speaking, the limit of putting things is 50%. The decorative storage space for others can only hold 10% of things, that is to say, at least put things. This reduces the number of items, and even a small house can naturally create a feeling of high taste.

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Don't throw away things in time, not only things, but also a job with no future and an unnecessary relationship.

Over the years, we have gone through too many wrong roads, had too many "useless" relationships, become more and more greedy, and are very reluctant to give up everything.

When I meet everyone, I want to extract the use value from it and think it may be useful in the future. However, he just lies in your WeChat address book like a zombie. When you meet a good lecture or course, buy it first, whether it is useful or not, so as not to miss any information; Even if you don't love someone, you should continue to consume his kindness to you, commonly known as "keeping a spare tire."

Looking back, are these what we need?

When your heart is firm and you can understand yourself, you will let go of greed, slowly abandon things and relationships you don't need, and cut off unnecessary contact with the world.

Only when you have what you really want and stay with the person you like can you have the greatest happiness.

Finally, you may wish to compare the following list and start subtracting ideas, relationships and "junk" in your work.

Your list of necessary subtractions

Someone you know.

How many people do you meet every week who bring you negative emotions? Who can give you encouragement? Don't keep people who don't fit in, but focus on people who can have a positive impact on each other.

Your multitasking.

It is often said that multitasking is a good habit. Multitasking doesn't necessarily make you as efficient as you want. In fact, when you focus on a single task and do it well, you can get twice the result with half the effort.

According to Gloria Mark's theory, it takes about 23 minutes 15 seconds to completely return to the previous task after being interrupted, so you may waste more time than you think. Quality is better than quantity, and it is a good strategy to focus on those things that can bring the greatest return.

Your goal

Most of us have the habit of listing goals, and it is best to control the goals within single digits and not exceed 10, because the brain can only remember so many goals.

Your promise

Are you often unable to refuse other people's requests? But if you can follow your heart and bravely refuse, will you have more time to achieve important goals or get along with important people?

Buffett said, you can't let others set your life schedule. Saying "no" means that you have time to focus on your own needs instead of constantly serving others.

Part of this article is excerpted from "Separation and Separation at Work".

The picture comes from the internet.