Jiang Yang: Only a humble person can see through the world.

Only modest people have the opportunity to see the truth of the world. Yang Jiang

Once I saw an interview with Hugh, the host asked him: I heard that you finished filming in the grassland, and then you would propose a toast to everyone, including the driver. Why did you do that? "

Hugh replied: "The plays are all shot by everyone, and only the actors are famous. This is unfair in itself, so it is appropriate to respect everyone."

Now everyone understands: Why is Hugh becoming more and more popular? No matter how successful you are, you are unlikely to be popular.

In this interview, I saw a great personality-empathy.

What is empathy? From the perspective of others, it is not easy to feel their inner feelings, their difficulties, empathize and respect everyone from the heart.

No wonder Hugh has been respected by many people in the entertainment circle in Dai Yang for so many years.

Even Yang li Ping, who has always been indifferent, boasted: "Hugh is a well-educated and gentlemanly child. This actor is someone I have seen in China, with good conduct and artistic ethics. "

I often answer: maybe you lack empathy, don't know how to understand others, and can't feel the same. When you think from other people's point of view, you will communicate in a different way instead of being self-righteous.

My aunt and uncle have not been on good terms in recent years. My aunt often complains to me that my uncle is inconsiderate and doesn't care about her. But once I was at her house, I found that my aunt had a problem with the handling of gender relations.

My uncle is a salesman in our city, earning more than 10 thousand a month. He went home after work in the evening. My aunt looked at my uncle's Zhou Chang face and was very unhappy.

I started swearing, and they often quarreled like this.

I later told my aunt:

Uncle, she is a salesman. She runs around every day to see people's faces and sells products humbly. Maybe she not only didn't sell her own products, but also might be abused by others. Salesmen are paid according to their performance, and high wages are accompanied by high pressure, which must have been wronged a lot.

He has no place to vent his dissatisfaction outside. He will come back with a straight face, not necessarily because he is dissatisfied with you, but because he doesn't know how to tell people his grievances.

At this time, you blame him for being inconsiderate, uncaring and noisy. Can you tell me if this life can be good?

Later, my aunt suddenly realized that many of their contradictions were not only because my uncle was not considerate to him, but because she never stood in my uncle's perspective and considered the difficulties of my uncle's work, which led them to communicate in a resentful way instead of in a way of mutual understanding.

Many couples have conflicts. The most important thing is that two people can't feel the same, understand each other, understand each other and take care of each other.

A person with strong empathy knows how to protect the interests of others, while a person without empathy must be a selfish and narrow-minded person who always likes to think about getting benefits from others.

A few days ago, a classmate told me about her friend, saying that every time she had dinner with her friend, even if she helped her friend, she was paying the bill, and her friend always liked to pick expensive meals and never mentioned paying the bill.

Finally, my friend said: my money is hard earned, not flooded, but fell from the sky. I don't owe her. Why do I have to pay every time?

Later, I advised her that such a friend had better stay away, because she never considered your interests, your feelings and your difficulties, and she just wanted to take advantage of you.

The more empathetic people are, the more comfortable they get along with them, because even people in humble positions will respect them.

Feng Lun once mentioned a dinner with Li Ka-shing in an article. They think it is logical for a business leader to leave after a meal.

Unexpectedly, Li Ka-shing sent a personal business card to everyone at the scene, and the dining seats were arranged by lot.

At each table, Li Ka-shing will set aside 65,438+05 minutes to communicate with the guests, and finally shake hands with everyone present, including the waiter next to the venue.

A dinner party taught many people a lesson, pursuing selflessness, taking others to heart, considering their feelings, and learning to respect others.

Dong Qing interviewed an old translator in the program and crouched for three minutes, while Shen, the co-host, imitated hunchback walking at the award ceremony, out of respect for the old man and out of ridicule for the sick actor.

If Shen had considered the feeling of being laughed at by a sick person before making a spoof, she wouldn't be so naughty. Obviously, she didn't stand in other people's perspective, feel other people's hearts, and make a lack of self-cultivation.

This is the difference between people with empathy and people without empathy. One lets you get along like a spring breeze, which is very comfortable, and the other lets you get along without being respected or refreshed.

I saw a news before, because of the heavy rain, the takeaway brother sent the takeaway late and kept apologizing to the guests. The guest left the takeaway directly in front of the takeaway brother without saying anything, and then slapped the takeaway brother to vent his dissatisfaction.

I was very angry when I saw the news video. If you are not satisfied, you can't just hit people and trample on the dignity of others. This is a typical self-righteous person.

They take themselves too seriously and don't treat others as human beings.

When others regard him as God, he really thinks he is God, dragging him like 2580 thousand, never considering the hardships of others' lives, and trampling on others' dignity with domineering attitude everywhere.

A person's character must be judged by his attitude towards the weak. Jiang Yang once said: Only modest people have the opportunity to see the truth of the world.

People with strong empathy are softer at heart. He can sympathize with the pain and difficulties of others. They will not be selfish and narrow-minded, but live a quiet and contented life, so as to be kind to people around them!

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