Will you get married for the sake of getting married?

I can accept it because I value two people more. For me, marriage is marriage, and the wedding is for everyone to see.

My husband and I have been in love for more than three years, we have been married for almost three years, and our children are almost two years old. So far, we haven't held a wedding. Actually, we want to have our own wedding. We both dressed appropriately and beautifully, and then both invited their friends to a real young wedding. This is my original intention. I don't want the wedding to get complicated. I think both men and women should have control over the wedding, not their parents.

However, due to economic and time reasons, my husband's wedding has not been held so far. We were told by the parents of our comrades-in-arms when we got the certificate. What's more, we have lived in other places for a long time, and our feelings are more important.

When I got married, I was too poor I have to rely on myself for everything. After the renovation of the house, there are tens of thousands of dollars left, and nearly 10,000 mortgages will be paid every month. I have a baby in my belly. What should I do for the wedding? Because my husband and I are both rural, we have always been used to independence. Even if you have a wedding, you will spend your own money. We have no money, so there is no wedding.

Our marriage is very simple, and there is no question of bride price. At the beginning, we were opposed by both parents, so we clamored to make our own decisions and not let our parents meet, which was unnecessary. We live our own lives and make our own decisions, but our marriage is very happy.

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Personally, I think getting married is a very troublesome thing. I want to have my own wedding, but I am reluctant to hold a wedding for my parents.

At first, our parents were still in conflict, and they were the kind of "pinching" as soon as they met. In this case, it is definitely better not to have a wedding, plus we are both poor and have no money to have a wedding.

Before I decided to get the certificate, I took my husband back to my hometown in the countryside. I discussed with my mother that there would be no wedding. My mom said, okay, that's not necessary. Our family doesn't value face.

"Mom, if we don't have a wedding, will people say our home?"

"I hate trouble, people alive and not for others to see, why do you want to hold a wedding? You're all out of town. It's up to you. If you don't do it, don't do it. "

My husband is also the owner of his parents, and then he has never had a wedding until now, and his hometown will definitely not do it. From high school to college and then to work in other places, we don't know much about people in our hometown. Weddings are really boring. I have been away for a long time, and I only go home once a year. I am not familiar with my relatives at home. What's the point of holding a wedding? Go through the motions and show your parents that such a marriage "wastes people and money".

Fortunately, we are financially independent, we can be the masters of our parents, and then we have been living our own lives since we got married. The same is true after giving birth. I try my best to make money and make my life better. Then I take care of the children myself, so there is no contradiction with my mother-in-law.

My husband and I have a marriage rule: help each other in the same boat and live a good life. At the same time, we should control our parents and maintain a relatively stable relationship. Parents have to listen to us. Respect our young couple's ideas.

Of course, if the economy is well off in the future, my husband and I may have a simple wedding and invite friends from both sides to have dinner. It is enough for everyone to talk and laugh together.

I don't value form, but I value two people more.

03

There are many young people who make me feel confused now. They put the cart before the horse and don't understand why they want to get married.

Some young people are getting married, and then they are all booked. The result is that because of a sentence or a bride price, I don't get married willfully. All I said was that I cared about face, so how could I end up like this? I think what you should consider clearly is why you want to get married and what you like about this person, rather than getting married in a muddle.

My marriage with my husband is very simple. Got the certificate, no wedding, no bride price, no ring, so I married myself in a hurry. I don't care about the bride price, it's not that I can't make money myself. At the beginning of the bride price, my husband gave me 30 thousand yuan symbolically. I knew it was his own money, and then I gave it to him when I had no money to buy a house.

Maybe many people will call me "posting backwards". I don't think so. I think getting married means starting our own family. If two people work together, why not do it the other way around? Moreover, after marriage, he can't afford to support his family alone, because we live in a city with a house price of 30,000 to 40,000 yuan. Only two people work together and share it accordingly, this family will be good.

I earn more than my husband, but so what? We should work together in Qixin to make this home better, which is our common goal.

If young people want to be happy after marriage, it is better to be simple and pay more attention to how you two get along, whether you can get along and whether you can support yourself. I think this is very important.

If the economy is not independent and you want to make your own decisions, I don't think you can make your own decisions. Who told you not to be independent? There is a saying that "if the economy is not independent, all your arrogance is fart"! That's what it means. Eating people has short mouth and short hands.

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Can you accept getting married without a wedding?

This should be based on your own actual situation. If you are a strong-minded person and have never spent any money on your parents after work, you and your partner are both making their own decisions, and you don't want to have a wedding. If you are not an independent person and have to rely on your parents' help, then you have to listen to your parents whether you want to have a wedding or not.

Personally, I think it's quite troublesome. A friend of mine worked in a foreign country, and then he held three weddings, one in the city where he worked and settled, which was the wedding of his friend and colleague, his mother's family and his in-laws. It's troublesome anyway. I have been married for several years. Weddings are held in three places, and it takes several days at a time. Finally, he said: "I finally finished the wedding, finally finished."