Every time I have sex with my boyfriend...it's really painful

Fundamentally speaking, sexual intercourse is actually a "release" process of sexual energy. When sexual intercourse is of short duration and of poor quality, the sexual impulse energy accumulated in the body has not been completely "released", and the body has a need to expel the "surplus" energy. Therefore, the refractory period at this time is relatively short; in a long and high-quality sex life, because the accumulated sexual impulse energy has been satisfied and completely "released", the body will no longer The need for sexual intercourse again. What is most needed at this time is rest and recovery of the sexual system. Therefore, the refractory period at this time is relatively long. The male-specific refractory period is a "protective program" in which the body "temporarily shuts down" the sexual system in order to facilitate the recovery of sexual system function. Forcibly increasing sexual stimulation during the refractory period and forcing yourself to have sexual intercourse again is to overload the sexual system. What's more, it is not conducive to the recovery of the sexual system. In the long run, it is easy to cause sexual function damage and sexual dysfunction. Female genitals need better protection. A famous obstetrician and gynecologist once said: "Female reproductive organs are hard-working and troubled organs; if every woman can protect her reproductive organs, the average life span of women will be significantly extended." As a wife, reproductive organs How to protect the reproductive organs of his wife, who is in contact with the organs, is an unshirkable responsibility of every husband. Sexual life after marriage is a way for couples to express their feelings. Both husband and wife, especially the husband, must be polite and win each other's consent, and must not be rough or forceful. Rough behavior not only hurts feelings, but sometimes even causes injury. The most common injury site is the woman's vaginal wall or posterior fornix, which often causes severe pain and massive bleeding. Therefore, from the perspective of loving and caring for his wife, the husband should read books about sex before marriage, understand and master some basic knowledge of sex, and treat his wife with special tenderness during sexual intercourse for the first time. The preparation time should be long to arouse the woman's sexual impulse. . Former Soviet sexologist Loginov said: The beginning of sexual life has a greater psychological and physiological shock to the woman than to the man. Therefore, if he behaves roughly, then the first sexual intercourse (let alone subsequent sexual intercourse) is likely to make the woman feel unsatisfied and even cause her unhappiness. The man must consider that psychologically, the first intercourse is almost always about the woman giving in. Young men should also heed Balzac's advice: "Don't let marriage start with violence, because often after this legal violence, the wife will be disgusted with her husband for a long time. The wedding night should be full of tenderness and romance, especially undressing and flirting. Make people feel friendly. These behaviors of the man can reduce the woman's restraint and stimulate her desire for sexual intercourse. "If the wife feels pain during sexual intercourse on the wedding night, the husband should move more gently and not insert the entire penis into the vagina. , if the hymen ruptures during sexual intercourse, causing certain trauma to the woman, sexual life should be suspended for 2-3 days to facilitate the recovery of the bride's wound. In addition, the new marriage should be determined by the woman, and the menstrual period must be staggered. If it happens to coincide with the menstrual period, the husband must protect his wife and try to avoid having sex during the menstrual period. During the menstrual period, the wife's endometrium sheds, causing fresh wounds to form in the uterine cavity. If she has sex and does not pay attention to hygiene, bacteria may be introduced into the vagina, causing endometritis, adnexitis and other reproductive organ inflammation, and even some In humans, inflammation of the fallopian tubes causes blockage, leading to infertility. In addition, it may also cause menstrual disorders, such as increased menstrual flow and prolonged menstrual period.