How to comfort a husband who has cancer?

Shortly after marriage, if the other half is seriously ill, I think that as a husband and wife, it is important to stick to love and adjust their mentality and accept the reality.

Learn to accept

Patients will feel pain during the anti-cancer process such as examination, surgery and chemotherapy, and their emotions and behaviors often fluctuate greatly. As partners, they should learn to accept.

Learn to encourage

Avoid reproachful encouragement, such as "Don't worry too much, please be modest" and "I know it's painful, please be strong". These seemingly encouraging words often send negative messages to patients. Try positive encouragement, such as: "Don't worry, I will always be with you", "I know you are sad, can you talk to me?" And "If you want to cry, just cry in my arms and I'll be by your side" and so on.

Learning nonverbal comfort

Through appropriate physical comfort, such as patting the back, hugging and shaking each other's hands.

Comfort with appropriate expressions, such as smiling and gazing deeply.

Learn to adjust your emotions.

The pressure on the partners of cancer patients is not less than that of the patients themselves. Therefore, in addition to caring for and accompanying patients, we need to learn to adjust our emotions, try to avoid showing panic and tension in front of patients, get along with patients more peacefully and help patients calm down.

Give patients an outlet to release their emotions. Allow patients to express their feelings and thoughts. Listen to patients' voices and give them more care. If the patient's bad mood cannot be alleviated, please accompany him/her to seek the help of professional medical staff.

Give yourself an outlet to release your emotions. As lovers and caregivers of patients, they will face psychological and economic pressure. It is easy to produce negative emotional and psychological problems such as depression, anxiety and insomnia. Just like a person trapped in a mire, it is impossible to save another person trapped inside. Therefore, partners also need an outlet to relieve bad emotions and stress.