How to evaluate the phenomenon that some treasure mothers have no job and take care of their babies at home full time?

How to evaluate the phenomenon that some treasure mothers have no job and take care of their babies at home full time?

1. Being a full-time mother is a great career in itself.

Why do so many questions always equate to no job and no money as long as they mention full-time mothers? Isn't this a short-sighted prejudice? Isn't it a better career to be a full-time mother?

First of all, stay-at-home mothers are not unemployed. Stay-at-home mothers take care of their children, educate them, take care of their families' lives and let their husbands work with peace of mind. It is equivalent to being a housekeeper and nanny, and the work it is engaged in is a great cause in itself.

In foreign countries, many countries advocate mothers to take care of their children as full-time as possible, which is not only conducive to the growth of children, but also conducive to the formation of a more sunny and cheerful personality, which is very helpful for the future growth of children. Only by educating them well from an early age can they make corresponding contributions to their families and society. Many stay-at-home mothers abroad can enjoy longer maternity leave, and full-time care for children is recognized by family, friends and society. Being a full-time mother is a great career.

Second, why are stay-at-home mothers not understood?

On the other hand, in China, as described by a popular circle of friends recently:

Women in China exist like gods. Isn't this all forced by life? A large part of the reason why stay-at-home mothers are not understood is that their families are "poor" and they are accused of not going out to work without money.

When discussing that stay-at-home mothers only take their children without working to earn money, have you ever considered that giving birth to children is a woman's business? If there were no children and all women went to work, there would be no so-called stay-at-home mother. Shouldn't men be responsible for taking care of children? Both husband and wife are distracted from their work, and the children take time off for minor illnesses and pains. Is the company run by itself?

For example, my child has been hospitalized with pneumonia these days, and the mother in the same ward is also a full-time mother, taking care of the sick child 24 hours a day and staying in hospital for at least seven days. If you are a working mother, have you taken so many days off? Do you have that much energy to take care of the children? Without a full-time mother, what will the children do?

A woman's choice to be a full-time mother is entirely a matter for a small family couple. According to her own situation, whether the family is rich or poor is a small family's own business, isn't it? Everyone understands each other, and society will be more harmonious.

More and more women choose not to get married just because they don't want this life of taking care of their families and striving for economic independence.

Third, children need their mothers' company, and stay-at-home mothers should be respected, supported and recognized.

The so-called wife and children, in a marriage, the most important thing is that a woman can get love, followed by having children and being a full-time mother, which is the result of negotiation between husband and wife. Whether a woman chooses to go to work or take care of her children full-time, it is a small family matter, and there is nothing to spray. She is willing to go to work after giving birth, and she is willing to accompany her and live a good life.

Is a stay-at-home mom free? Is a stay-at-home mother a representative of incompetence? Wrong, some stay-at-home mothers not only have high academic qualifications, but also have strong abilities. They choose to accompany their children because they are responsible for them. Children need company when they are young.

It is really difficult for stay-at-home mothers to take care of their children. While encouraging the birth of a second child, should the state praise those stay-at-home mothers who have given birth to a second child in response to the policy? How to evaluate that Ma Bao doesn't have a job to take care of children at home? The concept of intergenerational education in China is increasingly unacceptable to young people, and there will be more and more stay-at-home mothers in the future. When asking mothers why they should stay at home full-time to take care of their children instead of going out to earn money to support their families, they should ask themselves why they should have children even if they can't afford the company.

I won't go to work after giving birth! To tell the truth, it's hard, and it's tiring to take care of the baby, although it's gratifying to watch him grow up and become smart! But stay-at-home mothers have to take care of the baby, occasionally buy food, do laundry and cook, clean the room, clean up the garbage, bathe the baby, and live. So I lost weight after giving birth! Baby drinks breast milk and needs a light sleep at night! I hope my husband helps at home on Saturday and Sunday, but sometimes the baby just doesn't talk to his father! This is physical fatigue! Then there is the economy, buy that and buy this. I used to be alone, making my own money and spending whatever I liked. Now I see beautiful clothes, but I don't buy them! I became reluctant to part with it, but I still bought a lot for my baby! Economic independence sometimes leads to the embarrassment of asking your husband if he wants it! Mentally, I have become very motherly, but when I calm down, I feel very empty, and no knowledge has entered my brain! No one knows himself! Husband is ok, considerate! Some stay-at-home mothers are very tired, and no one knows that it is comfortable to take care of children at home! Salute to all stay-at-home mothers. Women are weak, but mothers are strong! Everything will get better gradually, I believe!

How to evaluate the phenomenon that some treasure mothers have no job and take care of their babies at home full time?

Isn't the child born without it and thrown away?

Do you think Ma Bao doesn't want to go out to work?

Do you think Ma Bao likes to take care of her children at home full-time without a job?

Do you think every treasure mother likes the day when she reaches out and asks for money?

This question is so funny!

When I was a child, I could be alive and kicking without raising it!

Have a baby of your own. If no one brings him, you must bring him up diligently!

No one, not parents, was raised by a handful of shit and urine!

Where in the world do people grow up for nothing?

Do you think that stay-at-home mothers don't like to go to work happily, drink coffee easily and talk about business with laughter, mainly because the child has not grown up and he is relying on you? Shouldn't we give him love, care and care?

There is nothing to talk about this phenomenon, let alone comment on it. Everyone has his hard times. Just cross the future!

Some were brought by my parents, some by my grandparents, and some were not. You must bring them yourself. There are exceptions to everything, and we can't generalize!

I hope my answer can help you, thank you!

Stay-at-home mothers will answer this question. My daughter is one year old and a little over three months old.

My husband works in other places, and my in-laws are in the countryside. Because the house is still being renovated, I live in a relative's house. The house is very old, and the background explains it.

At first, I ate two meals a day, but it was too late. After three or four months, I crawled, always dishonest and afraid to leave my sight. Even so, my daughter often falls down, which is related to her personality, lively and active. When she was awake, I did nothing but stay with her.

When she sleeps, I have to clean the house, wash clothes and cook for myself. You know what Ma Bao lacks most is sleep. Because I take her alone, I can't sleep with her. I feel in a trance. I feel more than five years older than before I gave birth.

You should hold it when you go to the toilet and when you cook. Anyway, you are particularly dependent on me.

I can stand all this. The most unbearable thing is that she is ill. She has a fever of more than 40 degrees during seasonal flu, and she vomits yellow water in the middle of the night, which makes people twitch. My voice trembled with fear and I had to comfort my daughter. It's okay. Don't be afraid, baby. My mother is here. Actually, my hands are shaking.

I have had a fever for several times and stayed up all night. I am afraid of this and that. After all, there are too many accidents.

Some time ago, my husband came back and had a great contradiction with him, mainly because of his performance. I know it's hard for you to be outside, but you still go home like an uncle and don't help with the children. I must spare my energy to take care of him.

He thought that the child was one year old and could walk by himself. It doesn't take much effort to take care of such a child. I really broke down.

After the quarrel (mainly when I was mad), I told him this sentence: "You work hard, but you can rest and have a good sleep after work. You can quietly lie in bed and play with your mobile phone after work, and there are still four days off work after one month." Really can't. If you are bored, you can change your job. "

But I can't. I take care of the children 24 hours a day. No matter how late the child wakes up, I have to get up and take care of her. No matter how busy the child is, it is the first thing to do. Hold her to wash clothes, cook and go to the toilet. She cries when she is unhappy, and people who have never experienced it don't know that kind of despair. I really want to scream and vent, but you can't, you can't scare the children.

If you really take care of your children, you will know where the root causes of depressed mothers are. I can understand that they died with their children. "

I also took her to decorate the house, knowing that it was not good for her, but there was nothing I could do. I also took her to work. Yes, I'm working now to help my friend. She allows me to take her, and she has prepared a bed for me at work so that the children can sleep. By the way, my friend is also very good. The eldest son is now in the middle class. He has been carrying the ball for four months and will be promoted to the nanny of two children at the end of the year.

Grandma and grandma have their own reasons why they can't help, and I don't want them to help now. I went through the hardest time, and now I don't need their help.

Grandma in particular shows that she likes my daughter very much now. I don't feel so happy. It's fun to be over one year old now. I even sometimes think that I shouldn't let her see my daughter just because of what she and the smiling tiger did.

But children need all kinds of affection. I can't deprive my daughter of her love for her grandmother, but I don't like her grandmother, very much!

How to evaluate stay-at-home mothers is on the one hand the evaluation of stay-at-home mothers themselves, on the other hand the evaluation of families and on the other hand the evaluation of society.

Maslow divided human needs into physiological needs, safety needs, social needs, respect needs and self-realization needs.

I'm afraid many stay-at-home mothers only stay in the first two items ... The last two items are hard to satisfy.

Stay-at-home mothers' evaluation of themselves is often fluctuating. Unless they have strong self-confidence, they will not be overwhelmed by great pressure.

As a full-time mother, I have a master's degree, studied different majors and worked in different fields. In the early stage of pregnancy, she simply resigned and became a full-time mother because of the rejection of pregnant employees by the work unit.

From pregnancy to childbirth, I have been working as a part-time translator. Although I don't have much money, my actual work has not stopped. At the same time, I have attended various classes for pregnant women and read parenting books.

The feeling of being a full-time mother during this time is that being a full-time mother is a "thankless" thing. Nothing can really crush me at work, but being a stay-at-home mother, what's more, my body suddenly declines and my mentality is on the verge of collapse many times. Self-recognition and evaluation are also like waves of ups and downs. Fortunately, it is now in a relatively objective and stable state.

1. During the four months after delivery, I usually focus on parenting problems and family parenting contradictions. I don't usually have much time to think about self-evaluation at this time.

Four months after delivery, this is also the time for working mothers to return to work after maternity leave. Stay-at-home mothers still stay at home. If they don't find suitable jobs for the time being, there will be more and more family conflicts.

From then on until the child is over one year old, it is a low tide period for self-evaluation and others' evaluation, and others' evaluation will greatly affect self-evaluation.

As children grow up, all kinds of housework will gradually pile up on them. If you take care of your baby with your family, there will be more and more contradictions. It would be better if you took care of the baby yourself. After children can run and jump, it takes a lot of skills to take them to cook and do housework to ensure their safety.

On the one hand, stay-at-home mothers and children are caught in a sudden and serious lack of sleep and physical exhaustion. On the other hand, due to the characteristics of young children, even if they have been cleaning up after their children's buttocks, the home may be chaotic and will be accused or accused by their families.

Stay-at-home mothers may have been academic tyrants, elites in the workplace, or they may feel at ease. However, with the change of postpartum hormones, trivial housework and family members' incomprehension, stay-at-home mothers will have serious low self-evaluation:

Family members' evaluation of stay-at-home mothers is lower than that of working mothers.

I have to admit that in this world, only what is visible will be remembered.

Stay-at-home mothers pay for the invisible things: health, sleep, energy, good mood and time. ...

But the harvest is also invisible: seemingly okay home, less sick babies, and scientifically raised children. ...

These invisible contributions and incomes are far less memorable than the wages of their parents. The longer the time goes by, the faster the invisibility will be forgotten, and everyone's mind is only the salary earned by his father. Therefore, the contribution of stay-at-home mothers is often equal to zero in the eyes of family members, and may even be considered as a drag on the family, especially from married with children.

In fact, society does not recognize the contribution of stay-at-home mothers.

For example, in Japan, a husband must buy a pension for his wife, and a housewife can get a pension for free.

In European and American countries, there are many subsidies for full-time mothers and children, low-income and single-income families.

There are also some countries that provide all kinds of training for stay-at-home mothers and public welfare jobs that make money in the short term.

In some places, the rights of stay-at-home mothers are not protected by law, but the government encourages husbands to buy old-age insurance for stay-at-home mothers.

1. However, we have to admit that our society still has the impression that stay-at-home mothers are idle, supported by their husbands and pampered. If a stay-at-home mother shouts tired, most people's reaction is: "You stay at home every day and say you are tired!" "

In terms of security, it is "zero".

Social security, old-age insurance and stay-at-home mom are all broken. Whether to equip full-time mothers with insurance to solve their worries depends entirely on their husbands' wishes. Even if my husband is insured, he can pretend to be a benefactor: look at how good I am and think more about you.

2. In addition, there is no external support, but more understanding.

However, in our life, the work of stay-at-home mothers is not only disrespected, but even eating more fruits, buying more boxes of yogurt and buying more clothes will be criticized as "extravagance and waste", and spending money indiscriminately if you don't make money.

Behind a stay-at-home mother is actually an abyss.

So, what we see most now is that stay-at-home mothers are racking their brains to make money while taking care of their children's housework:

Whether it's selling diapers, doing live broadcast, writing, teaching yourself to draw, doing translation, doing all kinds of part-time jobs that can make money at home …

Each of you may also have a stay-at-home mother like this. Although I will block some WeChat business mothers in my circle of friends, I really respect their efforts in my heart.

In this world of walking on thin ice, many stay-at-home mothers know that only relying on themselves is the only guarantee and way out.

I'm glad to answer your question. It is normal for full-time mothers to take care of their children at home, because of family needs and personal choices, no matter what the reason.

Stay-at-home mothers can better accompany their children.

Stay-at-home mothers may regret it in the first two years and struggle with themselves, but when they see their children's dependence on themselves and their healthy and happy growth, they will feel that everything is worthwhile.

It is lucky to have old people to help with children, but there are many problems in intergenerational education.

Many parenting experts have made it clear that it is more beneficial for mothers to take care of their children until they are three years old. There is no psychological barrier between children and mothers. Mothers have psychological control over their children, and they are more restrained when their children are in adolescence.

Stay-at-home mothers can temporarily give up their professional life for their children.

A woman's five years are also precious. With unremitting efforts in the workplace, she can have more money and rights, even her own career. But there are still women who choose full-time mothers because she wants to accompany her children better; Because she doesn't want to miss the process of accompanying her children to grow up; Because she chose family in her family and career; Chose children in children and career. In fact, it is a spirit of giving and self-sacrifice, which is better for your small family.

Being a stay-at-home mom may be the most dangerous job, but being a stay-at-home mom is even more amazing.

In China, stay-at-home mothers have no actual protection and generous remuneration. Unlike in Germany, Japan and Canada ... even the new marriage law has made more women afraid to be full-time mothers. But these are all tests for women to choose husbands. Choosing a husband who is not worried or even irresponsible may be a devastating choice for a stay-at-home mother. However, women are strong when they become mothers. Many women will still choose to be strong and stand up for their children after experiencing the waterloo of marriage. Women's endurance and perseverance are brought into full play in desperate situations. Although hard, they firmly believe that there is no way out.

Many husbands are trustworthy.

In fact, many men are out of a sense of responsibility; Family pressure; Or public opinion is very responsible for the family. China's parents also take care of their children's small families, especially the children's marriage, childbirth, divorce ... these major events, the elders will actively participate. How many children divorce on TV makes parents angry; In reality, how many times do parents sit together and "talk" about their children? Many times, it is for the sake of children not getting divorced.

Men in China are also more family-oriented, and now they respect women more and more. Many stay-at-home mothers can control the family economy and live at home.

In any case, being a full-time mother is a woman's choice, which deserves respect and can be understood.

I used to be a mother who had no job and stayed at home for nearly 2 years. These two years, the mood is really complicated! From the initial relaxation and boredom to fear, I am afraid that I will derail from society and find my own value.

After taking the baby to 10 month for weaning, I choose to give the baby to my in-laws to help take care of it and go out to work by myself! But after working for a period of time, I especially hope to have more time to take care of my baby at home. This is indeed a very tangled and helpless thing, but it is also a stage that every mother has to face.

I think it depends on the specific personal and family situation to take care of the baby at home full time.

1, see how your work is.

If your working hours are free, such as Taobao shopkeepers and self-employed, your time is free and not subject to too many constraints. It is natural to take care of the baby at home full time, killing two birds with one stone, which is enviable. If you are an office worker and can't take care of your children at work, you can only quit your job and take care of your children at home. I think it should be understood. After all, there are still opportunities for work, but children only grow up once, and a 0-/kloc-0-year-old baby needs mother's care and care.

2. Look at her husband's attitude.

If you have a husband who loves you, understands you, and is willing to accept your decision, and will not abandon you because you have no job and no income, and can understand the hard work of taking care of your baby at home and the family conditions are ok, then there is no problem. What's wrong with sacrificing one's time to take care of a child's growth?

3. See if there is anyone at home who can help with the children.

If someone at home helps with the baby, it is usually in-laws, which is the best; But for those who don't have in-laws, Ma Bao can't go out to work, so she stays at home to take care of the children. It's not too late to come out to work when the children are older.

In addition, for those full-time nannies at home, even if they have two or three children, or take their babies to kindergarten, I really think they are great, because such full-time nannies, their daily life is not easier than your work, from eating, sleeping, going out to play, buying food, washing and cooking, cleaning up housework, learning and counseling ... One day is really a day. Not everyone can work as a full-time BMW. You know, it's not cheap to ask for a new moon or a nanny now. 8,900 1 20,000 a month is also available! Therefore, give more understanding to stay-at-home mothers, understand their hard work and understand their last resort.

Finally, I want to say that for a family, accompanying children is the most important thing. Full-time home care for the baby brings healthy growth and happy growth to the child, which all money and material can't be exchanged. Of course, treasure moms should not lose the pursuit of self-worth and the realization of life goals. They should spend a little time constantly improving themselves, learning and making progress through various channels, and then come out to work when the time is ripe. After all, a good mother is the best example for children to learn!

I've been a stay-at-home mom myself for over two years.

Since the child was born at home.

Will assume this sacred responsibility.

From the initial nervousness to dealing with his bad situation now.

I don't know how many sad memories I have experienced.

Consider it a snot and a tear.

But every time I see my baby snuggling up to me happily and warmly.

I think it's all worthwhile.

In today's society, more and more people are willing to be full-time mothers. Stay-at-home mothers are really hard, but I think time with children is precious, and no amount of money and honor can buy it. But there are also many people who don't understand stay-at-home mothers.

First of all, they think that stay-at-home mothers are of no value to society.

Many people don't understand or even look down on stay-at-home mothers. They think it's chic and enjoyable to take care of children at home without going to work. In their eyes, only those who work are the hardest and make the greatest contribution to this family. Once I was said by my husband's cousin, "I really envy you for having a good time at home." You are so happy. We are so busy at work every day. " Hearing this, I almost collapsed, and the sky turned gray in an instant. ...

Secondly, they think that children can grow up in any way.

The older generation thought it was so hard and raised several children. They think that the way young people raise their children is too complicated, and they don't trust the way mothers raise their children, which leads to frequent conflicts.

1. Full-time mothers sacrificed their youth for the healthy growth of their children.

Mothers sacrificed several precious golden years to accompany their babies to grow up. If they can definitely improve a lot in the workplace, their social circle will become smaller when they have a baby. They are willing to go around the pot every day, study various nutritional recipes for their babies, and deal with the unreasonable demands of their ancestors. They have to accompany the baby like chicken blood when they are physically and mentally exhausted. They just want the baby to grow up healthily and happily.

Being a full-time mother is the most difficult job in the world.

I am busy washing clothes, cooking and doing housework every day. You take care of him in front and make trouble in the back. After giving birth, if you haven't recovered, you should hold the baby. Give him a hug even if his wrist hurts badly. More than two years have passed, and your back pain has never been better ... Your spirit is always tense, and you can only relax when your child is asleep ... Postpartum depression makes mothers emotionally unstable, and family members' doubts and incomprehension occasionally make them burst into tears ... All kinds of sadness can only be understood after experience.

It is also a contribution to society for stay-at-home mothers to train the next generation.

Many older generations can't adapt to the new generation of parenting methods, so many mothers have to take care of their babies for their children. Mother will teach her children to be polite, take care of them in a scientific and correct way, and study with them. Most of the children taught by mothers are excellent, and now many mothers make money while taking care of their babies. Such a mother deserves more respect.

Writer Tang's short stories are good;

All mothers are great, and the position of full-time mother is sacred and hard. I hope more people in the society can understand and respect stay-at-home mothers.

Although I am also a treasure mother, I think it is more difficult for my husband to make money. Ma Bao is not so easy, but compared with those who make money at home, it is not as difficult as it is said. The hard part is that in recent years, when your children go to school, you are alone in the world. You can catch a TV series without going out to participate in social competition. It is cruel to rack one's brains to find ways to make money.

Don't take care of children as a reason to give up self-growth. Ma Bao is easier than making money, but it is also dangerous. It's true to have a sense of crisis all the time. Besides taking care of family and children, how to survive is the most difficult thing in Ma Bao.

Questioner, what does unemployment mean?

Since it is described as "full-time", then this is work!

Excuse me, do you know what full-time is?

That is, there is no dead angle in 360 degrees, and the mind is always on the baby;

24-hour rotation, feeding, sleeping, teasing, washing and wiping;

365 days without public holidays, shopping, cooking, laundry, cleaning.

Talk about weekends, holidays, paid vacations, not saving existence!

Well, since you are at home, you have no financial resources, you are called and you don't work to earn money.

Please, if life is not forced, which woman would like to lose her job, give up her ideal and go home to take care of her baby full-time?

They are also smart in the workplace, doing well in design, writing good articles and talking to a group of good customers!

For various reasons, they chose to return to their families and take care of their babies full-time.

Just because they became mothers.

Okay？ I heard that you are not convinced?

Come on, let these mothers return to the workplace, try to hire a nanny or a baby-raising sister-in-law, and refresh your face immediately!

The monthly salary is even 2-3 times that of you;

Work 22 days and 8 hours a month.

Do I have to work overtime in accordance with the law when I meet holidays? Pay double!

Cooking, laundry will make up, taking care of the baby will be sloppy, and spending money will be fun.

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Let's list these first. If we talk too much, I'm afraid my blood pressure will be higher.

Please respect every mother who works hard for her family and children!

Please be kind to your wife who has paid for you!

Taking care of the baby full-time is the greatest job in the world, no one!