It is often said that you only have one daughter, and you will regret it when you get old. Really?

Grandpa Guo, 58, was hospitalized for surgery. During the preoperative examination, his only daughter wanted to accompany him, but he said to her, "I've thought about it, so you'd better not come." So he propped himself up, with an oxygen tube in his nose and an oxygen bottle in his arms, and went to the queue for inspection.

Grandpa Guo, 58, has only raised one daughter. After his wife died, his daughter became his only relative in this world. Some time ago, he needed to be hospitalized for surgery because he had pulmonary bullae. So one morning, my daughter sent grandpa Guo to the hospital in a big bag and a small bag.

As soon as the father and daughter arrived at the hospital, the daughter went to go through the hospitalization procedures for Uncle Guo. But just as she paid the hospitalization fee and helped her father clean up the ward, she found her father hiding in a dark room in the hospital and secretly eating melon seeds. Uncle Guo, who was caught by his daughter, looked at her like a child who had made a mistake. He confessed to her: "I quit smoking recently, and you won't let me smoke, but I feel uncomfortable if I don't smoke. I can only get rid of my addiction by eating melon seeds."

When my daughter saw her father's excuse, she was angry and laughing, and she was helpless. Although she was really tired running between home and hospital these days, she gently advised her father not to eat more, and said that she would buy him some dried plums to eat.

After she settled her father in the ward, she had to leave the hospital in a hurry because there were two children waiting for her to cook. In the afternoon, the company has something to do. She had to go back to the company to deal with her work, and then Uncle Guo stayed in the hospital alone.

When the doctor came to make rounds, he saw Grandpa Guo lying alone in bed and asked his daughter why she didn't take time off to accompany him. Hearing the doctor's question, Uncle Guo was silent for a while, and then said helplessly, "She is really difficult. As my only daughter, she is under too much pressure. I have delayed her for a lot of time these days, and I have to ask her if the company is going to dismiss her, and there are still two children in her family to take care of. Even her in-laws are not in good health and need her care. "

After listening to Uncle Guo's words, the doctor sighed slightly. As an only child, he expressed empathy for the helplessness of Uncle Guo's daughter. He knew that Uncle Guo's daughter was not unfilial, but cowardly.

In order to comfort the uncle, the doctor chatted with him in a relaxed tone. But chatting, Uncle Guo tentatively asked the doctor two surprising questions. He told the doctor that he had given up smoking and wanted to find something to eat. He asked the doctor if he could eat melon seeds. Then he asked the doctor if he could drink it.

The doctor said helplessly with a wry smile, no, there is a lot of sugar in melon seeds, so you can't eat more. Alcohol contained in wine is extremely harmful to human body. I will have an operation the day after tomorrow. Uncle Guo has coronary heart disease, so I must not drink alcohol.

When the two chatted, Uncle Guo suddenly began to cough violently, and the whole person felt unable to breathe. He quickly leaned down and spit out the trash can on the ground. The doctor immediately went forward to check and help pat the back. After a while, Uncle Guo finally recovered. Although breathing is still a little difficult, he is much more comfortable than before.

After calming down, Uncle Guo told the doctor that he wanted to eat melon seeds and drink, not because he was greedy, but because he was too lonely after his wife left. Because I have no other hobbies at ordinary times, I like to smoke a cigarette and drink a little wine, but what I never expected was that this hobby almost ruined his health and dragged down his daughter.

Later, after the doctor left the ward, Uncle Guo was left alone in the huge ward. He fell asleep alone in the middle of the night with illness.

The next morning, the medical staff came to consult Uncle Guo before operation and asked him how he felt. Uncle Guo told the doctor that he was still panting badly and wanted to take a walk, but he couldn't eat every two steps. To make matters worse, he has two tests to do today.

Speaking of these two examinations, the doctor said that the examination must be accompanied by family members and can't go alone. When Uncle Guo heard what the doctor said, he dodged a little and his expression was obviously dull. He really didn't want to give his daughter any trouble, and it was not easy for her, but unfortunately, he found that there was no one else he could turn to for help except her.

Finally, in desperation, Uncle Guo had to ask the doctor's family when they needed to come over. He wants to take advantage of his daughter's time to have an examination as soon as possible. The doctor said it would be better at 10 am. If it is afternoon, it may take a long time. Let Grandpa Guo call and ask.

After the doctor left, Uncle Guo struggled for a long time before dialing his daughter's phone and telling her that the doctor asked him to have an examination and needed his family to accompany him. No one can accompany him to do color ultrasound, and he also said that the doctor suggested that it is best to come in the morning. After receiving the phone call, my daughter also promised to come over and said that she would come early, but her words also clearly revealed a trace of helplessness.

However, after putting down the phone, Uncle Guo fell into deep remorse. He looked out of the window alone, quietly wiping his tears. He hates his body for failing to live up to expectations, and he also feels sorry for his daughter's need to work, support the elderly, raise a baby, raise a car and buy a house. Why did he get sick when his daughter was under the greatest pressure?

After a period of fierce struggle, Uncle Guo dialed his daughter's phone again and said to her, "I think it over, you'd better not come, and come back after the operation."

In this way, Uncle Guo propped himself up that day, with an oxygen tube in his nose and an oxygen bottle in his arms, and went to queue up for various inspections. His body moved with difficulty, and he stopped to catch his breath every few steps. At this moment, Uncle Guo also hopes that his daughter can accompany him, but in order not to disturb his daughter, he would rather bear these pains alone.

On the day of the operation, accompanied by his daughter, Uncle Guo was sent to the operating room and received successful treatment.

This is the biggest sorrow of the only child. Parents are lying in the hospital bed, and children can only lie in the address book.

In fact, many only children in life live separately from their parents. Children work hard outside, and parents become empty nesters at home. If she is an only child, almost 100% of her parents will become empty nesters when they are old. Because my daughter is married, it is impossible for her parents to follow her to live in her husband's family, unless she can't take care of herself.

What is the result? For children, when they wake up every morning, they are surrounded by people who rely on themselves. They can only rely on themselves, but they have nowhere to go, which is very stressful. They dare not die or get sick. When they were young, their parents loved you 100%. When they grow up, you are 100% responsible for your parents. For parents, when they wake up every morning, the house is empty everywhere, and endless loneliness comes to mind.

If parents are sick, children can't stay with their parents all the time because of work and family reasons. They often only bear the economic expenses and come when they have to be present. This is very pity for elderly parents, who are too old to go to the hospital.

Uncle Guo is the most typical example. He has only one only daughter. Even if she is hospitalized for surgery, her daughter can't stay with her all the time because of her various pressures. Only when it is very necessary can he call her.

The biggest sorrow of the only child is that the old man is ill and no one takes care of him. Your parents are lying in the hospital bed, but you can only say hello on the phone. If you are an only child, this problem may be more prominent, because the woman may marry far away, so it will be more difficult to fulfill the obligation of accompanying her parents when they are sick, and they can only communicate by phone.

This problem can't be solved even if you have money, because you are their only close relative in this world, and no one can replace you. Even if you have the money to hire a nurse to take care of your parents, you can only help them in life and action, but not comfort them emotionally.

Only one daughter, will you regret it when you are old?

Only gave birth to a daughter, will you regret it when you get old? I dare not say that I will regret it, but regret is definitely a high probability. As I said before, the biggest sorrow of the only child is the problem that the elderly are ill and unattended, especially after the death of his wife. If he is an only child, this problem may be more prominent.

If you only have one daughter, you will only regret not having another child when you are old and sick and unaccompanied. If you don't regret it, you can only wish yourself that you don't need to be hospitalized for a lifetime. But it is human nature to be born, sick and dead, which is something that almost everyone will encounter, unless you die of some accident when you are old.

Therefore, when people are young, don't think about relaxing. Raising a child, or even just a daughter, is enough. Trying to relax when you are young is to lay the groundwork for the pain of old age. If you only have one daughter, you should be prepared to be an empty nester when you are old and be ill and unaccompanied.

Having one more child is actually good for both children and parents. For children, the responsibility of providing for the aged in the future will be much smaller. Rich people can pay more, and people without money can contribute more. For parents, one more child means one more reliance, and the fault tolerance rate is greatly improved. One child is unreliable, so you can rely on another child so that you won't become a lonely old man.

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People who have only one daughter will probably regret it when they get old. If you think you won't regret it, you are still alive and kicking, not sick, and your wife is still here. When you are old, your wife dies, and you are ill, you will know the sorrow of raising only one daughter.

Therefore, I suggest that those who have the ability and conditions to have children and raise children when they are young, it is best to have one more child and not let the child become an only child. This is actually much better for children and parents.